#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Wonky I think Pez has a list she used, but from my research the list includes: avocados, cayenne pepper, red peppers, oily fish, and keep white carbs to a minimum, low on refined sugar.... But whether this works is anyones guess really, I know people who ate pizza and fast-food during the 2ww and still got a bfp. I did everything 'correctly' all three times and still a bfn, so do what feels good for you, be sensible, be healthy and hope for the best? xx

Stork, I've got BUPA as private health insurance and they don't cover any fertility treatment... it's a company funded policy though so yours might be different.
The only think I get is a cash benefit of £90 when the child is born.

Wonky, I've attached my fertility food list (there are other foods, like Kale, but I only wrote down the ones I knew I would eat). This is food to help with the development of the follicles during the 90 days prior to ovulation.

After embryo transfer, a high protein low carb diet is recommended, warm food and drinks as anything too cold diverts the blood flow from your womb to your stomach, for the same reason you should avoid anything too hard to digest (like milk), avoid fizzy drinks too! Cayenne pepper and fresh ginger are supposed to increase blood flood and are natural anti inflammatories. I also took 75mg aspirin (still on it until I get to 38 weeks). You should stop vitamins and supplements taken prior to ovulation and only stick to folic acid and vitamin D. Lots of fluids, gentle walks and nothing that raises your body temperature too much (lukewarm baths only, although you should avoid them until you get a BFP).

Also proteins from pulses (black beans, lentils especially) and seeds/nuts are better than the ones from meat (this is what I read during my research).

Like stork said, there is no proof this works but it can't do any harm anyway

During TWW you should also avoid any unsafe pregnancy food (no raw eggs, meat, raw milk's cheeses etc) - just in case

Pez mine is a company one too....hmm, shall see.

Thanks for the info regarding diet Stork and Pez. I know it may make no difference but I feel I should do everything I can. I have been doing quite well for the last few months but fell off the wagon a bit when I was away on holiday but I really love Thai food.

Why are you on the aspirin Pez? From what I can see the latest review of the trials concludes there is no evidence for the routine use of aspirin during IVF. Did your doctor recommend it?

No, the doctor didn't recommend it, I decided to just put myself on it to help with blood flow... I had very light periods and was worried my lining was on the thin side (it was always ok for IUI but not extremely thick). I have since spoken to both my GP and obstetrician about it and they're fine with me being on it. I'm too scared to stop now!

The only thing is that it's not recommended to be on both aspirin and pineapple at the same time as they are both blood thinners so I stopped aspirin while on pineapple.

I guess I was just desperate to try anything!

wonky if you PM me your email address I will send you the nutritional advice I got from my FCs nutritionist.

pez I did not know about not having aspirin and pineapple at the same time!!!! PLEASE remind me when I next go on 2WW!!!

Hey ever what cycle day are you transferring on, do you know yet? Thx! Ps, not long till kick off! Did AF show up on time?

Hey stork on cd6 now but the jab is day 21 so I think this is around tues 29 th Aug ( I think) not confirmed yet. Then it depends on whether donor is ready at that moment or whether she starting about a week later. Estimating transfer 3 rd week in sept, following her stimming for about 12-14 days and me swallowing oestrogen pills then I guess only a month away now!!! AF showed up a day or 2 early which means a day or 2 less to wait, although after being painful and heavy for day and half it was then super light. Another shit egg dispersing xx

I ve a couple of things on my prescription I ve no idea about. Looks like 2 oestrogen tabs and utrogestran pessaries, doxycycline, steroids and clexane injections but no protocol yet of what to take when, just the prescription lost xx

Prescription list x

Oops it's cd7 nearly 8, losing track of days x

Thanks! I did the doxy and the steroids on my last protocol. Doxy was before the egg collection as I recall!

How much were your meds btw?

I'm trying to work out when transfer could be (transfer for ivf was usually on cycle day 19), so I can see if it's looking like September or October... she says while trying in vain to plan her life for the next few months!

Hi ladies, need a bit of moral support.

So I'm on day 6 of tww. So far it's all been fine, really. Pessaries a bit ugh, giving up alcohol & caffeine totally fine. Have taken a raincheck on the anxiety, got a week to go til I can know anything.

But what is driving me crazy is not being able to exercise properly. Until I started on the drugs I was running to work (about 4 miles) 4 days a week, and going to the gym at weekends (spin/strength/elliptical). Now all I can do is walking, yoga (?! no idea) and swimming.

I feel like I'm turning into a couch bound heffalump. I had a good swim on Sunday and am over 10k steps each day, but still. It's pretty different.

Trying to get pregnant is what I want, 100%. Got to give my body the best chance of conceiving - and that includes not overheating & not risking a fall.

Day to day, though, just grumpy with no exercise. How do you all cope with enforced slowing down?!

London, you don't have to stop all exercise as long as it was already part of your daily routine. Just avoid any high impact and cardio work outs. I'm sure a light jog is fine or you can replace it with a longer power walk. Believe me once you're pregnant you won't have a problem lying on the couch ☺️
You'll just have to learn to take it easy. I find this hard too as I'm so used to doing everything around the house. I'm really resisting the urge to remove the render on the bedroom walls I need to have redone but I know that moving the bed or carrying bags of rubble is not recommended so I just stare at it....
6 days in TWW is good going, you're nearly half way, hang in there!

Thanks Pez. Of course you're totally right. Hopefully big changes coming. Just having adjustment difficulties!

Hi all, been on holiday, OTD is tomorrow but we've just done a sneaky test and there's definitely a line! If it's still there tomorrow we are in this for the long haul! I can't believe my eyes!

Oh wish! Amazing! So so pleased for you! Yes, definitely a line!

I'm stunned!

london sorry cannot help you - my MO is couch potato so having to take it easy was no hardship
On yoga - will depend on type. Nice a gentle please!

wish!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Another night of not sleeping so well... not sure what is up - you would have thought after the hard and lumpy bed in Greece coupled with the sometimes overwhelming heat now I am back in my own bed everything would be hunky-dory

Eeeeeeeeekkkkkk wish fab fab news!!!!!!! Huge congratulations xx

wish congrats!

Ok guys I need your thoughts.

For the past three ivf rounds so a full year now, I have been very strict post transfer ie the queen of taking time off work, eating right, not going out, literally just trying to incubate.... and it hasn't worked.

So now I'm looking at late sept-early Nov in terms of working around an adopted embryo transfer I know I will need to travel to the US for work in Oct and Dec.

The old me would have said no, I'm not going. But I have to admit that right now I'm in a bit of a fuck it stage. Ive put so much on hold work and personal life wise, that I'm inclined to do the transfer when I can, travel when I need to and just believe that if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
After all, the clinic is in Greece so will need to get on a plane anyway!

Thoughts?

Amazing news wish!!!
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Stork,* a trip to the US won't stop an embryo from implanting. I travelled to a conference the day my implantations cramps started and was travelling outside London the following day too and she still managed to attach while I was hopping on and off trains and tubes 😊

Congratulations wish! That's so exciting!

I know what you mean about the exercise thing london. I think I am also going to feel a bit weird not doing any proper exercise. I think you will probably be okay with the morning runs assuming you don't push too hard but I would avoid weights and spinning.

Thanks for the offer of sending the nutritionists advice Kwick. I have sent you my email.

Had a properly stressful morning at work - am now trying to think calming thoughts.

Wow wish thats a definite line congratulations 😀😀😀