Feb 2011 - First year over! Whatya mean it gets more difficult!

[wigglesrock]

Handing out , and birthday cake

Hey that was good timing, hi wiggles! Thanks for starting new thread, at title.

I'm just having a brew and biccy whilst madam sleeps after singing. She got a balloon and everyone sang happy birthday to her, she looked unimpressed then chewed the balloon, I was terrified it would pop in her face (pfb)

Well everyone is NBU in my opinion anyway.
Ledkr does ur dh know how bloody tiring it has been for you this week? He might just think you're being funny about his family coming when actually you just need a bit of time to yourself. We have pil coming this weekend btw

Blizy I agree with Mizk, could be a blessing in disguise re fil. Also agree it is v considerate of you to be thinking of dh.

Reastie dp and I aren't getting on, I can safely say neither of us are making an effort at the moment. I'm such a mardy nag (only with him) and he is just so annoying ( only to me) I need to sort myself out and be nicer to him but... Well I don't have an excuse. Not sure what my point was there but you're not on your own anyway.

Hi knitta (I've forgotten the P name, peasforp?!) nice to hear from you

Im on phone and can't remember other stuff, but hi all

Are any babies getting a bit... stroppy if they don't get their own way?! At singing they hand out toys/instruments for some songs then collect them back in, A used to be really good at giving them back but has started crying and flapping her arms in a strop when she has to give them back now

Hello new thread!

Ponyo re the strop thing yes defo! I think I posted a bit about this a couple of weeks ago, but I think in the past few weeks, we have noticed that C's crying/meltdowns have stopped being just about needs (hunger, tired, cuddles, ill etc.) and started being about wants, and yes, she can be a little madam when she wants to! And it means a bit of a change in how we are with her, because needs...well...you have to meet them, whereas wants, then as an adult, you have to decide which ones you are going to meet and which you aren't. So yes, we've noticed this too, it's kinda fun as well as sometimes hard work!

Dx

Yay you found me I'll post stats up as well. I'm doing a split shift today/tonight so am heading back to work soon [poo]

chocoroo Happy Birthday Romilly

No-one is ever unreasonable on these threads ledkr I'd be raging - didn't you take leave off to watch the girls over the break?

blizy fil is being really inconsiderate, especially not being about for your dh, he's his Dad, he still needs him.

reastie xxxx marriage is hard work, even the sex god in his own eyes at least and I work really hard at it. I think it was D who said "connecting" and thats it exactly, sometimes Mr W and I just don't seem to connect, or our timing is usually off, usually I take the nick at a "funny" joke he's made or I don't like his tone .

It doesn't matter if your dh thinks you are grand, all is well etc, you are upset/sad and that means that he has to be there to make it easier/ better for you. Marriage imo is all about give and take, and sometimes its someone elses turn to make the effort/pull their weight/make you happier. I can be a bit of a doormat giver with regards to my family but sometimes enough is enough.

Yes, we too have a stropper, Anna is not best pleased when we try and remove her from whatever table/shelf she has started to climb and can be very vocal about it - Mammyyyyyyyyyyy, said with huge sobbing tears

jackfrost Lucy & Katie 24/12/2010
Cler - Corey 5/01/2011
ledkr - Delilah Ivy 27/1/2011
NeedToSleep - Ben 30/01/2011
byronicheroine - Konstantinos 2/02/2011
tadjennyp - Samuel Jude 05/02/2011
Debka - Sabine; 08/02/2011
Tarlia - Zachary 09/02/2011
suzym1984 Harry 09/02/2011
hardboiledpossum Noah 9/02/2011
PussInConverse Josie (Josephine) 11/02/2011
MizK - Cassia 12/02/2011
WeAreBorg - Nate 13/02/11
canoe - Leo : 13/02/2011
ILovePonyo - Anya 14/02/2011
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wigglesrock - Anna : 15/02/2011
Four4me : - Archie: 16/2/2011
Deliaskis - Claudia - 16/02/2011
chocoroo Romilly, 17/02/2011
emski76- Noah: 20/02/2011
RobinSparkles - Charlotte; 22/02/2011
Hubbard86- Freya 24/2/2011
Grannyapple Nate 24/2/2011
reastie: - Alice; 25/02/2011
40Weeks Mikey 26/02/2011
blizy Zoe 28/02/2011 - xx for Zoe, a part of all of us and our babies, never forgotten
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peasforP - Pablo: 13/03/2011

Hi all.Well im an auntie at last Manni was born this morning after a quick labour only 5lb 15oz bless him. Im not going till the weekend cos im not like pil haha.

Thanks for all the yanbu's i really dont mind if you say.
wiggs good point actually re the leave.He is going to tell them they can come for the day Sunday.I dont think he was too bothered its just me,i feel all mean spirited and i never ask if my family can come here. I really do need some time off though even on Sunday im going to feign illness and have some time in my bedroom,i want dh to realise how much hard work it is having guests.Let him make endless teas and coffees,food and polite banter,im too tired for it all.

blizy Im not surprised,he has absolutely no idea how this has affected you and dh,my mum is similar with things and i have just given up trying to get that type of support from her iyswim,i have enough friends for that and dh.

