Baffled by sudden ghosting

[Forfucksake84]

I went on a second date last week with a guy I've been chatting to for 3 months. The last date was actually 3 months ago but I wasn't sure If I liked him after the first one. I kept meaning to meet up with him again but then things kept coming up on both our ends. He was 2 hours late turning up last week but other than that the date went well and I found I was surprisingly attracted to him this time. I invited him back for a cup of tea after a few drinks and we had a bit of a gropey kiss before we left and he asked when I was next free so I said this weekend. He's been chatting normally all this week. On Thursday he sent me a dick pic, saying I think you would have done a lot more than copped a feel if I'd stayed much longer. I replied saying that I was turned on but that I don't usually go all the way on a second date, and that as long as he didn't think I'd invited him back for that reason. He said absolutely not at all, he'd never assume that, but that he'd just got carried away. I texted him on Friday night saying 'it's OK I'll let you off lol. How was your day?' and he just hasn't replied or opened the message. No mention of the date we pencilled in or anything. He's been consistent with communication for the last 3 months! Any thoughts? I'm so baffled and so sick of this flakey confusing behaviour from men. It just makes my head spin

You were supposed to salivate over his beautiful cock and invite him right round. When you didn't he lost interest.

Bin!

Delete and move on.
He wants sex .

That's what I'm thinking. Do you think there was anything wrong or frigid in what I said? I was keeping it quite lighthearted and friendly. I've told him that the last guy I was dating disappeared as soon as I slept with him, and he said tht just gives the decent guys a bad rep and that he wasn't like that and prefers to build things up slowly. They are literally ALL the same. I'm really losing faith...

Anyone sending a dick pic after 2 dates (or ever imo) is certainly 'like that'
Good riddance

What's disappointing is he hadn't turned things remotely sexual for the whole 3 months we were chatting so I assumed he wasn't like that. Are you sure I'm not just being prudish? Stuff like this really makes me question myself and everything I have said

Of course you didn’t say anything wrong or ‘frigid’.. You’ve only met the guy twice ffs. Unsolicited dick pic at any time is a bit grim ime, but before you’ve even seen it in the flesh? Vom. Think I would have replied ‘nah don’t like the the look of that it’s a weird shape’ & blocked.

You’ve met the bloke twice in 3 months, he turns up two hours late then sends you a dick pic and you wonder what you did wrong? Oh come on, he’s not exactly Casanova is he? He’s looking for a shag and he knows 99% of women he turned up late for then showed his dick what have blocked him immediately. Two giant red flags that you’re ignoring

And btw it’s illegal to send an unsolicited dick pic.

No I didn't hint that I wanted a pic at all. He did it because he was saying if he'd stayed much longer I would have done much more than 'cop a feel '. As he briefly got it out when we were kissing

I find it quite worrying you use misogynistic language about yourself. Prudish and frigid are derogatory sexist words used by men to put women down . Its sad to hear women using them to describe themselves.

I do think you need to raise your bar and stop accepting low effort men otherwise the cycle will keep repeating itself. It’s clear as day this bloke isn’t a good prospect so why are you wasting your time?

I did briefly touch it as the kiss was getting quite intense. Re the lateness he said he had stuff to sort out and then he got stuck in traffic. I think he was late on the first date as well though. He lives 40 mins away. It's a shame because I did quite like him on the actual date

Ughhh why do they think you want to see their wrinkly nob ????
Block and forget

He's done you a massive favour.

I can't believe you think this guy is a catch.

He was late twice, sent you a picture of his willy with a cringy message then ghosted you, He sounds rubbish.

Probably on some register somewhere and the police have checked his phone. Think of it all as a blessing and block him.

Cand beleive he sent you a dick pic with a message saying basically you were gagging for it , and couldn’t have resisted his dick, and you didn’t just block.

cmon op. Raise the bar. The guy just wants a shag and isn’t interested, and he doesn’t think highly of you.

move on.

He’s looking for a shag and he knows 99% of women he turned up late for then showed his dick what have blocked him immediately. Two giant red flags that you’re ignoring

100% this. If you want better then raise the bar. Chatting for 3 months isn't a good sign as someone interested will want to meet you ASAP and it create a false sense of "relationship". Remember you know nothing about this man, other than what he tells you. It was a risk to invite him to yours, did you let someone know?

He briefly got it out as you were kissing?? 😳

If he’s ghosting you, you’ve dodged a bullet. That and the dick pic are just odd. He sounds obsessed with his own knob!!

Anyone who sends a dick pick AT ALL is just after sex. By all means, feels free to subtly ask for one, or blatantly, but any guy that willingly volunteers it is trash in my eyes.

Exactly!

No you're not being prudish.
Dick pics are disgusting.

He was just playing the long game

Anyone who sent a dick pic would be ghosted by me. You barely know the man. He sounds shallow and only after very casual sex. Ew