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to feel a bit gutted that DS primary school is 80% full of chav roughneck parents....

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Boobalina · 08/10/2009 21:15

I know I am going to get shot down here but hear me out. DS is in reception at our local school walking distance from our house. Various friends of ours (who all live in nicer parts of the city) children all go to their local schools which are ofsted 'outstanding' and full of middle class parents and kids. Now this is what you get when you cant afford to live in a nicer part of the city I know... but every now and then it really guts me. DS went to a very nice nursery and pre-school close to my work which was a bit posh and DD still goes there. But we couldnt afford to send DS there for primary school. His teachers seem really lovely, and really professional - its just some of the kids and parents there.

I went to a nice village primary school and then ended up going to a rather rough comp after and it did me know harm at all. I just wanted a bit more for my kids and also its hard to make friends with some of the mums when they are screaming at their toddlers, smoking lamberts and comparing lovebites (really!)

I am really jealous of my friends....

and they have bigger houses than us....

pathetic isnt it........

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Spaceman · 08/10/2009 22:06

Scottishmummy; you are one of those mums. Or sound like it anyway.

Lilyloooohhhh · 08/10/2009 22:06

Holy i find the shouting at their toddler the most ambiguous tbh
My toddler often runs up the steps / climbs the gates etc, lucky me i got a brave one
I often have to 'have words with her' for her own safety no ?Given she is my no3 my judgy pants are well tucked away so you are ok

Stopfighting · 08/10/2009 22:06

Thanks HolyBumoley ! You said it well to though

Scottishmummy, it is not the smoking per se though is it??

It's the attitude/values/ambition/education.

If the OP should work harder to move etc, should these people not simply work full stop and earn respect? People who claim for a living and are ignorant and ill-mannered have not earned this respect IMO. Quite the opposite.

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Boobalina · 08/10/2009 22:06

Fishie - walk in another womans shoes - they are chav roughnecks some of them - letting their kids stay up to midnight watching horror films, sending them to school day after day in dirty smelly clothes, no coats when its pissing down, screaming at them calling them fucking this and fucking that. Now if that aint roughneck chav, what is?

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LynetteScavo · 08/10/2009 22:07

But you knew this before you sent your DS to this school...

You have several choices here.

Put your child's name down at a school in a nice middle class area.

Get a new job which earns more money.

Get a DH who earns more money.
Win the lottery.

Go and live in a tiny house/flat in cathcment area for nice, middle calss school.

Get your self some friends who don't live in bigger houses and live in nicer areas than you, then you won't be jealous. Try the 20 % of parents who aren't chav rough necks for a start.....

Maybe going to a rough comp did do you harm...maybe you would be earning more if you'd gone to a nice private school.....

silkcut · 08/10/2009 22:07

I look a bit slummy ...sorry bout that

Lilyloooohhhh · 08/10/2009 22:08

spaceman

ilovemydogandmrobama · 08/10/2009 22:08

And I have dogs

scottishmummy · 08/10/2009 22:08

spaceman i dont sound like anything i am anonymous words on a screen.laughing that op posted word "chav roughneck" and wonders why the empathy cup isnt overflowing

FranklyIDontGiveAMam · 08/10/2009 22:09

What does a slummy mum look like? Me I expect. And I didn't even dress dd this morning for the school run (or even change her nappy for that matter) but I once had a very respectable job and my DH is extremely highly educateed.

We chose a slummy lifestyle though because it's people wot count, not what they wear on the school run.

Stopfighting · 08/10/2009 22:10

Silkcut, you are also missing the point.

It's not just about how people look. It's the whole package - lack of education, lack of manners, lack of ambition, lack of work ethic.

fishie · 08/10/2009 22:10

but why the fuck didn't you say what they were doing rather than the labelling and mentioning house sizes? you would have got a very different response.

press the red exclamation mark by your original post boob. op has the right to get a thread pulled and mnhq will do pretty quickly.

Morosky · 08/10/2009 22:11

I actually don't think I have been judgy or unpleasant despite the fact that the OP says that she wants to move away from families like mine and surround herself with the middle classes.

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Boobalina · 08/10/2009 22:11

Stopfighting has got the issue. Thank you.

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FranklyIDontGiveAMam · 08/10/2009 22:11

Stopfighting I find your attitude alarming. I don't claim benefits (well I claim disability benefit for my ds) and have had to give up work to care for him.

Should I not be given respect because I don't earn my own money?

silkcut · 08/10/2009 22:12

I am so not missing the point spaceman..but I think you are...

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Lilyloooohhhh · 08/10/2009 22:13

Just love how people can know everything about someones values 'lack of education, lack of manners, lack of ambition, lack of work ethic.'
etc seeing them for a few mins before and after school tbh

WartoScreamo · 08/10/2009 22:13

I know this is AIBU, but you are! You judging people without even speaking to them! I'm sure I look really chavvy running down to the school with my fat arse, grabbing a crafty fag after being at work all day.

I am a perfectly respectable professional person with a good career and high hopes for my dd's education though. And the local school, where she is very happy, seems to be doing the trick. And we're talking city, multi ethnic, multi socio-economic groups if we have to worry about these things. A bit like real life really.

TrinityHasAVampireRhino · 08/10/2009 22:13

I wear jammies on the school run

well known fact on here

I dont wear them to sleep in though

silkcut · 08/10/2009 22:14

Stop fighting I mean ..bad slummy wine drinking mummy

FranklyIDontGiveAMam · 08/10/2009 22:14

And I would expect that there are a good number of children in those middle class schools with at least one parent that doesn't work.

HolyBumoley · 08/10/2009 22:15

Do you walk to school in your pyjamas?

Just interested.

I walk the DCs nearly two miles to school, and pyjamas wouldn't really do the job.

Cometrickortreatingwithme · 08/10/2009 22:16

I agree too OP. Our school is a bit like the one you describe.
I watched one mum today clip her child round the head as soon as he came out of class and tell him to "put his effing coat on" another mum screaming at her reception child to get off the climbing frame or she would drag her down.
Other Mums often sit in the local wmc from about 1.30 and then pick their dc up half cut.
But there is a lot of good stuff going on at school too but some of the parents really don't give a shit and I have been going to that playground for 8 years now.

Stopfighting · 08/10/2009 22:16

Frankly, you are obviously doing your best and claiming a benefit you have a right to. I am not at all talking about you.

Do you, however, disagree that there are large numbers of lazy 'chavs' if you like, claiming simply because they are bone-idle?

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