We went swimming for the first time since dills op as she wasnt allowed,she still loves it.We then went to a chinese buffet (slimming world of course)

Dh has gone to work till 12 so im just having a bit of piece Ella and Dilly crawl around the house like maniacs.

Me and Ella are off to a roller disco tomorrow,what a laugh.

Laughing at all the little drama queens we seem to be raising (yes, maybe the boys too!). MIL is always totally sucked in, she once stopped in 3 laybys on a 20 minute journey because C was crying to much in the car. MIL said 'but there were real tears'......I was like pif...that is nothing, C can turn on 'real' tears for the most trifling of non-incidents. She also has a 'woe is me' wail that is sad but also a little bit funny.

PS SIL has put some Claudia's birthday girl pics on on FB.

D

Thanks for the new thread wiggles. . Will catch up later.

Thanks for the new thread wiggs, got to feed Sammy, back later.

Yep to tantrums etc. Noah even throws himself on the floor and fake cries. Saw my sis today and her baby girl has a really cute chair with a little table on the side with musc things on it and Noah loved it so I popped out this afternoon and gt him one. Will try to post a pic of him sat on it later.
Also yes to sometimes not connecting with dh, I try so hard then tend to give up for a while!
Will come on again later as bathtime is upon us

FOUND YOU! Thanks for thread wiggles btw - seriously, what do you mean? It gets more difficult????

ems I think we are actually freakishly similar in many ways - it's a shame we don't live closer and funnily enough, DH and my discussion last night began as he was trying for some action and couldn't understand why I was frustrated that he only pays me any attention when he's desperate to dtd . Btw deb can I ask you (please ignore if you want) does you dh pay you more attention and more interested to dtd now you've lost loads of weight? In my head it's all muddled together that he must not like me anymore now I've put on weight, but I'm not sure how different things would be if I looked like claudia schiffer (or some similar more up to date supermodel I know not about being all out of touch with the yoof)

reastie nah, made no difference at all. I am still pretty hefty though, lets wait and see if things improve when I'm a size 10. Or 12. Or something else little. However he does seem happier and I wonder if it's because I'm happier in myself. Don't know. BTW did you buy your new sheets after reading my thread on Chat?

ledkr congratulations to your sis, Manni hey, that's sweet. Would love to see a pic from the roller disco

wiggles you made me smile and well up the other day. I was reading that thread about one word to describe your life, and everyone was coming out with 'sad', 'empty' 'frustrating' etc, it was proper depressing, then in the middle of all that doom and gloom was a HAPPY. Yes it was YOU Mrs Wigglesrock you lovely one with your lovely girls and magnificent MrW

ponyo ooo yes to stropping, although to be fair, a 12mo tantrum has absolutely nothing on a 2yo tantrum!

Hi knitta, glad things are good with you :)

I cooked the food for a dinner party my mum and dad held last night, I enjoyed it and apparently it went really well, they were oohing and aahing over the food and I got so many compliments. I wonder if there'd be any money in doing it more often for Other People?

Oh dear , C has a temperature and is being all restless in her sleep. I know it was extreme, but I'm all uptight now worrying that it's going to end in another night in hospital . But it is possible to have a temperature and it be actually not be serious isn't it?

Do Mums ever stop feeling like this?

Oh poor C Delia hope she is ok? And no I suppose us Mum's will never stop feeling like this. I remember when just after I'd had Thomas and was not coping well with accepting him having Downs, my Mum was sat with me one day and she got upset. She told me that she was so worried about me, she said 'you are my baby and I don't like seeing you like this'. Hope C temp settles down, have you a bedroom fan to put on to cool the room down?

Congratulations Auntie Ledkr yeah xx

End of a busy day, Archie enjoyed his first trip to the cinema, so did Tom and Joey. Archie is far too chilled for tantrums at the mo, but don't hold it agains't me I have to cope with the diva that is Imogen who is in the throws of two year old loveliness! Archie is still a bit of a surfy dude, thank god.

Well hello ladies, how are you all? Can someone give me a run down on what's been happening lately please?

I can totally understand not really liking dh, mine is doing my head in. It's all the little thing that seem to make my teeth itch.
Finally had a date for toms op, it's next Fri. Can't believe I'm going to spend Freyas 1st birthday in hospital with tom. If I'm honest I'm dreading watching him be put under.
Oh no poor Claudia, I hope she feels better and you don't end up in hospital.

