#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 8

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2886793--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-All-welcome-Thread-7
And the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6
Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI
We also have a weight loss spin off thread:www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Sounds like a really relaxing and positive experience paisley. Good luck in your TWW, hopefully i'll be joining you soon

Good luck paisley - just so you know I didn't eat pineapple the second iui as I couldn't stomach it again and I conceived xx

Good luck kwick and lrd today xxxxx

Stork - yay!! So glad you had a positive experience with CRGW... It's nice to know the instincts I had about them were right! Good to know about the Premier Inn & Beefeater... Will hopefully help me find it, too! when are you starting?

Thanks for all the welcome back wished guys feels like I've never been away! apart from the 5000 pages I had to read

Pez - bless you 😂 Phantom wisdom teeth!! Mine are definitely gone and I have the pain to prove it 😩

Phoenix - all of them? 😳 How did you cope?! I'm going back to the dentist when they can fit me in... Couldn't get in this morning

Good luck today Kwick and LRD

Paisley yay! That's great news and sounds like a really positive experience... Here's to the TWOT! X

Great news @PaisleyBE !!!
You should eat the pineapple - not drink juice - as you need to eat the core, which has the all important supplement in it. When you get back to UK but a fresh pineapple 🍍 and peel it and divide into 5 and then eat a fifth each day.
I am not sure how much good it does - but like all things on my "patent pending" 2WW list - it us about feeling I am able to add something to the process - if it "works" then yay! if it does not then it was not meant to be but not my fault.

Yayyy glad it was a good experience paisley eeek you are officially in tww

Okay so a bit of a hectic afternoon - including IVI appointment, trip to A&E to make sure mum ok and now on bus to go to new Slimming World group!!

Appointment at IVI went well:

• consultant VERY friendly, articulate and positive
• had scan done
• had bloods taken and - wait for it - she will ring me with results on Wednesday (nurses do this in CRGH)
• we spoke about different routes for donor egg treatment eg UK vs Spain
• am going to get CRGH medical records which she will use to provide opinion but given what I told her and my age donor egg/embryo looks like way forward
• BMI may be an issue but she is going to check for Spain
• she advised me to contact Donor Conception Network - as most recent research suggests that Mum that carries baby plays a much bigger role than they first thought
• all in all a very positive discussion
• she said she would send me a follow-up email - I already have it!!!!
• next steps: blood results on Wednesday, appt with Donor coordinator, then nurse appt for consents etc

But will most likely need to lose a shed load of weight before can start treatment.

Slimming World here I come!!!!

Very annoying about the weight but glad everything else really positive :)

Kwick, sounds like you had a great consult with IVI. Massive pain in the ass about the weight, though! Glad it was all positive. X

That sounds really positive Kwik! So nice when you feel listened to & heard!

Thanks everyone for the good wishes! It's really lovely to have you lot here.

kwick, so glad the consultant was nice. I can see the weight thing is annoying, but it sounds as if she's being very proactive about getting everything sorted for you, so that's great.

paisley - ooh! Happy waiting.

Very long day here. Went to the hospital, then to the clinic, then back to the hospital and just got home an hour ago. I have:

• got my CMV test back, and it's negative, but they agreed I can use the same CMV positive sperm my DP used as there's such a shortage of negative donors.
• got the clinic's conditional ok to start trying this cycle so long as my period didn't start by 5pm today.
• picked up my gonal-f (yay!).
• had a shitload of bloods taken on the NHS, rush order, at 8.30am.
• saw the consultant with the blood results in the evening, who's given me the paperwork proving I've no blockages in my tubes so I can definitely get treated at the clinic.
• got diagnosed with PCOS.
• got a plan for NHS follow-up of any pregnancy or miscarriage mapped out.
• got a load of bloods back that show I'm basically in good health.

I'm now just waiting on a repeat test for sticky blood, which doesn't affect whether or not I can try this cycle, only how they treat me during it. And no period yet! So ... tentatively, it looks as if everything's gone from 'ooh, you could try sometime in June' last week to 'now, now, now' this week!

God I'm bloody shattered.

(Plus I got an email in the middle of all of this from my editor saying she's recommending I get a book contract from her editorial board - yay! Not TTC related but a much-needed bit of good news at the point in the day when the clinic was saying I couldn't use the same sperm, before they changed their minds.)

Ooh LRD hope you can start this month :) think our shoes had problem with blood but can't quite remember what. When will you find out if you can get going this week?

Ooh just seen on hollyoaks kiwi is meant to be good for fertility-might have to pick some of them up along with the pineapple when next at shops this week.

I can start as soon as my period starts. Probably tomorrow. It's clearly on the way. I just had about 5 things to tick off before they'd let me start, and somehow they all came together today! With a lot of racing around, rush bloods and faxing things. The NHS consultant was so lovely, though - she was really reassuring.

The blood problem is just something they either need to treat, or don't - it doesn't make a different to me being allowed to start.

Will pick up some kiwi! Let's start a rush on it in the shops.

There is enough of us this month ttc to increase the kiwi 🥝 sales in the U.K. 😂
You must be so excited (&shattered) with all the emotions! So altho the tests were done with NHS are you still having private iui treatment?

Wow that all moved rally fast LRD happy days

Yes, very excited and very shattered!

And yes - private treatment. I feel so lucky to get the NHS testing. I had no idea it was available, and especially as I have a DD who is biologically my DP's baby. I didn't even know if they treated lesbian couples for this sort of thing (because you can't exactly ask people to TTC for two years! ). So I got referred to the NHS by my clinic and now I'm back to the clinic again.

bear - yep, it did! Could all go very slow now, though, so I shall let myself be very excited for a few hours and then I will calm down and be sensible.

caution I'm starting in June's cycle.

kwick so great ivi is proving a positive experience I hope this is the one for you. And yay to SW! I too am loving a bit more care and attention! I sent CRGW an email at 5:30 on Sunday, the consultant replied st 7:30 on Sunday. Amazing dedication!

Goodness me, it's been an age since I last posted, and I've completely lost track of where everyone is up to and how many newbies there have been since I was last on!

shoes so so many congratulations - I hope all is well and you are thoroughly enjoying this time getting to know the new tiny person you have created!!

For everyone else, good luck with all of the wonderful BFPs I've glimpsed on my brief scan of the threads, and for anyone in the TWW I wish you all the best

Wow @LRDtheFeministDragon talk about #makeithappen!!!
I hope you can start this cycle! Well done on book news!!!

Also - I just realised that this time last year I was in my TWW and now I have a little guy laying next to me babbling nonsense at the ceiling & waving his legs about whilst I try and come to enough to go and make another cup of tea!

You got this ladies!!

Awe that's so lovely hoping are you enjoying being a mummy? How is life as a single parent-can we reassure people that we can do it?

Being a mummy is excellent. Exhausting, terrifying and utterly wonderful. Unfortunately I can't reassure you as a single mum as I'm in this with my wife, however, having seen the determination that you ladies have all got I know that you'll be fantastic. Whilst there will be hard moments, they are just that, moments, & they will pass and be outweighed by the all the joys motherhood brings. However, don't ever expect time to use a hairdryer again, and remember that having a wash of the important parts with a babywipe works just as well as a bath when you're in a rush (for you - the baby is always bathed!!)

Ooh yes sorry I forgot what your circumstances were :)