Where are the middle class, middle aged single men?

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I'm late forties, widowed and thought I'd be single forever. I've got used to it. But, somewhat annoyingly, it turns out I would like one last try at finding love again before I give up altogether. I want someone who keeps fit and is a bit cultured and has a reasonable amount of money to spend on going out. Not because I'm a snob (though I probably am) but because none of my friends like the theatre, the ballet, the arts, etc that much and I really miss having someone to do these things with.

So, where will I meet this mythical creature? Is there such a thing as a high end dating site? Where does he hang out? I've thought of life drawing class and tennis club (both activities i want to try anyway). Any other ideas?

Sorry to state the obvious but the ballet or the theatre ? Is there some sort of club ?

I would think that most of the good ones and happily married. That is the reason the pool narrows a lot at middle age.

If you discover where they are, give us a shout, I can do with a good one for a change.

I would say there won't be too many of those about, maybe some who look like gargoyles.

I reckon a high end speed dating at a more expensive part of town/venue might be worth trying.

I dated a fair few men in my 20s (who would now be in their 40s) who were into art, theatre, music, opera etc. All of them were metallers. I met them in metal pubs and clubs or at gigs.
They were so open to trying new things and making the most of experiences. A couple had MAs in English. Some had studied music. Most were well read and intelligent yet fun and not arrogant. Many played instruments (guitar, piano). But it was the fact they would be openly enthusiastic to trying new things. I had a great time. Most ended up with good jobs too.

God knows, but quite a few of the married ones are on Bumble, so watch out if you use a dating app. I'm giving up.

I know most are married but there must be a few remainders! Or widowed ones like me? Or divorced but not because they were unfaithful slobs?

Hmm... I'm not aware of a ballet club teeming with hot single men. Maybe amateur dramatics though?

I wouldn’t expect life drawing to be a good hunting ground. The ones I go to are predominantly female, with a couple of gay men for balance.

They're shagging the 25 year olds.

That sounds deeply scary and way out of my comfort zone! But maybe that's a good thing.

Golf clubs, cycling holidays, rugby matches.

🤣 That's not the type I'm looking for! I want someone who would find the very idea distasteful.

Good luck op.

You are unicorn hunting - middle aged AND single AND cultured AND not looking for a 25-year-old. They will be single for about 37 seconds so timing is everything.

That'll be why I've not met one yet...

I wouldn't hang out at one of those just to meet a man.

Yes, I fear you're right. I'll have to be very on the ball, as it were. I wonder if I have the energy...

😀

Working class people can appreciate culture and enjoy artistic pursuits…

Well a lot of them are married. I’m not sure about “happily” though.

Honestly, if they’re attractive and successful they’ll be dating younger women. Maybe not 25 but a lot will be aiming for between 10 and 15 years younger. I’m 30 and actively looking, most men around my age are dating women in their 20s. I seem to be attracting late 30s and over or early 20s looking for a “MILF” 🙄. Good luck OP, I hope you find what you’re looking for!

Shagging around with younger women.

How about Classic FM dating?

I'm not aware of a ballet club teeming with hot single men

Various theatres have membership / friends programmes that have special events. Most of the hot single men at those seem to be gay, though, for some reason.

@YoungBritishPissArtist Yes, I knew someone would say that. You're right. But I couldn't be more middle class if Johnnie Boden himself bit me on the bum (I don't actually like his clothes but you know what I mean). I guess I'd like someone similar.

Not similar to Johnnie! Similar to me in tastes etc.