D You need to concentrate on getting and keeping the temp down. Calpol or ibruprofen,strip her down and maybe even a tepid sponge. Always work on the assumption that she is better off without a temperature iyswim,no it wont necessarily lead to probs but better to get it down.
hubbard what is Tom having done?
Re tantrums,i have never actually had such a fiery baby,(redhead) yesterday i took her for tea with Ella and she was stroppy about going in the highchair then chucking food on the floor,i felt really fed up.She then saw a tomato and took out the bread from her mouth and threw it,it landed on a man he was very nice but then she did the same with the tomato
I was holding her and she was trying to put my hair on her own head and then started to rip handfulls of it almost out.and hit my face.
Ive never had a child like it,she cant even have a dish or cup cos just throws it.
Im not sure what to do with her actually,any ideas.

hubbard nice to see you, hope things are ok. Love the photos you've put up on FB.

ledkr just be firm and ignore the wailing? S can be a little madam but she does listen to no when she feels like it.

delia I hope C is ok. I wouldn't wake her, I'd let her sleep it off (but I've never had a baby in hospital), then do as ledkr says if she wakes. BTW that's why you're a better mum than me, you're worrying she'll end up in hospital, I'd be worrying she'd have me up all night

me too deb haha. Yes i agree leave her to sleep but not if she is reeeeeally hot tho,and take off a blanket and turn off the heating,and id check her through the night too or put the monitor on,when D was ill she cried so pathetically i wouldn have heard her with my naked ear.

deb just read your thread hope its sorted now, and himself is cleaner (LAZY GOBSHITE) Im a bit of a shite airer i must admit,its too bloody cold at the moment Must try harder but brrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

I think this is the quickest I have found you all after a thread change. I have completely forgotten everything in the last thread though sorry.

Happy birthday to Archie and Claudia for yesterday, and Romilly for today!

Nate is not too bad with strops, he has them ( a lot) but is easily distracted by a flash of boob or a bit of cake. Except for when he has shoes on of course. ledkr someone told me if they're feisty now then they won't really have the terrible twos as done them already?

delia hope C is okay, it must be so worrying. Last time she had a very very high temp though didn't she, was it a UTI? Would it be worth getting that ruled out again?

Off to bed now, night all

Hope C is ok Delia. Will be sending healthy vibes.

Sorry for everyone having a rough time with their dhs. Having a baby really adds another dimension to any difficulties. Mine seems to be working till gone midnight most nights, so I don't know if we're having a rough patch or not. Much sympathy.

Congratulations to Auntie ledkr, Manni sounds so sweet.

I don't know about tantrums so much as completely dropping naps. He barely sleeps at all these days. I'm so not ready for that!

I hope you all have nice weekends and plenty of time to relax.

Tom is having his nose cauterized. Only a minor op but its still a general anesthetic. It's him being put under that scares me.

Freya can be a little madam now. Can have a strop at the drop of a hat. Kind of preparing myself for her to be like this for the next 16 years.

I felt the same way last year when Anna had her tonsils out, hubbard. Good luck with Tom!

hubbard I was and always am in bits when my dc have to be put under.
When D had her op last year i prepared myself for it and was ok untill i had to hand my little baby over to the nurse.
Children have such a tiny amount of anesthetic that its quite safe. For a cauterisationhe will hardly be under.Good luck.
Dills sleeps great these days but is up before 7,6 today ive already had 2 teas and some toast and its not even half 7.

Morning, quick post before work again [double poo]

ledkr congrats on being an auntie

hubbard T will be fine but totally understandable to be feeling frightened.

Four4Me My mum was in pieces to the point of hysterical when my sister had Emma last week. She was literally climbing the walls with worry and this was before she had to be ambulanced! I've never seen her like that.

debka I replied to that thread early and then when everyone elses replies came in I was scundered, I was like a misplaced Pollyanna. I am happy, there I said it I've had enough of being sad.

emski My sister bought Sofia that chair for her 1st birthday and she absolutely loved it, got so much use out of it, it didn't survive past Olivia

deliaskis How's C? xx

Morning all just making Noah's hungry catepillar cake ready to ice tonight for the big party tomorrow! My babies going to be one on Monday! Even Ben thinks its 'scary'.

Deb, I have to say I think you have handle the smelly situation really really well, some people on your thread were harshly honest and you just took it all on the chin. Well done girl, you done us proud!

Ledkr, congrats on being an aunt!

Hi to Knittakid. Hope all ok.

Hubbard, good luck with Toms op. your pics on fb are gorgeous, by the way.

Delia, how was C last night? Hope she was ok

We're off to Bristol for the day today. Looking forward to spending the weekend as a family.

Have good weekends all xx

O golly, should never have said anything on here about my smelly thread, now you all know, I'm going to get a reputation now on here, o yes debka, she's that skanky one who never cleans

JUST SO YOU ALL KNOW I shook and vacced this morning, cleaned the bathroom and Aired the House (my new obsession!).

S is now running around, I'm holding off on the shoes for as long as possible a la ledkr, she only walks inside atm so she's barefoot for that.

Have lovely weekends everyone, mine will mostly be spent cleaning and Airing