just found out his friend isn't just a friend # 2

[binders1]

Binder army, please find me.

In summary found out 10 days ago OH has been having an affair for the 14 years we have been together and we have one DS 8 yrs. OW is someone he has been sleeping with since college. She is married with 2 dc' s and who knows OH could be biological father of child(re n). She is also someone we have been to lunches and dinners twice yearly where she has acted inappropriately. When questioned OH years ago he said I was mad and denied a relationship except friendship. Found porno photos of them over the decades in the loft.

I don't know what else to say as so much info was in thread 1. I have relied on the support of the old thread. I call them my binder army. Tomorrow is d day, he leaves the house or we do.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2481800-Just-found-out-his-friend-isnt-just-a-friend

Best of luck for tomorrow x

Was coming off the lurkers' benches to post the link to thread 1 but I see Joysmum has beaten me to it. Thinking of you Binder

good luck tomorrow

De lurking to say how impressed I am with the way you are handling all this and I hope he finally acts like some semblance of a man and leaves.

If he won't move out is there space is their enough space for you to ask your DSis or DM to come and stay for a while?
That may make his living at home intolerable and then he may move out?

I agree, could rotweiller stay for a short while. Sounds like a good idea. He needs to take you seriously regarding you and DS staying in the house.

That's a good idea, tableandchairs. Crossing fingers that he leaves without a fuss.

Could rotweillers OH be there tomorrow too?

Thank you joysmum for inserting the link, I've not done a thread before now and wasn't sure how to continue it.

We're with you Binder, your army won't desert you don't worry

Have saved your new thread. Really hoping tomorrow goes well for you.

Hope that your sister can help scare him off tomorrow. Try to get a bit of sleep.

Good luck for tomorrow, I sincerely hope that he has a teeny piece of decency left in him to at least put his child's needs first.

Can Binder's army be called upon to pay a visit or 2 or 3 or 4 ........... now that would seriously piss him off

I'll be there!

Another delurker here wishing you well for tomorrow. Really hope you get to stay in your house

Delurking - Binder, you have been amazing so far and I wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrow

Present and correct!

Good luck Binder, I hope your solicitor helps you.

I hope he leaves tomorrow.

If he does not I would see your solicitor again.

Reporting for duty!

Reporting for duty.

Sending my best for tomorrow.

Snap!

Good luck

I've read your previous thread and cannot believe it! You have done so well and with such dignity in an awful situation.
Good luck for tomorrow. I hope he does the right thing and leaves