the safe and welcoming support thread for anyone affected by the loss of a child, a place to share, to shout, to cry and smile and to remember our beautiful stars and sunflowers

[crumpette]

This is a thread for anyone who has lost a child or been affected by the loss of a child no matter how big or small or how recent or long ago. We understand.

In memory of the light of my life, Lucia, and all of our little ones taken too soon. x

A thought that comforted me once
Eternal presence
glancing light
does not depend
on touch or sight

you never, ever forget...thank goodness!

Thinking of my sons who are not physically here - Gareth and Matt - love you boys xxxxxx

Hi all, still lurking, marking my place.

Coming up to Niamh's birthday, thinking about how to mark it.

Thankyou crumpette. I have found so much comfort here.

Precious memories of my beloved son Richardxx

Well done you Crumpette

Hi woolly, it's lovely to see you. Have you thought about what you would like to do on Niamh's birthday? We always spend the day together doing an activity/going to a place that reminds us C.

I must admit that I love my sons birthdays.....we always celebrate and try to feel as happy as possible. Its the 'remember days' I find very hard - even after all these years. My candle is burning bright - it smells so lovely - like the seaside - kind of warm sunshine and the sea....I sound totally barking mad now

Well done Crumpette ... you were top of my list for baton catchers!

Nice to see you Woolly - On what would have been Gregor's 3rd birthday we let 3 eco friendly chinese lanterns go up to join him in heaven "so he could look down and see them" as his big brother said to us x

Sassy - hope you're ok today xx

Morning girls xx

Morning all x

Morning Ladies x Feeling slightly more 'up' today than yesterday and a teensy bit virtuous too.... Washing done and out, dishes done, plants and sunflowers all watered, remembered to get DS1 out to school on time and with schoolbag..... what could possibly go wrong with the day

How's everyone else doing today?

Lighting my candle for Sassy and her DD today. I know how sad these days are but I wanted to say 'Happy Birthday Catherine' and I know my sons (and all our children) will be looking after her. I think that all our children will have met up and will all be proud of their families for working their way through this quicksand that is otherwise called 'grief.' xxx

Thinking of Sassy and her darling Catherine who should have been causing havoc and mayhem today celebrating her birthday. Love and hugs Sassy xxxx

I hope all our children are causing havoc in heaven.....I can just imagine them xx

PPM Dh came back with that idea the other day - where did you get them?

We are so pleased to have little Seren (nearly 3 weeks old now). She is completely different to Niamh which is really nice (Niamh and her big sister were carbon copies of each other as newborns lots of dark hair and olive skinned after DH) Seren has a tinge of ginger in her hair and is fair like me, it makes her absolutely her own person somehow.

xx

A candle is lit here in Sussex for Catherine xx

Huge hugs to you Sassy , I hope you manage to find even just a wee bit of peace today xx

Candle lit in Northants for Catherine.

I just had a random thought. Catherine's a similar age to 1 of my db's neighbours. If she's scared of motorbikes my matty will show her theres nothing to be afraid off.

I'm sure they are shabs. That time of the month where i need to start thinking of getting some Jack Daniels in. The post has made me shed a few tears this week. Only recieved post twice since saturday and on both days I have recieved something for the charity memorial event. Admittedly saturday's was the best. Recieved something from Manchester United (sorry for swearing at you shabs) and some bits for The FA too.

Man United sent us so much stuff when we were raising money - they were brilliant!

I can see all the older ones looking out for the little 'uns. Bet they have organised something for Catherines special day xx

Happy Birthday Catherine.

Acandle will be lit here for you and your mummy and daddy today xxx

A man united football signed by the first team and sir alex. Im happy with that... i wanna keep it i wont though

sassy thinking of you and your family today xx

I have lit a candle here in London for Catherine today and for her lovely mummy. Happy birthday Catherine, it is still your birthday today and we are all thinking of you with so much love.

Silly, I got really nervous about making a new thread!??

Hi Woolly, sorry i missed your question when i was on earlier... Have a look here: www.skylanternsonline.co.uk/19-metal-free-eco-sky-lanterns/ Think this is where we got them. We actually let them go in the evening before his birthday which was very moving. Was so pleased to hear about Seren xx

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Sassy when my grandson arrived this afternoon I lit another candle for all of us....told him it was Catherines birthday....so, in time honoured fashion, as only a 2yr old can do he sang 'Atchy urfday u u, Atchy urfday u u!!