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dp is really into prostate massages but it just makes me gag

282 replies

lexiepix · 28/02/2015 07:54

Dh has told me how much he wants me to massage his prostate and it is by far his favourite thing sexually. I've read a lot about it, bought some massage tools, but every time I come to give it a go, I just gag and feel like I'm going to throw up. Has anyone overcome this?

OP posts:
Original poster
lexiepix · 28/02/2015 07:55

That's dp not dh! Not sure how I made that slip up Shock

OP posts:
HermiioneSnape02 · 28/02/2015 08:13

Don't do it then.

Would you ask him to do something that made him gag and feel sick?

I bet the answers no ....

PacificDogwood · 28/02/2015 08:14

Why would you need to 'overcome' it?

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 28/02/2015 08:22

Clearly you don't have to do anything that you feel so clearly uncomfortable doing. How does your partner feel that you have this kind of reaction? Does he still want you to do something for him that is so unpleasant for you?

We all do things 'for' our partners sonetimes, if something doesn't do anything (sexually) for me, but my partner is enjoying me doing it, that in itself can be a huge turn on- but not to the point of me throwing up! If the boot was on the other foot, I would not enjoy making a partner feel so uncomfortable.

Brandnewattitude · 28/02/2015 08:24

Well if it involves 'tools' and the 'prostate' it would be me off too.

PacificDogwood · 28/02/2015 08:26

WTF: 'massage tools?!
How did I miss that? Shock

Have you spoken to him about how it makes you feel?

There must be people you can pay lots and lots of money to do that Hmm

babyiwantabump · 28/02/2015 08:27

Gloves?

AnyFucker · 28/02/2015 08:28

How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen

PacificDogwood · 28/02/2015 08:31

And how would you know that, darling AF, hm??
Philipp looks the type….

Brandysnapper · 28/02/2015 08:31

Can't you just stick something up his mum? You don't even need to look.

Brandysnapper · 28/02/2015 08:32

Unfortunate typo for "bum" there..

knowledgeispower · 28/02/2015 08:32

I keep trying to persuade my dp to let me massage his! No tools on the scene though.

I would find a time when you are both relaxed (in a non sexual situation) and discuss your feelings. Just be open with him.

arlagirl · 28/02/2015 08:32

Are you talking finger up arse?
(Lowers tone)

ZacharyQuack · 28/02/2015 08:33

That's not a nice way to treat a potential MIL, brandy Shock

Hobbitwife001 · 28/02/2015 08:33

So basically he wants you to stick said tools up his arse and wiggle?
Yeah, I'm with you on the gagging on that one Smile
Would he feel comfortable reciprocating? If something makes you unhappy, why feel pressured to do it, can't he do it himself- < BOAK >

Datahub · 28/02/2015 08:33

Just lol.

I am imagining the kind of tools you get with play Doh.

Purplehonesty · 28/02/2015 08:33

Oh no I couldn't. Yuck

Finola1step · 28/02/2015 08:33

This is quite a simple one. You say "I'm know you enjoy it but unfortunately it has the opposite effect on me. I've tried but I really just can't do it and enjoy it. Thanks for suggesting it but I'll leave it there now".

Rebecca2014 · 28/02/2015 08:33

I have never heard of toys you can use! he must be very excited by this that a finger is not enough!!

TendonQueen · 28/02/2015 08:35

Also baffled by the reference to tools. And a bit disturbed by the mention of the Queen. What inside info do you have AF?

Hobbitwife001 · 28/02/2015 08:36

Pissing my sides at "mum" brandy, you never know though, she might be game, Grin

PacificDogwood · 28/02/2015 08:38

The 'mum' typo should enter the "Typo Hall of Fame" Grin

Bakeoffcake · 28/02/2015 08:39

Is it not a bit early in the morning to be thinking about this kind if thing?

Brandysnapper · 28/02/2015 08:39

Well she can do it for him instead, then!
Must say if a partner told me that oral sex made him feel sick, I would be mightily disappointed.

LaurieFairyCake · 28/02/2015 08:40

On any thread that's a bit unusual the phrase "how unlike the home life of our own dear Queen" is repeated.

Grin