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My husband died today

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bloodywhitecat · 27/02/2022 21:31

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

OP posts:
marriednotdead · 27/02/2022 22:15

It seems so trite to say that I'm sorry for your loss. But I am.
You've written of him so movingly and your battle to ensure he's had the best of care throughout has been fought with every ounce of love and strength you have had.
Fate can be so cruel, I can only hope that in time the pain you feel right now eases and your beautiful memories can sustain you Flowers

Cheermonger · 27/02/2022 22:16

I’m so sorry. I’ve read your posts and seen how loved he was. Sending you and your family, very best wishes x

Defiantly41 · 27/02/2022 22:16

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband @bloodywhitecat. I e followed your story from the start.

Wishing you peace and strength in the coming days

Squooka · 27/02/2022 22:16

Oh I am so sorry to hear this. Another one here who has followed your story.

You were both dealt the crappest of hands there but played it incredibly well. I have huge admiration for you both.

Wishing you peace and love

ladygracie · 27/02/2022 22:16

I am so very very sorry. What sad news. Sending lots of love to you and your family.

wintercandyland · 27/02/2022 22:21

I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight Flowers

Dwrcegin · 27/02/2022 22:22

I am so sorry op. Flowers

OhPumpkin · 27/02/2022 22:22

So very sorry 💔

7eleven · 27/02/2022 22:22

Deepest condolences. A friend of mine recently went through this. You’re not alone xxx

MatildaJayne · 27/02/2022 22:22

I’m so sorry. He sounds like a lovely, lovely man. It’s not fair. Thinking of you.

Thebestusername1 · 27/02/2022 22:23

So sorry for your loss the way you spoke to him at the end im sure give him great comfort

Bromse · 27/02/2022 22:23

That is so sad, bloodywhitecat, so very, very sad.
Flowers

Lorw · 27/02/2022 22:23

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. Flowers

godmum56 · 27/02/2022 22:24

May his memory become a blessing.

Tupperwarelid · 27/02/2022 22:25

I’m sorry to read this. Sending you and your families love x

EthelMerman · 27/02/2022 22:25

Sending you my condolences. You’ve been through so much together. As you mourn him, please look after yourself, take each day as it comes. 💐 And try to remember the good times.

JaffavsCookie · 27/02/2022 22:25

@bloodywhitecat so so sorry to hear this, he must have taken great comfort in your love and company.

sairiegamp · 27/02/2022 22:27

That's so very sad I'm sorry.

Cottagepieandpeas · 27/02/2022 22:28

So sorry to hear that news. He was obviously surrounded by love and knew that until the last moment Flowers

smartiecake · 27/02/2022 22:28

@bloodywhitecat i am another one who has been following your posts and have wondered how you are. I am so so sorry. It sounds like he passed very peacefully and surrounded with love. I hope that brings you some comfort.

Legalconundrums · 27/02/2022 22:30

God bless you, just shed a quiet tear xx

DoorWasAJar · 27/02/2022 22:31

I’m so sorry @bloodywhitecat 🌺♥️🌺

You’re a strong and wonderful woman for helping your beloved DH die with peace and dignity at home x

BadgerStripes · 27/02/2022 22:32

So very sorry Flowers

Goatsaregreat · 27/02/2022 22:32

So very sorry. Another one who has been in awe of how you tenaciously fought to get the best possible care for him and took on the NHS when it was failing him. Flowers

Amymamabear89 · 27/02/2022 22:33

I’m so sorry for your loss. X 💐