Oh fuck. I think I’ve just found an affair phone

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Well it’s not really an ‘I think’ really, I just have

There was an unfamiliar beeping coming from the coat/shoe cupboard so I went in to investigate and found a phone in DPs coat, a cheap little Nokia with just one contact - a woman’s name

I am home alone with 4 kids trying not to cry but honestly I could throw up right now
Wtf

Have you read the messages? Or is it locked

That’s pretty conclusive evidence Were you at all suspicious before you found it? I’m sorry, you must be in total shock.

Breathe deeply and calm down first. Get yourself together before doing anything rash. I would be tempted to send a couple of vauge msg to try and clarify what it is incase its not. But have you Facts built up before confronting him.
Check the sent texts and see what he has said.

Could you ring the number, do,you recognise the name?

Copy the number down, put it into your phone, refresh what's app and get a profile pic.

So sorry op do u have anyone who could come and help with the kids. Are there any messages or call logs

Well it sounds bad. Could it be a long list sister or daughter? Unlikely but just thought I'd throw it out there.

What do you want to do now? Do you know how you want to handle it?

Agreed, don't do anything rash. Don't question him yet, it gives him a chance to hide things that you may uncover.

So sorry

It isn’t locked no, there aren’t many messages, looks like they’ve all been deleted, they’re all just things like ‘be 20 minutes’ or ‘I’m on my way’ etc
The only one from her is an address from a while ago
There are a few phone calls in the log

It looks like the last time he saw her was on Wednesday night when he’d ‘nipped our to drop something off at his mates’

We’ve never had brilliant trust but it was more things like him flirting to a level that I wasn’t happy with and things like that, I don’t think I really thought he’d ever actually have an affair

Oh sorry x posted with a few of you
I don’t know what to do

Address of where?

No idea, just looks like a house address

That’s the only one in the inbox and it was sent a few months ago
There’s more in the sent box from him so obviously everything in between has been deleted

Omg!
That's a brilliant suggestion with the whatsapp tho! You may recognise her from her picture

I have no advice but just want to say how sorry I am you're going through this!
What a Cunt

I would send a text saying something like. I'm missing you, do you want me to come over later!!
I know it's bad but I couldn't help myself!

Of gosh, you poor thing :( I hate to say it, but maybe a prostitute?

Could it be a sex worker? Sorry its happening to you.

Stick her number in your phone as a contact and then go on WhatsApp and see who she is from her profile pic.

Because of the shortness of the messages, the address etc

I'm sorry OP. Sex worker also crossed my mind

Copy address name and number.
Add number to what's app
Take the SIM out and put phone back
Put SIM in your phone and wait for 1. Contact 2. For him to notice and bring it up.

Sorry op that's awful! I think that's pretty concrete though.

Google address

Also don't put the phone back keep hold of it!
Sorry your going through this 😡