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Common racist comments you hear in 2023?

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SleepDreamThinkHuge · 28/04/2023 06:48

Compared to 30 years ago, how is racism different today?

For me, racism terms such as the n word p word are less used than they were 30 years ago. However, people have looked at other avenues. See comments below.

  1. "You have a chip over your shoulder" every time someone mentions racism or their lived experience it goes straight to denial mode. You are blamed for your lived experiences and told to get over it and how UK is not racist.

  2. "The UK abolished slavery. slavery was a long time ago." Every time someone tries to put forward a view of reparations of people who are still suffering from the effects of slavery they are shut down. "that was a long time ago we have changed and evolved."

  3. "I feel like a foreigner in my own country." Which is probably one of the most stupid statements considering that over 80 percent of the population is white. I always answer if you feel like a foreigner how do minorities feel?

  4. "name the racists" commonly said for Megan Markle that she should name the racists she claimed in the Royal family. But lets be honest if you did that the other person in whatever circumstance would just deny it and ultimately you will not be believed and be called someone who plays the race card and tarnishing other people's careers.

  5. "Why do black people have their own spaces if white people had it we would be accused of racism" This is commonly said by the same people who are not as vocal when other groups have their own space e.g. women, LGBT groups etc.. It just seems like whenever black people have their own space people have to put them down. Take Ngozi Fulani the media made it seem she was the bad person people argued why her charity helps black people suffering from domestic abuse. Sad how she was forced out Sistah Space due to the abuse she faced but the media never mention that and the racism she had to face.

  6. "Racism exists in all communities" this is another common one used and is a whataboutery technique. We have seen this with people like Kanye, KSI recently but what people forget there was a lot of criticism from the black community with their actions. So to suggest the black community or any other community does not do anything about racism is for the birds.

  7. "My best friend is black" This is something you would hear from the EDL or Britain First. But you would be surprised how often you hear this by a lot of people. Just because your friend or relative is black, Muslim, Asian etc does not mean you cannot be racist. Even if you are a white mother and your child is mixed race does not mean you cannot be racist. It is baffling how a lot of people seem to forget this and think that my saying I cannot be racist because of this automatically means they cannot.

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Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:30

LadyKenya · 08/05/2023 18:28

How is it racist if a black, or white person wants to refer to themselves in this way? I am not sure I understand what the problem is.

Well try to create a Facebook group called 'white Kings and queens' you will see how quickly its called racist

DojaPhat · 08/05/2023 18:32

If it racist the other way around then its racist the way it is

This has to be a joke right...

PinotGroggio · 08/05/2023 18:33

And today's prize for "Not Getting It" goes to...

LadyKenya · 08/05/2023 18:34

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:30

Well try to create a Facebook group called 'white Kings and queens' you will see how quickly its called racist

You have not told me how that is racist though, which is what I was asking.

LBFseBrom · 08/05/2023 18:40

'Them' and 'us'. I recently heard, "Our children can't get jobs but 'they' can", which is basically untrue and quite ridiculous. The person saying that to me has two adult children who have always worked and I have one who has also.

Perhaps 'our' children would like to live in prefabricated accommodation and pick turnips! I don't think so.

foxlover47 · 08/05/2023 18:44

My daughter is called Bombay .... by "friends "... is she mixed with Asian
If not why is she so "tanned " and
You are you sooo pale

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:51

DojaPhat · 08/05/2023 18:32

If it racist the other way around then its racist the way it is

This has to be a joke right...

Well not at all if something is racist because white person does/says it and not when a person of colour does ,then I must be misunderstanding the definition of racism.
Discrimination based on skin colour.

Reugny · 08/05/2023 19:21

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:51

Well not at all if something is racist because white person does/says it and not when a person of colour does ,then I must be misunderstanding the definition of racism.
Discrimination based on skin colour.

You are.

Maybe you should post in an area of MN where your views are welcome.

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 19:24

I'm on a thread about racism pointing out some racism I have experienced yet it's not welcome...

Whattodoaboutpox · 08/05/2023 19:30

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:26

Imagine a white person referring to themselves as 'white queen' ...just reverse it.If it racist the other way around then its racist the way it is

🙄

Lndnmummy · 08/05/2023 19:33

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 19:24

I'm on a thread about racism pointing out some racism I have experienced yet it's not welcome...

