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Common racist comments you hear in 2023?

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SleepDreamThinkHuge · 28/04/2023 06:48

Compared to 30 years ago, how is racism different today?

For me, racism terms such as the n word p word are less used than they were 30 years ago. However, people have looked at other avenues. See comments below.

  1. "You have a chip over your shoulder" every time someone mentions racism or their lived experience it goes straight to denial mode. You are blamed for your lived experiences and told to get over it and how UK is not racist.

  2. "The UK abolished slavery. slavery was a long time ago." Every time someone tries to put forward a view of reparations of people who are still suffering from the effects of slavery they are shut down. "that was a long time ago we have changed and evolved."

  3. "I feel like a foreigner in my own country." Which is probably one of the most stupid statements considering that over 80 percent of the population is white. I always answer if you feel like a foreigner how do minorities feel?

  4. "name the racists" commonly said for Megan Markle that she should name the racists she claimed in the Royal family. But lets be honest if you did that the other person in whatever circumstance would just deny it and ultimately you will not be believed and be called someone who plays the race card and tarnishing other people's careers.

  5. "Why do black people have their own spaces if white people had it we would be accused of racism" This is commonly said by the same people who are not as vocal when other groups have their own space e.g. women, LGBT groups etc.. It just seems like whenever black people have their own space people have to put them down. Take Ngozi Fulani the media made it seem she was the bad person people argued why her charity helps black people suffering from domestic abuse. Sad how she was forced out Sistah Space due to the abuse she faced but the media never mention that and the racism she had to face.

  6. "Racism exists in all communities" this is another common one used and is a whataboutery technique. We have seen this with people like Kanye, KSI recently but what people forget there was a lot of criticism from the black community with their actions. So to suggest the black community or any other community does not do anything about racism is for the birds.

  7. "My best friend is black" This is something you would hear from the EDL or Britain First. But you would be surprised how often you hear this by a lot of people. Just because your friend or relative is black, Muslim, Asian etc does not mean you cannot be racist. Even if you are a white mother and your child is mixed race does not mean you cannot be racist. It is baffling how a lot of people seem to forget this and think that my saying I cannot be racist because of this automatically means they cannot.

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AnAngelAtMyTableWithMe · 13/09/2023 18:20

@HadalyEve2 this is not the first time I have heard this exact thing with a poc. we need to set up a way of contacting each other off this forum, and then we need to take this to the media.

PinotGroggio · 13/09/2023 19:02

I haven't deleted my account yet, god knows why, but coming back briefly to say I totally agree with @AnAngelAtMyTableWithMe and @HadalyEve2. Why are WOC held to a higher standard on here than white women who get away with the most racist remarks? We report them constantly and though the posts get deleted the poster rarely is. I once reported a thread that was pure fodder for racists and was told by MNHQ to just scroll on by and not to look at that particular board!

I had a quick look at a few boards today and I think Racist of the Day has to be the poster who said we need to stop talking about transatlantic slave trade as that's in the past and concentrate on modern slavery. And apparently the person to list to about that is Candace Owens. You couldn't make it up!

PinotGroggio · 13/09/2023 19:04

Reugny · 13/09/2023 12:25

How does one go about becoming a moderator anyway? It is quite clear that there is a need for black moderators on here.

@LadyKenya be careful - we may end up with a Kemi.

Or Candace!

HadalyEve2 · 13/09/2023 20:38

Lndnmummy · 11/09/2023 23:40

Please help make screen shots of this thread before it is deleted. I will be approaching advertisers/affiliates and othee partners of Mumsnet, including MP's

@PinotGroggio @LadyKenya @Socrateswasrightaboutvoting I am so sorry, so so sorry. This is horrific

Look at this thread and the Disney one linked in it as well
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4838748-mn-needs-a-closer-watch-of-fwr

HadalyEve2 · 13/09/2023 20:42

@Lndnmummy and this Karen thread too
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4880830-karen-advert

PinotGroggio · 13/09/2023 20:59

@HadalyEve2 I remember that site stuff thread - derailed by white women wanting to talk about trans issues almost immediately.

