#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Yeh totally!
My daddy is the best dad and was totally fab when growing up (&still now) and most of my friends hubbies are great daddy's but just not how my family will be

london I agree with the others about frer, the one we had from the clinic gave the faintest line ever but the frer was very clear!

Haha I totally hear you pickle I do like then thought of meeting mr right still. But I look at all my friends partners and see all the negatives lol. Plus I've been single for a few years now I like my independence lol x

Ok being thick guys but what is frer? X

Thanks ladies. Will def test again Weds. But I have to echo paws - what is a frer? And why's it better? Am just using the clear blue that says pregnant/not pregnant.

First response early response -it's a brand but shows up much clearer. They measure from over 6iu/ml where as my clinic one was 25iu/ml ....at day 12 or 13 it's unlikely you'd be above 25....later on in week yes but not so early x

London, if your BFN was on a clearblue at 12dpiui you're definitely not out!! CB tests are the worst! Prior to due date you need to test on an early test, FRER are the most sensitive. I got my BFP on a Superdrug early one on 11dpt (as I didn't want to waste my FRERs) and it was faint but there was a line.
The CB digital never showed me more than 3 weeks pregnant when I tested weeks later and clearly I was!!

Sorry the above should have said 6dp5dt (I.e. the equivalent of 11dpiui)

Thanks for reassuring words - & for explaining what a frer is! Will definitely get some of those.

Afraid AF came this morning (I'm like clockwork, it's bang on expected date) so looks like I am indeed out. But I will call the clinic this morning so we can start all over again in the next day or so. Spots & extreme fatigue on Gonal F, do your worst!

I'm trying to look on the bright side. Pluses for me include yay! going to be able to take a nice long run at the weekend. I've missed running so much.

What small things lift your spirits on Debbie downer days?

Oh london sorry chick, that's hard, but you've got more tries up your sleeve yet! Hugs!

Oh sorry to hear this London. Onward and upward as the saying goes. Every BFN I had I treated myself to something nice (I was really careful with money during treatment given the cost of it and so allowing myself to a nice restaurant or piece of clothing before moving on onto the next cycle sort of helped). And yes, take the opportunity to do everything that is prohibited during TWW!!

Sorry to hear that london glad you have some positives to look forward to though.

I think mine would be hot tub! My friends having a hot tub party in a couple of weeks and I can't go in. 😩 And drinking at my friends wedding (though I rarely drink would be nice to at a wedding)

Hope you're ok, we're always here for a chat! Love this group. Learning so much! X

So sorry to hear that London 😔 the only good thing about af showing is your cycle is still regular so can get going on next cycle and 2 at least you know for sure. I found getting af made me feel a bit better at least the what if was resolved.
Take care of yourself xx

Thanks Wish, Pickle, Paws and Pez. Called the clinic and booked my starting scan tomorrow morning, so all ready to go again. It's just the luck of the draw - hope the cards fall right this time.

Am so with you on the hot tub, Paws. I agree the drinking is less of a big deal - we did a show and dinner, and then a night of cabaret and dancing this weekend, all dry! Ginger beer, Becks Blue and slimline tonic are my friends. And though I thought I'd miss the caffeine, after two weeks off it there's no way I'm going back and enduring the comedown headaches again.

That's the spirit London!
I also did my 4 cycles back to back so AF also meant CD1 of the next cycle 😊

Ah wow excellent love that your ready to go again! Fingers crossed for the next time and enjoy your break! The headaches are sure a biatch aren't they, though I don't think mine were caffeine related as I'm not a big coffee/tea drinker, just the odd one at customers houses.

Have a question: how's everyone doing with diet wise during ivf/pre pregnancy test etc? I've been trying to be good but I'm sure these hormone drugs are just making me want to eat junk as I crave chocolate in between jobs. Have a choc bar for later but I'm trying to hide it out of temptation view ahhh xx

IVI are still looking into costs - looks like Spain POC in holiday.
Apparently I am a first - in the donor UK-Spain aspect
My bad though for not getting this info months ago

Pickle I totally hear you on man front - although it would be nice to have some chukka-chukka every day once in a while

What a bummer London

Sorry London for the BFN.
I'm like you and hit all the exercise I can't do during the TWW. I've done 5 cycles back to back and now having 2 cycles off.
I'm boxing again, back at circuits and even doing some weight training.
But best of all....im on holiday in Austria 😎
Planning hiking in the alps, bike rides and SUP 🏄‍♀️🚵‍♀️🏋️‍♀️
Here's a photo

Looks gorgeous Munro have a fab holiday 😎

Kwick grrrrr at your clinic, fingers crossed you'll get the info soon and then u can start making a bambino!!!

Thanks kwik!

And Munro, that looks amazing! Totally with you on the exercise, been for a swim tonight but so looking forward to parkrun on Saturday, and a proper blow out spin class later this week too!

My eating problem is the same as always, paws: too much food. I have no self control re portion size. Not bothered by sweet stuff but I love bread (mmm bakery loaves with loads of butter, mmm sourdough...) Mostly it's healthy stuff, but I have no off switch and just keep eating! WW & SW both helped me lose a bit for a while, but I reckon that despite the exercise I'll be BMI 30 for life!

Hi ladies,

Nice to see some bfps here! Sorry I've been quiet- my mental health has taken quite the beating lately. Anyway, one of the outcomes is, incredibly sadly, my ttc journey is over and I won't be having any more children.

I have quite a few hpts & opks. Would someone like them? I feel bad throwing them away but they're torturing me.

I wish you all so much luck and baby dust. The one thing I will say is this - if you're over 32 please don't put off trying. I know you hope to have more money or a better job but time is so precious and once your time is gone it's gone.

Let me know about the pee sticks & all my best wishes for healthy, happy babies. Xxx

Hello Phoenix, I don't know your story or want to presume, but just wanted to send hugs and best wishes for feeling better soon. All the very best. And I am sure someone will take you up on your generous offer.

I'm so sorry Phoenix. I've been thinking of you a lot lately and wondering how you were getting on.

It's a big loss to come to terms with. I hope you're managing ok. Sending hugs and best wishes.

Aww phoneix sorry to hear that it must have been tough to come to terms with such a big decision. I hope things start to improve for you now that the decision has been made. Sending higs and luck your way x

So sorry phoenix don't know your story but I do hope you're ok and manage to cope with this news. Please talk to us on here whenever you want, but I know that must be hard for you, make sure you talk to someone xx take care x