Ffs

LadyKenya · 08/05/2023 19:35

I am done explaining. I leave it to someone more patient than myself.

Exchange230316 · 08/05/2023 19:42

If you ignore them then eventually they get bored and go away. You have to notice their style looking to pull you in them bam you realise they are not an advocate of this safe space.

LadyKenya · 08/05/2023 19:46

Yes you are right@Exchange230316 . I have better things to do with my time, then waste it with certain posters.

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 19:55

Exchange230316 · 08/05/2023 19:42

If you ignore them then eventually they get bored and go away. You have to notice their style looking to pull you in them bam you realise they are not an advocate of this safe space.

This implies you think I'm a troll.
I am not.
People seem to forget that racism is not specific to a race.People can discriminate and be nasty to each other from all walks of life.
I am going to leave this because it is clearly falling of deaf ears and this thread was created to peddle the victim mentality .This isn't an inclusive space and only opinions that match the ones on here are welcome.
Before you all post about injustices you experience just think about your own biased and racist opinions.
By definition racism is discrimination based on race, yet how many of you have expressed racist views yourselves.
I'm buggering off , but just remember
to check your hands are clean before pointing fingers.

Kanaloa · 08/05/2023 20:00

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 19:55

This implies you think I'm a troll.
I am not.
People seem to forget that racism is not specific to a race.People can discriminate and be nasty to each other from all walks of life.
I am going to leave this because it is clearly falling of deaf ears and this thread was created to peddle the victim mentality .This isn't an inclusive space and only opinions that match the ones on here are welcome.
Before you all post about injustices you experience just think about your own biased and racist opinions.
By definition racism is discrimination based on race, yet how many of you have expressed racist views yourselves.
I'm buggering off , but just remember
to check your hands are clean before pointing fingers.

I suppose your posts could really answer op’s question, couldn’t they?

Emmamoo89 · 08/05/2023 20:03

mexicanandafewdrinks · 08/05/2023 17:43

I cannot believe there are people STILL referring to a takeaway from a mandarin restaurant as a 'Chinese' its objectifying and vile

To saying to having a Chinese is not being racist.

PinotGroggio · 08/05/2023 20:18

Nothing like a white person who takes it upon themselves to educate us about racism, is there?

dontchaknow · 08/05/2023 20:33

I am white and of a certain age, and was brought up in a very racist society - I remember seeing those dreadful notices in landladies windows describing the kind of folk who need not apply for lodgings there. I believe that I am not racist, but I do miss out on what I think you'd call micro aggressions. I try not to, I really do, but I'm struggling with the Chinese takeaway comment - what should I call it then? Thinking about it, around here I could get an Italian, a Thai and and Indian. Though it's not Indian, the restaurants here are either Bangladeshi or Nepalese. What would be the non racist reference words then?

LadyKenya · 08/05/2023 21:12

dontchaknow · 08/05/2023 20:33

I am white and of a certain age, and was brought up in a very racist society - I remember seeing those dreadful notices in landladies windows describing the kind of folk who need not apply for lodgings there. I believe that I am not racist, but I do miss out on what I think you'd call micro aggressions. I try not to, I really do, but I'm struggling with the Chinese takeaway comment - what should I call it then? Thinking about it, around here I could get an Italian, a Thai and and Indian. Though it's not Indian, the restaurants here are either Bangladeshi or Nepalese. What would be the non racist reference words then?

Maybe try asking the people who you are referring to what they think about it.

HadalyEve · 08/05/2023 21:13

Same1977 · 08/05/2023 18:26

Imagine a white person referring to themselves as 'white queen' ...just reverse it.If it racist the other way around then its racist the way it is

Literally no-one says “Black Queen” !? It’s just “Queen”

Anyone can call female friends “Queen”, if gay men can do it, no reason why we Black women can’t. 😡

How many little girls are called “Princess” in western majority white countries? Is that off limits for Black girls too?

HadalyEve · 08/05/2023 21:14

PinotGroggio · 08/05/2023 18:33

And today's prize for "Not Getting It" goes to...

😝

HadalyEve · 08/05/2023 21:16
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This is only context in which I have heard “white Queen” and “black Queen”

Exchange230316 · 08/05/2023 22:18

@LadyKenya yes, trolls love to twist and gas light hence why I ignore them.

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