#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 10

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2944496--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-9
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2908645--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-8
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

I'm so sorry late take care xxx

So sorry late. Big hugs x

A quick update and a question (maybe tmi). Embryo transfer was 4 Nov (ie a week ago). OTD is Thursday 16 (this Thurs).

If I weren’t pregnant my period would usually come today. I have just had some very limited brownish discharge. Anyone experienced this?

Hoping it’s just the meds messing up my body... but a bit scared and weepy if I’m honest.

Fingers crossed for you london x

@LondonGirl80 deep breaths darling.
Are you on Crinone Gel? That can give a discharge.

@Mandy002 I am going to start my hypnosis CD after FET - which helps you get through the 2WW. It is by Helen McPherson.

Thanks kwick I’ll give that a go when the time comes. Good luck to you x

London - could be implantation or just old stuff coming out.
I didn’t have anything like that- had more creamy sticky cm fluid during last week but think it’s pretty normal to have something with implantation.
If you had ivf only a week ago your cycle would unlikely to stay the same, ie af would most likely be delayed. Keeping everything crossed x

Crossing everything for you london, I didn't have IVF so it's probably different but this time I had some brown/pink spotting for a day or so (which after last time freaked me right out!) But it stopped after a day. Sending all the luck!

So sorry to hear of your BFN late. Nothing we can say except that we are all hoping that 2018 will be our years.
London. It could be so many things. I guess it's easier said than done but try to not dwell on it too much until official test day. So hard I know.
I found the free bits of the calm app to be helpful for mindfulness and also like the sleep stories to stop me overthinking and not sleeping.

I have recently downloaded an app called “Aura” - which gives me a free 3 minute mindfulness session each day (you can pay to upgrade to get longer sessions and unlimited times).

Hi does anyone know how to access PMs on here? I had an email saying I had one the other day and can’t figure out how to see it.

I think PMs are only accessible via the website, not the app - which is a bit of a pain

Thanks pez how do u do it on there?

@Mandy002 if you are in the app and click on “Topics” then the right hand menu icon you will get the screen below, click on Policies and you will be able to access your InBox

late I’m so sorry.xxx

Thanks quick found it x

Thanks for the support & suggestions Mandy, kwik, Pickle, Wish, and Munro.

I’ve been taking your advice & chilling out - helped by being on a long-booked (but perfectly timed!) holiday in the sun with the missus.

No further spotting to speak of thank goodness, so feeling much better. Just putting it all out of my mind and resting up!

OTD is Thursday. I’ll still be here, so my consolation if it’s bfn will be wine with dinner that night!

Hello lovely ladies

I've been AWOL for so long now that I've completely lost what's going on, but I'm going to try my best to catch up. Might take me a while though

Everything here has been so hectic the last few months. Every plan I had baby wise has completely been put on the back burner and I'm gutted because I'm itching to get started but it just hasn't been possible. I'm really hoping that at some point next year I'll be able to start... This year has been a complete waste of time in all shapes and forms so fingers crossed next year is better!

How's everyone doing? I've missed you ladies!

@CautionHormone so nice to have you back!!! I have PMed you 😘

Welcome back caution I have been wondering how you have been. Hope you are doing ok, what’s your new plan?

Hi all, I am 45. Been TTC for the last 4 years. Have had 4 miscarriages (natural conception) as well as two failed IVF PGS procedures. Chromosomal abnormalities. DH has been tested and he is in a good shape – I am the problem. Bad old eggs. Sad, I must admit. I am considering trying another round of IVF PGS. I have read about donor cytoplasmic transfer – or what the press calls: 3-parent-babies. They take the protein/embryo from DH and I - and inject it into the mitochondria of a donor egg. So if successful – the baby may have 5-15 per cent DNA of the donor egg – but the rest is us. It is not available in the EU – but available in the following 3 clinics:

nadiyaclinic.com/news/worlds-first-baby-with-dna-of-three-parents-was-born-in-ukraine-after-using-the-pronuclear-transfer/

www.fertimed.cz/en/infertility-cytoplasmic-transfer/

www.northcyprusivf.com/treatments/cytoplasmic-transfer/

The BBC has covered the story – so I reckon it’s a matter of time before it becomes available here:
www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-38648981

Has anyone tried cytoplasmic transfer or considered trying it? Looking for thoughts, guidance and personal experiences....Thank you!

Welcome @SuzieBergman123 !!!
I am very sorry to hear of the hard road you have been on so far.
I had not heard of the below - very interesting.
I am just about to have (well hopefully and in a few days) a FET using donor eggs and donor magic potion.
I thought I would not be comfortable about this choice but you know cytogenetics rock 🤟🏼 and I also am a great believer in nuture over nature.
Best of luck with your journey.

Hi suzie. I was aware of this for use in cases of mitochondrial disease but not for infertility so definitely no expert. What I don't understand is how they expect it to help you given that your previous problems have been with chromosomal abnormalities. Did they discuss this with you?

My lining scan went well and now I am just waiting to hear back from IVI so I can book flights.

So, stupidly tested two days before OTD. BFN. Will test again tomorrow & thurs, which is my OTD. Everyone telling me to keep chin up, lots of stories of negative results before pregnancies... No AF yet. We’ll see.