Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

Hi, have not been on here for absolutely ages.

Hope all is going well with you

I often wonder how Polly and the Dollies are doing. I hope they are all thriving.

Oooo, I saw there was an update on this thread..
Me too Polly, it's ramping up to Christmas, So I hope you & the girls are thriving.
(What happened about the schools ?)
& that Westley has proven not to be a cad ?

Yep, saw this and really hoped there was an update. Hope you're well @StuckInPollyannaMode and that the kids are thriving x

Hello my lovelies

How is everyone? Sorry, bit late to the party, been a lot going on and not been on MN much. So touched to be remembered.

Firstly, and most importantly, the Dollies are thriving. Secondary school isn't without its wobbles, but I'm immensely proud of them. And yes, I got them into the school I wanted - won that battle with Geller! DD1 is struggling with the social side of things and her anxiety, but is doing very well academically. DD2 is off and running with the social side but needs to focus more on her studies!

Still in my little house and had quite a bit of work done this year. Patio and new path is in, I'm waiting for the plastering to dry so I can paint, and I've had a new shower put in. We're ready for winter and hunkering down! Work is going well too, I've been asked to be a mentor on an industry board which is great and I'm really enjoying.

Westley. All was going exceptionally well until the end of August and since then it's all fallen apart. I'm ok, it's over and I'm glad we gave it a second shot. At least now I know it wasn't going to work, he's not my one who got away. The Dollies and I have had a couple of fantastic holidays, I've done a couple of triathalons and learnt to ski. No regrets.

My mother. Continues to be her own special person! Many boundaries are in place. My dad is doing well and pottering on.

Geller. Still a twat, but very much at arms length. Still turns a button falling off into an oscar-worthy drama. Still dating the same lady, still hasn't introduced her to the Dollies, still denying his culpability or any accountability in what happened.

I have my health and my Dollies and my career and many fabulous friends. I'm in a good place and I know I always have the power of MN behind me. I think of you all often. I'm still pondering whether to write that Guide to Divorce I have in my head!

Lovely to hear you're doing so well Pollyanna and life is on an even keel.

So good to hear your update

So glad the 2 of you are doing well. It's been onwards and upwards for you since Gellar really

Brava ...... I'm so glad that mostly all goes swimmingly.
Geller will not change ! Forget him as far as possible 😃

So glad you are all doing so well. Cozy home, happy DDs, strong healthy you!

I'm glad that Geller's antics have now been reduced to 'eyeroll territory'. And I'm sorry it didn't work out with Westley, but at least you have no unanswered questions.

Hope you and DD's have a wonderful holiday season.

What a wonderful update, you had gone from strength to strength and it's been a privilege to "observe" from the sidelines.

Wishing you the most wonderful festive season.

What a wonderful update! Amazing the dollies are now in secondary school. Time really flies.

As @RandomMess said it is a privilege to observe the epic battle you went through, and how although it was awful, has been totally worth it for a new life.

@StuckInPollyannaMode Aww Polly, what a lovely update! So glad to read you and the Dollies are thriving. Have a wonderful Christmas and I hope the New year bringy you all much happiness ❤️

I am really pleased it is all working out in the end. You are doing great!!

So pleased you and your girls are doing so well. You must be very proud of you all xxx

So pleased that you're doing so well. Isn't it funny how the kids are polar opposites of themselves - one is academically capable but not enjoying the social aspect and the other thriving with the social aspect and not enjoying the academic side! They'll turn into wonderful women because you are there being their rock!

Have a wonderful Christmas and New year!

Thank you so much for letting us all know how you’re doing.

Sounds as though you’re in a good place, hurrah !

keep going and with Christmas just around the corner I hope you enjoy and have fun

Lovely update @StuckInPollyannaMode sounds like you and the Dollie's are in a good place... all the best going forward!

I don't post on MN anymore (realised that despite the many good things, it was ultimately quite toxic and unhelpful and a gigantic waste of time - for me) and after deleting the app, occasionally browse the web version and do often wonder about certain posters, and their stories that resonated with me - chief among these being Polly! It is wonderful to read this update, your 'journey' (hate that over-used word but can't think of better!) matched some of my experiences in many ways, but your zest for new adventures, ability to make and see happen really significant life-changing experiences, including dating, were so impressive to me and provided me with motivation to consider some new possibilities might be out there for me! Thank you for sharing your lovely news and delighted all is well.

Thinking of you still @StuckInPollyannaMode ! X