I tried to leave OH last night and ended up back home!

[tiredandfrumpy]

Last night felt like the final straw for me however I ended up back home. It all started by me asking for the phone charger so I can get a bit off charge so I can set my alarm so I can't get up in the morning.

He wanted the charger back after 5 mins so wouldn't of been enough charge! This spiralled buy him pushing me of the bed into the wardrobe. Screaming in my face.

I packed mine and the kids things up managed to finally get past him and get them into the car this is when he shows me that I'm no longer on the car insurance he took me of weeks ago and forgot to add me back. Ive been driving round for weeks with no insurance. I ended up driving round the corner and just sat in Asda car park baring in mind this was 3 in the morning.

I came home at half 5 now I'm WFH on 2 hours sleep I'm so angry but I managed to get myself a charger so he no longer has that control over me now.

I just want out!! I'm so desperate my poor poor kids having to witness this shit all the time. It's my payday today so he goes to be hanging round me like a fly on shit.

I need to make a plan and leave this weekend as I'm off work but I have no where to go.

[dublingirl66]

People can be so kind in these situations

Reach out

Get out ASAP

These abusers snap so quickly and often the kids are in the firing line

[OnceUponAMidnightBeery]

Agree with what everyone else has posted, look for local community groups on Facebook, freegle, always worth posting for what you need, you’ll be amazed what turns up.

And it’s worth looking on fb for a local dog fosterer too, I’ve taken in a few for people moving/escaping dangerous situations but Wales is probably a bit far for you!

[Nomnomarrgh]

Good luck. Dd the other day reminded me of when we came here. I’d totally forgotten that we had nothing. You get things, like local charities actually exist to fill up a flat with things so they are livable.

[Kory1]

I'm presuming the council have given you this flat as emergency accommodation?? So why are you not going to stay there? There will be other families that desperately need a place, and won't care that it's unfurnished. They will just be happy to have a roof over there head. If you don't want it let someone who needs it have it

[pickingdaisies]

Back off Kory1, the OP DOES need it. She's just in a bit of denial and, probably, shock. She's scared.

[stinkystinky]

Is there anyone at work you can trust? Please if you can tell someone there you need help. We have a support email for domestic abuse, have you got anything like that? People will want to support, ask for unpaid leave for when you make the move even if you have to. We also have advance loans? Might help with a deposit.

[dublingirl66]

Fwiw I attempted to leave 20 plus times

Often went back when he rang me
Went back sometimes and said so sorry to him

It is hellish

Please stay safe

Get out as soon as you can ❤️❤️❤️

[billybagpuss]

Hope this week goes well

[picklemewalnuts]

Remember it's temporary. You don't want to be moving things all over again in a few months time- just keep it simple.

[Chanandlerbong01]

Hope all is well op

[HelenRose1111]

OP, I have clean spare towels, quilts, pillows, a few pots and pans, odds & sods and am not far from you, would happily bring them to you - save them from gathering dust here.
Please don't delay, now is the most dangerous time especially if he figures out what you're doing

[user1471462428]

Op I know how scary the future is and how horrible people’s attitudes towards you are even though you are currently walking through hell. You can do this and you are stronger than you know.

[Mamatoabeauty]

Have a look at your local community gifting page on Facebook. The generosity is overwhelming. You’ll be able to furnish your place in a matter of days for no money at all.

[Redruby2020]

@dublingirl66 ☺️👌

[LionelMessy]

How did move go OP?