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Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

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StuckInPollyannaMode · 11/11/2022 09:52

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures Grin I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

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EsmeGythaMagrat · 11/11/2022 11:20

Ah Polly, it’s good to hear that you are still around. Not so good to hear that G is still an arse but really not surprising.
hoping you manage to get through the work craziness and it’s inwards and upwards for you and the dollies in 2023.

EsmeGythaMagrat · 11/11/2022 11:21

Onwards and upwards even… 🙄

MyfavouriteisA · 11/11/2022 11:55

Great to see the new thread, Polly.
You are a fabulous example to show how positivity, determination and playing the long game is worth it, even though it’s been through gritted teeth, tears and various lows.
Onwards and Upwards!

Honeypickle · 11/11/2022 12:10

Lovely to read your news! Here’s to better things going forward! And good luck x

Strictlyfanoftenyears · 11/11/2022 12:54

Oooh need to know what the foundation is, doublewear is pricey but i love it.

oobeedoobee · 11/11/2022 13:09

So glad to hear the march continues relentlessly forwards, despite the many obstacles placed by Geller ! (I keep thinking of a pair of army boots, with the song 'These boots are made for walking' running in my head ! 😂)

I'm sure the Dollies are growing fast, they always do 😁👼

And one of these days, those boots will indeed 'walk all over' him ! Probably when either you or the Dollies get married ! 😂

pointythings · 11/11/2022 13:23

That's actually a fabulous update after the lows of recent weeks, well done getting your teeth into everything and biting down. You will get that divorce, and I am crossing everything I have for your life changing opportunity to come off. You deserve it, and oh wouldn't it be one in the eye for Geller!

Not dating and focusing on the self care is the best thing you could possibly do, so keep it going. Your house will get done, DD1 will settle down again - it's so hard when they're ND and have one chocolate teapot parent, but she has you and you're epic.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/11/2022 19:25

I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for the work opportunity!

As for Geller - may his crotch be infested with the fleas of a thousand camels, and may his arms be too short to scratch them.

FightingFatAt49 · 11/11/2022 19:28

Lovely positive update Polly
Best of luck with the work project! By the end of this thread the divorce will be finalised.
💐

Mummapenguin20 · 11/11/2022 19:29

❤️

comfortablyfrumpy · 11/11/2022 19:31

Oh Polly look how far you have come - you rock!

Here's to being able to open the Divorce Tattinger 😀

Starlin · 11/11/2022 19:37

Good luck Polly. Here's hoping that this is the thread of tattinger and the ring. You and the dollies really deserve it.

Feministwoman · 11/11/2022 19:42

Starlin · 11/11/2022 19:37

Good luck Polly. Here's hoping that this is the thread of tattinger and the ring. You and the dollies really deserve it.

Sounds like it should be a Wagner Opera!

Newestname002 · 11/11/2022 19:47

Thanks for the update dear @StuckInPollyannaMode. You sound incredibly strong but if you're fakin' it till you make it, even more power to your elbow.

One day Geller will be largely irrelevant to you and your girls and maybe to the next poor woman who comes into his circle. You, however, are gaining every day, even though some days are hard.

Hope your mother has moved further away .. 🌹

RandomMess · 11/11/2022 19:51
Flowers

OMG wait until you are 50 and all foundation make your wrinkles look worse 😭

shutthedamndoor · 11/11/2022 21:06

Hello Polly, just wanted to say how lovely it is to hear your news, you were missed xxxx

Grumpusaurus · 11/11/2022 21:54

Yay! Been following the whole saga through quite a few name changes😀This is now like the last lap in a marathon race. Eventually, you will hit that finish line!

Pashazade · 11/11/2022 22:33

Glad to hear you're moving ever onwards and hopefully upwards! Kids change so much at their age don't they. But learning to make you a cup of tea is a definite win. I had to steel myself to ds learning to use the quooker tap at age 9, he can do it but I was terrified. Keep on keeping on. FlowersFlowers

billy1966 · 11/11/2022 22:34

RandomMess · 11/11/2022 19:51

Flowers

OMG wait until you are 50 and all foundation make your wrinkles look worse 😭

A make up artist told me to put the foundation down the middle third of my face an move it outwards.

Similary with powder, only down the middle of my face.

As natural and as light as possible as you get older.

It was good advice.

StuckInPollyannaMode · 11/11/2022 22:47

It’s lasted well today - work, walk, tip run - big trial tomorrow as out all day - will report back!

Geller is KOKO being a twat. Know how much you all appreciate his messages so here you go with tonight’s gem re DD2’s ballet exam practice:

I’m going to need your log in details to access the dance school website for this music. To sign me up is too complex.

My reply:

I think you mean please may I have.

And no you may not.

Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas
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HazelBite · 11/11/2022 22:48

Hope the work thing goes well, it sounds exciting!

pointythings · 11/11/2022 22:51

To sign me up is too complex??? How does this alleged man get his pants on the right way round in the morning? I've really heard it all now. Your response is perfect.

Feministwoman · 11/11/2022 22:58

He really is the gift that keeps on giving, isn't he? 🙄

Beancounter1 · 11/11/2022 22:59

Have you bought yourself a jasmine plant yet?

BornBlonde · 11/11/2022 22:59

Well done Polly on sticking to boundaries with him

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