#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

ttc I actually thought the reverse was true when trying to acquire magic potion - perhaps cos it had to be UK compliant, CMV negative and latino/Med to match my heritage. Much easier this time doing in Spain where they chose!

🐢 please put some white knickers on!!!

Just ate a lot of cayenne... wow the things I will do!!!

Congrats stansam!

Kwick that sounds super exciting and promising! When is your test date?

So I finally got to talk to the donor coordinator after a farcical exchange with one of her colleagues who definitely being awkward on purpose. I really hope she is not involved in my treatment!

The clinic are insisting I use a cmv negative donor from their own bank (can't obtain from another bank, even if UK based) for which there is a waiting list of approximately 4 months, however I am already 2 months into this as it has taken so long to get to talk to the coordinator. I am likely to reach the top of the list by early January, at which point we should be able to have a consent appointment then start treatment almost immediately. Apparently we have to go to a counselling appointment before then which I have been variously told is 1 or 2 hours long. I have provisionally booked this for 15th December by which time my girlfriend will have returned from her overseas deployment (yay!).

Honestly this clinic has been annoying me lately but it's much closer and cheaper than anything else and has decent success rates so I guess I'll stick with it. Might research a couple of backup clinics though!

Sorry if stupid question what is cmv? Good luck and hope you get to start straight away in Jan! I'm due to start iui in Jan to I can't wait!

ttc cmv is apparently a fairly common virus but if you are cmv -ive and you catch the virus while pregnant then there is a small risk of birth defects I think.* It is suggested that if you are cmv -ive then you should use a cmv -ive donor to reduce the risk of you catching it. From what I can remember from selecting my donor more recent research has shown that the xhance of the virus still being active in a cmv +ive donor is small and the risk of birth defects is also small.*

Worth doing your own research to make up your mind whether to go for cmv +ive or -ive. In the end I didn’t bother getting tested and went for a +ive donor but its a pesonal choice thing.**

Please anyone correct me if I have got this wrong

CMV = cytomegalovirus. The majority of adults in the UK have already been exposed to cmv, but some haven't. If a mother is exposed for the first time in pregnancy, there is a risk that this will cause birth defects.

Ttc I'm hoping to start in January too! I having medicated IUI because I have irregular cycles due to PCOS. So cool to know you'll be having IUI at about the same time! (Also cool to see all the people on this thread at different stages of their journeys!)

tiny I think it is terrible how you have been given the run around but am loving your PMA.

niomi thanks but I am no expert. I hijacked this thread a few years ago and it is a collective effort!

Haha I didn't go that far kwick but luckily all going to plan and have been allowed to start the meds. Taking the first injection shortly - eek!

Tiny that all sounds so frustrating. I'm cmv- but clinic were happy for me to use a cmv+ donor as long as I signed a form saying I was aware of the risks. There weren't many cmv- donors and I decided the risks were small. Hope things go smoothly from here onwards.

Thanks @witchmountain for sorting our interloper 😘

Hi all, great news at our 7 week scan today, a strong heartbeat and a lovely little bean! Super chuffed to say the least. I am keeping everything crossed for lots of lovely BFPs soon! I appreciate you all and the support you've given me more than you know. Sending love and positive baby vibes to all!!! Xxx

Aww thats fantastic congratulations wish

Also good luck with your injection turtle looks like we will be cycle buddies, I also started my injections today. Went ok actual injection was fine but stung a bit afterwards.

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Oh that’s lovely news wish! So pleased for you

@Wish4Future that is fabulous news!!! Well done!!!

😂😂😂😂 that will be your icon for ever more Witch or should I say 🧙🏼‍♀️!!!!!

Gonna see if I can load photos to this thread...

Wish many congrats, must be so lovely to see!

Hi Bear, cycle buddy! It took me while to psych myself up to actually stick the needle in but wasn't at all bad. Second one this eve much easier. Still feels like a weird thing to do though...

Congrats wish that’s fantastic news- glad things are going so well.

Hope you’re TWW is going well kwick- thinking sticky thoughts for you.

Anyone have any advice for me...my consultant wants me to think about if I want to put one or two blasts back during FET. I’m totally torn...I know the success rates improve with 2 but being single I’d be lying if I said that the thought of twins wasn’t a bit daunting mainly because of logistics. Also does anyone know if FET under sedation damages your chances? Thanks

Hello ladies.
I found this thread a couple of weeks ago, so I've been reading from the beginning (almost 10,000 posts!). Your journeys have been emotional to say the least and I admire your willpower to keep strong.

I debated whether to post here, but as someone said, all our circumstances are different, but our end goal is the same. So this is me:

33 years old in my first same-sex relationship (getting married in 3 months!). I have 2 DDs from previous relationships (absent fathers so I did it alone both times). I have looked into IUI and egg sharing, probably at CRGW. I live in the sticks, so any clinic is going to be at least 2.5 hrs away!!

Congratulations to all the BFPS and little bundles over the last couple of years! 🎉

Congratulations stansam and I am so happy for wish! Seeing dreams coming true gives me hope.

Wahooooooo wish! Totally the best feeling in the world to see that little heartbeat 💗

🐢 so pleased injections have started-you get used to them in no time at all :)

Welcome @TJLL - that is a lot of reading! Good luck :)

Hi all

Kwick pupo wahoooo

Stork-good luck

mandy my cousin has twins and even with the help of her husband and mum and dad she finds it tough. I will only go one at a time. 😬

TJLL so impressed with you catching up!!! That is over 10k posts!!!
I think I started out a tad cocky... am now more jaded...
Welcome!!!!

Hmmm have a sleepover this weekend so may not even be able to test early!!

Mandy, we were asked re 1 or 2 embryos. We have friends who said two and are pregnant with twins and having a torrid time. So we agreed one each time.

Welcome TJLL! Lots of lesbians on the thread trying for their dream family, including me & my missus.

So, been to my GP this morning and now referred to an NHS clinic as we meet the local CCG guidelines for female couples now. Will take 6 weeks or so to get first appointment, so we decided to go ahead and will make sure appt is we know the result of private FET (& if FET works, we cancel NHS appt - crossed fingers!)

Hi catching up with all the messages great to hear some of your news with bfp!! Big congrats!! Looking for cycle buddy any one starting iui in new year?

What dose of injections did people go on who's amh was normal? I'm wondering what to expect also what would I expect at planning appointment with nurse? Has doctor consultation and have reserved my sperm just praying af plays her part as just come off pill and hoping cycle is regular!

kwick I've been following (stalking?!) You from the beginning! Really hope you get your prayers answered!

I ordered some OPKs following a link posted on here. Thinking of just tracking my cycles for a while before I book anything. Need to do a lot of saving!