to feel a bit gutted that DS primary school is 80% full of chav roughneck parents....

[Boobalina]

I know I am going to get shot down here but hear me out. DS is in reception at our local school walking distance from our house. Various friends of ours (who all live in nicer parts of the city) children all go to their local schools which are ofsted 'outstanding' and full of middle class parents and kids. Now this is what you get when you cant afford to live in a nicer part of the city I know... but every now and then it really guts me. DS went to a very nice nursery and pre-school close to my work which was a bit posh and DD still goes there. But we couldnt afford to send DS there for primary school. His teachers seem really lovely, and really professional - its just some of the kids and parents there.

I went to a nice village primary school and then ended up going to a rather rough comp after and it did me know harm at all. I just wanted a bit more for my kids and also its hard to make friends with some of the mums when they are screaming at their toddlers, smoking lamberts and comparing lovebites (really!)

I am really jealous of my friends....

and they have bigger houses than us....

pathetic isnt it........

erm
yes

you aren't going to make many friends at the school if that is your attitude. who are the other 20% who do meet with your approval? your post is so judgemental and unsympathetic, do you really feel like this? why are you letting your children make friends with theirs?

and you have typed know instead of no so your village primary wasn't that great eh?

meow fishie

I clocked the typo after I posted it fishie - thanks for drawing my attention to it.

So what would you do in my situation then?

Agree with Fishie

go private

has this one kicked off yet?

Fwiw there is always HE. We did that when it was crummy school or nothing.

get a life and try and make friends
I cant stand some of the horrid parents outside my school
BUT you would probably label me as shite and I'm not

you would label me as I smoke lamberts (when I can afford them instead of sterling, I shout at my toddler sometimes (but then dh just died...but you may not know thatm you would just judge)

and when my hubby was alive I may have had a lovebite or two

but I am not chavvy(whatever the fuck that really means)

I love my kids more than anything but I have depressive issues(even more so now)

I also wear weird clothes and crazy hats (accordinly to everyone else)

I dont know
I shouldn't have posted I guess

I just think you need to try everyone incase they aren't as hideous as you think

go private, home educate. or maybe change your attitude. i don't get why you feel like this, so despising the other parents. if it is really that bad then take your children out. but these lovebitten smokers are only other people.

I am friends with the nice 20% of the mums and I do like the school... its just depressing at times. I do talk to everyone at the school gates so dont think I am there with my nose in the air. I do like the area we live in also as its one of those up and coming areas - I'm sure in 5 years time it will have balanced out a bit.

pmsl at Trinity. You still got fab wit!

Trinity - I am sorry to hear about your DH, that must be truly awful for you.

Fishie - I dont 'despise' these people at all. I am aware they are just other people. But SOME of them are not very nice people and its pretty depressing some mornings making small talk with SOME people when they are being horrid to their kids, ignorant and rough. Its like Jeremy Kyle some mornings.

So what happens when your child leaves primary school? Won't he need to get along with others, not just other middle class people...

Balanced out a bit You mean that 'chavs' are priced out of the area and nice middle class people move in?

aaaaargh

sorry but my pet hate is middle class people down on their luck who move into an area they think is a bit "beneath" them and then moan about The Locals/schools/shops/pubs etc.

IME and O this the height of bad manners

I get to chose between ESL or white trash in my area btw! Am I bovered? A little, but only because it is a bit different from where I was brought up.

tbh OP some folks are vile, whatever their position on the socio-ecnomic scale

"Know" instead of "no" is NOT a typo, it is a mispelling.

Typo's are when your fingers make a mistake, spelling is a fault in your brain schooling.

ooh and love the nose in the air mums too ?
A few of them behind me today when i didn't know whether to scream at dd2 to come back (toddler)running to car park or pick up dd1 who had fallen over with bloody knee trying to catch me chasing dd2 chav mum!!! Wish i did smoke!!!! Another label woohoo!
Trinity exactly!

no yanbu - wouldn't like it either

What a silly OP, I can assure you that ny dd despite being from good working class stock is well behaved, very clever and a joy to know. I am far too busy teaching other people's children to be screaming at toddlers, have never smoked and have not had a lovebite for 20 years.

Agree with BALD, but if I had to have vile friends I'd rather they were rich.

Although having said that, my white trash friends are some of the kindest people I have come across in my life.

(btw I don't really see them as white trash, but I can imagine them being judged as such by those odd people wot live in such places as Hitchin - judgy? moi?)

I'm with choccy

and thanks for the condolences

BUT you didn't touch the point I made

Have you tried to get along with the people you think are 'beneath' you?

and your kids need to know how to get along with all walks of life

dont get me wrong, I dont think everyone is nice 'once you get to know them' but shit I woul not be squawking about it here

it makes you sound heartless and rude

Or it could be dyslexia of course, in which case I apologise. [typing one letter at a time, very carefully]

Boobalina, I'll get shot down as well, but you have my sympathy. It's all very well saying that children learn valuable life skills from mixing with people from different backgrounds (and it's true, to some extent) - but it's hard if your child and your own values are different from the vast majority of other parents' and children's.

If you can't afford to move (or don't want to) and can't afford to go private (my solution to all school ills), I think Korma's right - you have to make a point of inviting the children whom you do like, and hope that your son likes them too.

I don't think there's anything at all wrong with 'wanting a bit more' for your children. In fact, it's quite refreshing to hear someone saying that for once.

Fishie, I'm as pedantic as anyone when it comes to spelling and grammar - but your comment was just mean.