Polly and her Dollies are counting down to Christmas

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Hello my lovelies

Is this going to be the thread where I finally get divorced? Will my Ring of Fabulousness ever be worn? Will the Divorce Tattinger be drunk?

I bloody well hope so. It's been a very long time coming.

Here we are again. In the main headline news... I'm still not fucking divorced from Geller. I've had to sign an affidavit for the absolute application to say yes, I want to proceed, because it's taken so bloody long.

The Dollies are amazing, brilliant and pains in the bum in equal measures I can't believe how much they're growing up. For Christmas they want to learn how to make me a cup of tea for my present. I'll take that. DD1 hasn't had a good couple of weeks, not helped by me having a whole load of work done in the house so things here have been a bit chaotic. DD2 has been off school poorly with D&V, poor little mite.

Geller remains an eejit who is unable to put the Dollies first. The shenanigans have been unbelievable and of true Geller quality levels. I am rising above. And doing a lot of deep breathing. My parents have now moved house and my mother is being her usual self. I've distanced myself quite a bit. I did help them out for a day but that's it.

I'm becoming addicted to exercise again and have graduated to the fast lane in the swimming pool, hurrah. I've survived several spin classes and even treated myself to a new pair of trainers. My gardening is coming on nicely (I'm very good in autumn with slash and burn, I can do destruction) and I've now got my new shed up.

Work is insanely busy and I'm on the edge of a new possibility which will, if it comes off, be life changing for me and the Dollies in terms of security. It's going to be a crazy few months but I'll give it all I've got.

I haven't heard from Westley since I threw my toys out of the pram with him wanting to still be friends and message me randomly - no. I'm too good for breadcrumbing and I've got enough friends, thank you. I'm not dating, not planning on dating and finally feel like I'm starting to move on. But it's not a priority for me right now, although I do really miss cuddles. And sex!

Perhaps most excitingly, today I am trialling a new foundation. It's supposed to be a dupe of Estee Lauder's Double Wear, which I love, but I just can't justify the cost of for everyday wear.

As ever, if you're still following me, thank you. Without MN and you all I wouldn't be where I am today.

He’s just trying to undermine you/your relationship with them (such as it is)

he’s trying to get to you, he’s trying to pull you back into his drama

god he’s sad. Your short shrift responses are better. You’ve had some lengthy exchanges recently, that’s probably why the insomnia is back. I used to use words like I was giving away money when it came to ex, only spend when absolutely necessary and as little as possible 😊

re foundation- is it quite heavy? I’ve got into the tinted moisturiser and lately have a ByTerry CC cream which is divine!

He can get the address from others, he’s just poking you because he knows what effect it has. Ignore him

Lazy sod, he can ring them directly and get the address if he needs to. Just ignore

Tell him that your parents have requested not to pass their new address on to him!

^^This. It doesn't even merit a response. He is trying to push your buttons.

Played a blinder.

I told DM tonight that if she wants Geller to have her address then she needs to contact him and give it to him, seeing as how they are such good friends.

she has told me that once the absolute is through and we are “legally broken up” then she will no longer exchange presents nor information with him

Believe that if you will.

(Can’t remember who asked but no, the foundation isn’t heavy, it’s quite lightweight, but you can build it up. I’ve gone onto that from CC cream that wasn’t quite doing the job anymore)

Geez your DM is weird.

So separating, filing for divorce, new house, new partner none of that matters just the absolute

Why? Does she still hold hope that you’ll see sense and go back or does she just want the gifts? Either way, F.I.T.H. (F’ed in the head.)

Honestly your mum has the oddest thought process here. Either way, she can share her address and Gellar is in for a shock when the absolute comes through!

So weird, what an absolutely amazing Christmas present it would be for you to have this all finished by Christmas, what are the chances?

No offence but your mom is as odd as two left feet. Honestly I would ignore them both.

@purplecorkheart Is right… I think they both use each other to try and get a rise out of you. (Similar personalities. You married your mum, @StuckInPollyannaMode 😱)

Oh wow, Geller is in for a hard bump… all that investment into trying to make you feel undermined… all gone in a puff of smoke 💨 >poof<!

you could sell tickets for when that one drops.

say nowt, do nowt… make it count… he deserves it.

she’s as calculating as he is. I hope you can actually see that she’s the reason you married him. She conditioned you.