Lndnmummy · 13/09/2023 22:01

@HadalyEve2 on it! Also the Peckham thread. I am so sorry and angry about the way you have been treated.

Exchange230316 · 14/09/2023 05:17

@HadalyEve2

100% agree with exposing mumsnet.

Lndnmummy · 14/09/2023 10:37

Choking a black woman is not enough evidence of racism. There has to be audio available to make that conclusion.

i have heard it
all now

PinotGroggio · 14/09/2023 11:04

Stay away from the slavery and colonialism thread too...

DeeCeeCherry · 14/09/2023 14:03

Please help make screen shots of this thread before it is deleted. I will be approaching advertisers/affiliates and othee partners of Mumsnet, including MP's

I don't use advertisers affiliated with Mumsnet, because of the sheer numbers of racists on site. It doesn't sit right with me, in the same way I wouldn't deal with companies who advertise in the Daily Mail.

PinotGroggio · 14/09/2023 14:36

Lndnmummy · 14/09/2023 10:37

Choking a black woman is not enough evidence of racism. There has to be audio available to make that conclusion.

i have heard it
all now

I see that and raise you the poster on the slavery and colonialism thread who thinks it wasn't all bad because white people brought advancement, culture and innovation with them. I honestly don't know if that's a pisstake or not. But the post is still there!

Reugny · 14/09/2023 14:57

PinotGroggio · 14/09/2023 14:36

I see that and raise you the poster on the slavery and colonialism thread who thinks it wasn't all bad because white people brought advancement, culture and innovation with them. I honestly don't know if that's a pisstake or not. But the post is still there!

@PinotGroggio it isn't a piss take.

Remember the sewage report on race and ethnic disparities?

MCOut · 15/09/2023 21:21

@NewNameNigel It’s never ending really

Reugny · 15/09/2023 21:26

@NewNameNigel FFS!

I'm not looking because the same shit is repeated every few months.

Btw I'm waiting for a load of us to be banned mirroring the way the NHS treats whistle blowers.

PinotGroggio · 17/09/2023 09:55

This recent conversation here came after a poster was repeatedly racist to black women, and that poster has done this before.

And this poster is still all over the boards and also thinks she was victimised.

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PinotGroggio · 17/09/2023 10:59

That is appalling @GuanYinShanxi. That particular poster is not who I was referring to but I gather they are considered royalty on the WFWR boards.

GuanYinShanxi · 17/09/2023 11:13

Thank you for letting me know that MN has royalty.

I have left the thread and surprise surprise it has gone completely quiet with no discussion in my absence. It’s just goady posts trying to lure me back for more.

rosa17 · 17/09/2023 15:06

I'm Jewish and just coming on to offer my solidarity. I used to have an account under a different name but deleted after I complained to mumsnet about the blatant antisemitism on the fwr board - but was told it was fine because of 'context'. Given they are willing to tolerate videos from Patriotic Alternative being shared a while back it's clear they don't give a toss about racism - and don't even get me started on the transphobia and anti-LGBT bigotry tolerated. Anyway - once again solidarity!

drspouse · 18/09/2023 02:59

NewNameNigel · 15/09/2023 17:26

Meanwhile, in this thread white posters are suggesting that posters of colour should be tolerant of elderly relatives calling their mixed race children mongrels.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4760778-how-do-i-process-my-mother-using-racist-term?page=1

I did get one post that I reported removed but it seems to be a drop in the bucket.

Reugny · 18/09/2023 11:01

@drspouse it is a waste of time.

Also it is better if such posts are left up so newer posters/posters searching through google can see what sort of site MN actually is.

@rosa17 if you think any media organisations would be interested it would be worth taking screenshots of such posts and as much of the threads as possible (as MN will delete them) and sending the pictures to them.

@GuanYinShanxi makes no difference on the username.

Reugny · 18/09/2023 16:05

FFS they just never stop.

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