Does anal sex need explicit consent?

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2 month relationship.

Man and woman have consensual PIV sex. Is it acceptable for him to have anal sex with her without asking first?

Woman would not have consented if asked beforehand but did not stop him.

Is it fair for him to assume the woman will say no if she doesn't want it?

Woman had never had anal sex before. Woman is also a CSA survivor but he didn't know this.

Explicit consent required

Is it acceptable for him to have anal sex with her without asking first?

No more so than having PIV without asking first

God yes. Absolutely.

No, absolutely not ok without discussing it first. Sounds like anal rape to me. Hope you're OK

This is rape.

Of course!

This is horrific.

It's anal rape, isn't it?

Oh my dear god........

Do you seriously have to ask?!!

Explicit consent. Ideally prior to starting sexual activity.

Of course you ask! It’s incredibly intense, needs prep and is often not ok for a lot of women. Someone would have to be quite thick not to know this.

Also, this might sound naive but could this happen by accident? Lying down, 'spoon' position. Could it have been a mistake?

Any sex requires explicit consent.

Jesus no it's not ok to do that without consent! Anal sex ALWAYS needs explicit verbal consent first due to the inherent risks involved. Did this happen to you? Are you ok?

I feel it needs more of a consent conversation than vaginal sex.

The woman needs to get the tools to be able to speak up and say no. I would hope that she would have noticed what was about to happen in the first place and said no not for me, but either way, always always consent sought.

No!

Every and all acts towards someone else require explicit crystal clear consent. Of all kinds. Verbal and physical.

Also this. I hope this didn’t happen to you op. I’m so sorry if so.

Even people who think you can infer with piv should know that anal is a different ballgame completely.

He did it without asking because he knew you’d say no if asked.

In a new relationship, each new sexual act needs discussed and agreed in advance. Then you agree what needs explicit consent on an ongoing basis.

No

That's what we call rape.

Jesus, no!

Any sex needs clear consent. Any new sex act needs explicit spoken consent!

Putting his cock in one place is not consent to stick it in any orifice.

He doesn’t understand this as he’s a porn wreckage.

Absolutely not accidental (although my ex husband used to claim the same crap).

Could a man "accidentally" insert his penis into an anus?

No.

Impossible.

It is rape.

How can you accidentally do it? any man will know that it’s a big deal or he’s watched too much porn and is very stupid. Even if the latter, it is not ok. He needs to learn that rape is not ok.

No.

Never.

I suspect that anal sex is harder to action than vaginal so that means it is even more impossible to be a mistake.

What am I even reading, this is horrific.