I do hope the divorce is over and done soon!

Op, I've been following your posts for a while and just found this one. 2023 has to be your year! Re the insomnia could it be peri menopause? I'm 42 and the insomnia is horrendous 😔

Hope the Scarlet fever has cleared and the quarantine was successful. Hope Polly’s Dollies are both well and happy and Polly is coping with Christmas shenanigans.

Hello from a very snowy part of the UK!

What a couple of weeks it has been. Where to start…

Am still not divorced. Application for absolute made by my solicitor on 4 Nov - anyone know how long it’s taking to get through? That would be the best Christmas present ever!

The pensions company can’t transfer his pension to my pension as they have NO RECORD of my pension. That would be my main pension, that they have been sending me statements on for over 15 years. Something else to sort out.

I’ve been horrendously poorly. Had my smear a couple of weeks ago. Ended up with Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. Avoided hospital by the skin of my teeth. Intramuscular antibiotic injections, ridiculous amounts of drugs, you name it. Can’t drink for another 2 weeks (happy dry Christmas!) and generally been bloody awful. My darling, dearest mother has suggested I got this from being promiscuous. Then asked me to sell 7 light fittings on FB for them.

In the midst of all this we’ve had a family bereavement and Geller has continued in his Gellerish way to be a dick. My friends have been amazing. As have the Dollies. Got super emotional the other day doing the tree with them. They really are growing into the most squishable and amazing human beans.

Caught by surprise last night to open a parcel from a courier to discover it’s from Westley. A Christmas present, a bottle of gin from the distillery we visited on our first weekend away together. He’s back in the UK this week and I’ve chosen not to see him. Can’t decide if he’s being manipulative or if he’s trying to be friendly. Either way, it’s free gin I guess! But did stir up a lot of emotions.

As I’m so behind, today is a big push on getting stuff sorted, presents wrapped, and the house in some shape of order. Lying in bed with the cat, watching the snow falling. Think I’ll read my book for a little while longer…hope everyone is doing ok.

Please tell me you’re not all ready for Christmas!! I’ve just the stockings to do and a book to order and I’m done. I think. Oh, and a bonsai tree to find.

PS mumps vanquished - Dolly 2 still has a slightly puffy face but much much better, she did manage to do her ballet exam!

What a rollercoaster.

I hope you are feeling better v soon.

Your mother, words fail me. Is NC now the way to go?

For the Absolute, it may take a while. If you haven't already supplied a statement explaining why there is a gap between Nisi and Absolute, you will be asked to. With this, I applied for mine in Nov, sent the supporting statement in Dec as soon as it was requested, and got my Absolute in Feb.

Good luck!

Oooh and congrats to DD on doing her ballet exam. I hope she is feeling better.

Gosh Polly, really hope you're on the mend good and proper that sounds awful!
Your mother really is something.
I think regarding the gin as a nice free drink is the way to go right now, you have more than enough on your plate, the mind boggles at how they can lose your pension given how much paperwork they tend to drown you in.....then again at least you have a paper trail!
So glad the girls are being amazing and that mumps is on the way out.
I'm doing an early family visit next week so panicking about having everything I need to take with me present wise! Can't help on the bonsai front (ours always died, we never seem to have quite the right place to keep it sunshine wise) but there is a lovely bonsai shop in Brighton on Sydney Street is you're ever this way.
Sort of jealous for snow but also not, too many places to go today, definitely jealous of the cat keeping you company ours only ever does that when he wants food! 😁

Just wanted to nip in and make you feel a little better. I have done nothing to get ready for Christmas yet! I have no idea how it got so close so quickly.

I hope you feel better soon.

Your mother is truly ghastly.🙄

That sounds awful! Your mother needs to have some karma bite her hard in a very uncomfortable location, what an absolutely dreadful thing to say!

You will be pleased to hear I am not ready for Christmas - I still have presents to get and we are not having a tree because on balance it is not safe to have one in the house given that one of my 4 cats is a hyperactive climbing monster beast. So an alternative is planned.

2023 will be the Year of the Absolute and you will be able to drop Geller like a hot spud.

My darling, dearest mother has suggested I got this from being promiscuous

God she's a joy 😳

Oh to make you feel better, I have done nothing towards Christmas yet.... it's a couple of weeks away, no need to panic ....