Baffled by sudden ghosting

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I went on a second date last week with a guy I've been chatting to for 3 months. The last date was actually 3 months ago but I wasn't sure If I liked him after the first one. I kept meaning to meet up with him again but then things kept coming up on both our ends. He was 2 hours late turning up last week but other than that the date went well and I found I was surprisingly attracted to him this time. I invited him back for a cup of tea after a few drinks and we had a bit of a gropey kiss before we left and he asked when I was next free so I said this weekend. He's been chatting normally all this week. On Thursday he sent me a dick pic, saying I think you would have done a lot more than copped a feel if I'd stayed much longer. I replied saying that I was turned on but that I don't usually go all the way on a second date, and that as long as he didn't think I'd invited him back for that reason. He said absolutely not at all, he'd never assume that, but that he'd just got carried away. I texted him on Friday night saying 'it's OK I'll let you off lol. How was your day?' and he just hasn't replied or opened the message. No mention of the date we pencilled in or anything. He's been consistent with communication for the last 3 months! Any thoughts? I'm so baffled and so sick of this flakey confusing behaviour from men. It just makes my head spin

You're right I do need to raise my standards. The reason they're so low is probably because there seem to be literally zero decent men about. Plus it has been nice having someone to chat to for a few months before his behavior suddenly changed

Oh god OP, you'd be better on your own than putting up with this sort of shit.

Good riddance. If I were you I would raise my standards. He sounds grim and you are blaming yourself when you should be pleased to be rid of him.

Honestly. These accounts of dating nowadays makes me look back with nostalgia to the embarrassed, awkward, repressed, fumbling days of my youth 🤣.

99% of men are complete ass holes.

Sending you a dick pic? How old is he? Jesus you would expect that from 20 odd year olds. Why do men think we want to see a picture of their shrivelled dicks they are the most ugliest things in the world FFS! Hey babes we met twice and I was late both times look at my junk' 🤢 as soon as I get a pic like that I'm put off straight away. Women don't send pussy pics soo why do they think it's ok to do that?

Blokes a wrongen just wanted sex and because it got a little heated thought he would get it. Dick pics for me are beggy, defo missed another prick here. Block and move on.

Keep the bar high and don’t let these weasels make you lower your standards or question if there’s something wrong with you because you don’t want to be pumped and dumped. Block him and move on.

If its your jam as a couple. Or if you ask and he agrees.

It's never OK to just send one without a conversation around it or permission.

Technically, it's a crime.

They make these choices. But better alone than with someone who doesn’t see you as a whole person. Do you do any activities (even walking a dog) where you might meet someone organically?

Thankyou all for your responses. It's nice to know you all agree with me and that my response was normal. I feel like I'm going mad sometimes

Tea doesn’t neutralise alcohol.

So he’s a tardy, drink-driving pervert. Ew.

He sent you an unsolicited Dick Pic? You didn't ask him to? 🤨
Twat.

You aren't going mad no! I think with OLD some women have never experienced enforcing a boundary and having the man stick around. The only way to have somebody around is to declare that you're a sure thing. it's a very damaging to a persons sense of self.

Op, raise your bar. Late on both dates, then sent a dick pic? Nah he’s not it. Block and don’t look back cos he will be back when the next date doesn’t work out.

Op with all kindness in the world you sound terribly naive. Take better care of yourself!

Sorry but the reason you’re attracting shitty men is because you’re accepting dreadful low bar behaviour and questioning if you’re in the wrong.

Men acting like twats is not a reason for you to drop your standards into the gutter.

I only brought him back because he'd had 3 beers and was over the limit to drive so I was trying to help him sober up with a cuppa

Another red flag! A drink driver who could have harmed someone. He knew he was over the limit and didn't care.

Men only indulge in this bad behaviour because some people give them chances. Stop wasting time and energy on useless men.

He did say that 'next time ' he would only have one as he was shitting it all the way home as he knew he shouldn't have been driving. Just another thing he got carried away with I suppose.

It's good that you are taking PPs' advice to heart. The most important being to raise your bar and do whatever it takes to be happy on your own. Your posts scream desperation and that's highly likely to lead to situations that are not good for you or downright dangerous.

You would probably benefit from counselling, but these books might also be useful:

• Women Who Love Too Much by Dr Robyn Norwood
• The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Barden
• Attached by Levine

I find it this so depressing why is the bar so low 😅😫

'Next time'? Because a drink-driving flasher is a prize catch. You are so well out of this!

Stop making excuses for this wrongun and don’t let there be a next time

I can’t believe he whopped out his floppy pee-pee while you were kissing.

2 hours late OP? Honestly yo need to start respecting yourself . Apart from the other seedy grubby stuff . Ick ick ick. Block and move on and thank the stars he showed you who he is before you got sucked in. Set some ground rules for yourself from now on. Imagine you are a celebrity or someone "important" - which you are by the way!! - do you think they would wait 2 hours on a flimsy excuse . Start treating yourself how you would like to be treated. The universe will respond I promise

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It’s really big though! Why aren’t you impressed?!

Unsolicited dick pics are a sex crime. Report his revolting ass to the police, block and move on.