Death of Emma Pattison and daughter

[MajesticWhine]

Are we allowed to talk about this now?
Last thread was deleted. But surprise surprise - now confirmed as a murder suicide

Epsom College deaths believed to be murder-suicide https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-64544884

Why do men do this?

Yes, they did seem different. She was also 6 years older than him, although comments by neighbours of their previous address say that he seemed and acted very old for his age, as though he was almost 50 and not 40. That he dressed like an English countryman and liked his fast cars (a cover-up for his lack of a career). These are all details I picked up from various articles - I don't know how true they are.

The more info that is released paints a man who resented his wife and possibly resented the love and affection Emma and Lettie gave each other which is why they're both often seen so close and together in photos, while George and Emma and only together in official photos. I think I read on this thread or elsewhere that it was even possible that George killed Lettie first just to see Emma in pain first. Absolutely horrible thought although very possible.

It's so awful to think how they had a dinner party at the house and then within a few hours it had escalated to three deaths.

People who are often in photos together are having their photos taken by the third. All the photos here are of dh and the children because he doesn’t really take photos at all.

The mail article seems disgustingly sympathetic - I am horrified.

That's a very good point and is true in some families. Other families are all in a selfie together. I suppose it depends on the family dynamics. Looking at the photos we've been shown of Emma and Lettie they are either selfies or stills journos have taken from videos.

It’s revolting. Poor shy, good-looking man having to endure living in the shadow of his wife’s success and high salary.

Let that be a lesson to us all; don’t outshine your husband, ladies, or you’ll get (and deserve) a gun turned on you.

Yeah the Yahoo mail article is also similar, but also it's like the writer got some points from this thread as it's got a lot of similar points, it's quite uncanny tbh

Also, her family may not have released photos with him in them

That's very possible. I always get the feeling that journos look online to see what photos they can find - social media, etc. I can imagine families being asked for photos relating to joyous occasions or positive news, but it would be a difficult time to approach a family for photos in this situation. Perhaps you're right, though. I don't have any experience in this field. Just thinking about the likelihood of it happening.

About partners at these top private schools being "vetted" (some of them ought to be taken to the vet for spading, but vetting in the DBS way here): what feels like the mesozoic, aka the early 90s, at Winchester College wives had to be all supportive and really expected to behave like Stepford Wives. Stifling for the women (this German I knew legged it back to Germany with baby). When I raised this with a Wykehamist, he was all red cheeked consternation that these wives could possibly aspire to be/do anything else. There are plenty of pics at College dos of the "type" of women they want (handy for the expensive brochures at Indy Ed Fairs). Hetero men are not on the whole happy with playing Stepford wives, nor are enlightened women. But who knows, perhaps it's all like Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf (film/play) once the doors are closed. Guns, however, and slapping of husbands, taking out loans and living off female spouses is a different play I think.

I wouldn't read anything into the photograph situation tbh.
Some people take photos, some don't.
Some like to be in the, some don't.
In our house there would be a huge imbalance if someone looked at our relationships based just in the photograph situation but it wouldn't be telling you anything about reality tbh.

Taking out Directors loans is how people who own small businesses manage cash flow. It doesn’t mean he got a loan from a third party, it means he had a business a borrowed funds from his business rather than receiving it as wages/dividends. I think it indicates that he had money from an active business in 2021 but hasn’t since???

All very true.

In reference to @Voxdei

And now there an article giving her husbands family a say and releasing a picture of him with Lettie and stating there was problems in the marriage. Disgusting gutter press. He was a monster.