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My husband died today

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bloodywhitecat · 27/02/2022 21:31

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

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Dimondsareforever · 27/02/2022 22:33

Sorry for your loss op

katmarie · 27/02/2022 22:33

To go out knowing that you are loved and cherished, and to be at peace, that must surely be the best way to go. After all that you and he have battled together you gave him that. I am so so sorry for your loss.

whysoserious123 · 27/02/2022 22:34

I've been reading your posts and my heart just went out to you when reading them. You are a strong person who proved that all the way to your DH. There are no words that could make today better. You lucky to have such a lovely relationship to cherish

Katya213 · 27/02/2022 22:38

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UndertheCedartree · 27/02/2022 22:38

I'm so, so, sorry FlowersBrewCakeWine

EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 27/02/2022 22:40

You advocated so well for him and cherished him to the end of this part of your journey together.

I wish you peace of mind and heart.

Coulddowithanap · 27/02/2022 22:40
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Tiddlesthecat · 27/02/2022 22:42

I am so so sorry to hear this. You sound so dignified and loving. X

Squiff70 · 27/02/2022 22:42

@bloodywhitecat I've followed your threads and posts for quite a while and I've been both heartbroken for you and full of admiration at your courage and tenacity in the face of adversity.

I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your husband felt he could let go in that moment, knowing how much he is loved. That is such a peaceful way to go. You stayed with him until the very end, giving him everything possible to make his remaining weeks and days bearable. In sickness and in health....

I pray you find comfort in knowing your husband knew how much you love him and that it was your arms around him when he needed you most.

You're a brave lady. Flowers

chairbumg · 27/02/2022 22:43

I'm sorry

Wills · 27/02/2022 22:43

Having lived with my partners cancer for 30 Yeats can only send understanding love, deep hurt for yourselves, love and hugs. Please let the good memories grow and the bad fade. So much love are we, my husband’s family are sending you/ xxx

Crikeyalmighty · 27/02/2022 22:43

So very sorry but your love and care must have been an amazing comfort to him x

Symmetryisoverrated · 27/02/2022 22:43

Flowers for you. My thoughts are with you and your DH.

WrongSideOfEverything · 27/02/2022 22:44

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

bouncydog · 27/02/2022 22:44

@bloodywhitecat I am so, so sorry for your loss. Words are not enough. xx💐💐

thesunwillout · 27/02/2022 22:45

I'm so sorry 😔. How beautifully you've written.
Much peace to you and your family x

bubblesbubbles11 · 27/02/2022 22:45

I am so sorry OP.
From the way you write about him he was very lucky to have you as a partner and I am sure he felt your love in particular in his last moments.

jowly · 27/02/2022 22:46

I really don't know what to write. Such a bastard bastard disease. Im so sorry. I wish I had some words of comfort, or could say something wise. But I can't.

I really hope you can get through this and find some sort of peace and happiness again one day xx

tunnocksreturns2019 · 27/02/2022 22:46

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vinoandbrie · 27/02/2022 22:47

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

Newgalintown · 27/02/2022 22:47

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

Queenie6655 · 27/02/2022 22:47

So sorry

Remembering yoh all in my prayers

Jedstre · 27/02/2022 22:47
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DrBlackbird · 27/02/2022 22:49

Flowers whitecat. So sorry for your loss.

certainshepherdpups · 27/02/2022 22:49

I'm so sorry. Like many PPs I have followed your threads and I can only imagine what an awful time it has been. Your love for him is so clear in every word you write. Sending good thoughts and virtual hugs to you.