#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Looks beautiful Munro! Are you near Villach?

Phoenix my heart goes out to you. Stay safe 😘 we are all here for you if you need us.

So sorry Phoenix. Big hugs and sounds as if you're doing brilliantly to hold it all together by the way your message come across.

Allow the feelings to flow and process. This is an emotional process for all women so you're not alone in it xxx

It's been a long 2 months but I should be reddy to statt again this cycle but I am really unsure of what to do. I am waiting on AF to come but I am away for work on 7th Setember and am getting really nervous that it might work out that this would be my iui day. I really donmt want to wait another month but also don't want to risk cycle being cancelled because of timing. Why is nothing ever straightforward 😩

Phoenix, my dear, you already know that I know how hard it's been to come to this decision. Big hugs via here too and I'm always here if you need xx

Bear, my second IUI ended up falling much earlier than planned (progesterone messed up with my cycle) and on Monday afternoon they told me they would need to do it the following day, which was of all days the worst day of the week and by quite a distance. I was due to be out travelling outside of London for important meetings but somehow I made it work - I faked an important screening/diagnosis test that I'd been waiting for for ages as an excuse to stay in London (I said I just got the phone call from the hospital and they had a cancellation - at the time I was telling my manager my thyroid was playing up so he didn't ask any question) and then moved some meetings and changed others to conference calls. I felt a bit bad about lying but you know what, my priority was to have the IUI done and nothing could have stopped me! And actually that lie laid things nicely for the next one, when I had to say I needed a small surgical procedure done (my Egg collection a couple of months later ).
Just to say that everything can be changed or cancelled, people fall ill or their children do and they sometimes have to cancel commitments made months before.
I also have to say (and I know I'm not the only one on this thread who can testify for it) that my most stressful cycle (I.e the one with the highest number of hiccups and admin mess ups) was the lucky one!!
So I would say follow your gut on this one, work commitments aren't so important in the grand scheme of things and most likely things will work out perfectly.

Love you Phoenix, you know I'm always at end of the phone❤️ xx

Bear everything that could go wrong went wrong with my last cycle but that was "the one" I said to one of my besties at the time after the iui-everything has gone wrong, this could be the one that works as that's how my life usually works....and it did.
If you are medicated talk to the clinic as can usually manipulate to delay a day or 2 xx

So sorry phoenix I don't know your story but it sounds like you've thought long and hard on it. Good luck for the future.

Wow. I've been off here for a few days and it is a mission to catch up on everything that has been going on!

Congratulations Chasing. It's lovely to hear good news.

Sorry you have decided to stop trying Phoenix. Big hugs. I'm sure it was a really tough decision.

Sad news about your AF starting London. Fingers crossed for next time. Enjoy doing all the crazy exercise that you can squeeze in until you start.

I love your biscuit dream turtle. It sounds like something I might dream about at the moment. I really want a baby but also really want a biscuit to eat - I have stopped eating sugar at the moment. This is particularly hard today as a patient gave our team a box of chocolates and I have resorted to smelling them as I can't eat them - very odd I know! I'm sorry your family have expressed doubts. A friend of mine is a bit like this. I have explained to her that I have made my decision but she keeps trying to drag me along to speed dating events and I am just not interested. I think we live really close to each other so if you ever fancy meeting up for a supportive chat and a coffee and cake herbal tea and pile of nuts let me know.

So, had my baseline scan this morning and I haven't had enough period to start the meds. Uterus lining is still too thick. I have to have another on Friday and then start meds (grump grump).

bear, totally second what pez says re cancelling stuff and putting yourself first. I cancelled a work trip to Wales in my first cycle and the fatigue and appointments meant I skipped a bunch of meetings and delegated stuff too.

