Son’s girlfriend stopped he did not ask. Quick advice

[Carol52]

Help . Our house has a annexe and last night was out sons prom. A few lads were stopping. This morning I have gone in and his girlfriend is obviously Upstairs with him. One mate had gone two downstairs.
i don’t really know his yo handle this he knows my views on her stopping.he stops at hers,
what has got me is he did not ask , his mates are here and I am disappointed at the lack of respect of not asking. Was this planned as all along. Please I need done advice on how to handle thid

What age?

You just have to say no girlfriends unless you are aware and you will revoke all sleepover privileges if he doesn't tell you.

Assuming they are 16? I would leave it for now, have a calm chat about it this evening.

Are they 16 or 18 ?

chuck some Holy Water on tuem
both and all will be ok.

If I understand correctly you don't have an issue with him stay over at her house, so not a fundamental issue with them spending the night together. I understand you're upset because he went behind your back, but I think that staying in the annex could be a reasonable compromise.

Wow, what an utter non-issue. Do you usually get so angry and stressed at such trivial things @Carol52 ?

I think if you are ok about him stopping at her house, you have to be ok about her stopping at yours? Otherwise it's mixed signals.
So yes, he should have asked. But he probably thought it would be fine seeing as he is allowed to stop at hers.
So a minor slip-up on his part (a quick 'mum is it ok if Y stays after prom' would have been polite) but really really not worth making a big deal over.

He is 18

😂

he knows i would not of liked it at our house. I know he is 18 she is 17 but his mates were here as well. I go need a chat but don’t know what yo say

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Howling

And don't forget to book an Exorcist OP!

it would be worse if he couldn’t get a girlfriend and no one wanted to stay.

Jesus 😂😂😂

what a fuss over nothing.

18 goodness he's an adult. If others were staying it's a non issue. It is his home too.

You're right that it's your house, but it's his home too, unless you'd prefer he find a home somewhere else (perhaps at his girlfriend's house) and then you'd get "what you wanted" but I'm sure you'd then realise that it isn't what you really wanted after all.

Please dont chat. Jesus.

I lived on my own at 18!

I know some of you think it’s ridiculous but I have a younger daughter at home as well. I appreciate their ages but to not ask IS disrespectful

Oh God. Choose your battles.

No matter what age you still have to have respect for your parents if you are living under your roof. I’d be furious too OP

Well then if you really must chat about it, just calmly ask him to let you know in future.

If you accept it at her house then you need to start accepting it at yours unless this isn’t about sex and something else like they are noisy and keep you awake at night.

😂😂😂😂

Thank you Mrs positivity . I feel as though I am getting ridiculed and am a bad parent. Everyone is different .