Ah fek London, not too surprising tho as they build up lining so much with meds that gonna take a bit longer to break down, that's partly why my clinic doesn't allow back to back iuis (although I suspect it's more to do with clinic capacity) well Friday is not too long away 🤞😊

london fingers crossed for good thinning over the next couple of days! Like pickle my clinic didn't allow back to back iuis either xx

bear it is a right fcuker! My first ever IUI cycle had to be cancelled as I was away with work - I did 8 further treatments- and despite travelling almost every week I & the universe made it happen - I am sure this will be the case for you too

london hope you get better news with your next scan

I am suddenly feeling really anxious. I have a SIS and pipelle tomorrow and then it all starts properly next week all being well. Feeling terrified that I may not get a reasonable number of eggs.

Phoenix so sorry to hear about your position. Wishing you all the best.

Wonky I keep trying to cut down on sugar but it really is my weak spot. A chat IRL sounds great - it would be lovely to speak to someone in the same position. What's SIS and pipelle involve - have seen them on the clinic list but no idea what they are for?

Bear and London good luck with your next appts!

Eek kno how you feel wonky I'm so trying to be positive and calm egg, but because I had low egg reserve in first place just be my luck I won't have enough. But trying to have lots of protein and have a lot of the right food etc, with naughty treats added in. Just praying and fingers crossed for next week, first scan Friday xx

Plus I blooming woke up with a sore eye today and tonight it's so red and sore thinking its infected. Feeling sorry for myself today xx

london and bear fingers cross d for you're next appointments x

I am being such a mug! Paying for all the extras even though I know there is no evidence behind them. Not sure I am being very rational about this process.

They eat big spaghetti at Herts & Essex 😂

If you've got the spare cash why not go all in! The SIS/Hycosy is definitely a good thing to have anyway as you'd rather have any issue identified prior to starting treatment than after a few failed cycles. That's how I viewed it

Best of luck with it all

Thanks all for the advice, I have e-mailed the clinic to see what the options would be if this happened. I have moved other things round in the past and always managed to make it work. This meeting is more challenging because most of the participants are significantly higher graded. If I had realised my cycle was going to be at the same time I would have declined but nevermind. Hopefully it will be like you have said and this is the successful cycle.

AF still not here yet anyway, although I feel like it will be here soon. Usually 27/28 day cycle and am currently on day 32 (cycle always messes up when I have been on holiday and has been known to stretch up to 35 days).

wonky I got most of the test offered because I though if I was going to spend all that money on treatment I might as well be sure everything was in working order. Have to admit I haven't heard of SIS or pipelle though.

pickle, wish, kwick, turtle and paws - thank you for the good wishes! Will be fine tomorrow, I'm sure - have been blobbing like there is no tomorrow (sorry, TMI!)

And - in a moment of huge delight - I did ACTUAL CARDIO yesterday and today I feel like my tired self again! Determined to do parkrun on Saturday (though will be slow as f* after a month of no running).

Ouch! Does none else find speculums really painful? Had my scan today and nearly jumped off the table when she put it in. I had to deep breathing in order to cope as if I was in labour (I wish). Feeling a bit ridiculous now. Oh well.

Ah wonky I had an aquascan which is like an SIS and I did find the speculum very uncomfortable esp as the balloon catheter deflated and had to have the bugger done twice. 45 min appt in end. All for a good cause eh. Was all fine?

Have a couple of pages to sift on here- will be back

stork my down reg injection is on tues. Not long now. U must have yr appt with penny next week?

Wonky thanks for the info - those pages don't make it sound appealing!!

I also hate speculums, not had any with this treatment yet but always struggled with a smear and have always had to request the small one (makes me feel a bit inadequate but guess small is better than a large flapping hole?? Sorry if too graphic...!)

Wonky I hate hate hate the speculum,think it's made worse by my retro tilted uterus so just presses on bowel but at same time feels like someone is stabbing me.cried +++ after first iui as was so horrendous, 2nd one wasn't much better but knew what was coming so didn't find it such a head fcuk

Haha turtle you make me laugh, yes don't want a flappy hole 😂

Good luck tomorrow London, hope you get on ok

Bear hope you get a good response from your clinic.