Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

My husband died today

237 replies

bloodywhitecat · 27/02/2022 21:31

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

OP posts:
Holothane · 27/02/2022 21:41

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐handhold and hugs.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 27/02/2022 21:42

I'm sorry he's gone bloodywhitecat Flowers but I'm glad he was peaceful, at home and with you at the end.

Icantremembermyusername · 27/02/2022 21:42

Flowers have been thinking about you since your first thread. My sympathies x

Ohmnomnom · 27/02/2022 21:42

So sorry to hear this. May he rest in peace Flowers

Itsbackagain · 27/02/2022 21:42

I'm so sorry, I've been silently following your story. He sounded such a lovely man. My condolences to you all.

dillydallydollydaydream7 · 27/02/2022 21:42

What beautiful words, i am so sorry for your loss 🌻

picklemewalnuts · 27/02/2022 21:42

Oh sweetheart. I've watched, on and off. ThanksThanks

SageRosemary · 27/02/2022 21:43

I'm so sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace and may you have your wonderful family, friends and memories to comfort you in the days and weeks ahead.

Staffy1 · 27/02/2022 21:43
Flowers
gettingolderbutcooler · 27/02/2022 21:43

I'm so sorry 😞

Bananarama21 · 27/02/2022 21:44
Flowers
Twinkletoes68 · 27/02/2022 21:44

I am so sorry for your loss, you, your husband and family have all touched my heart. Thinking of you at this sad time, God bless xx

daisypond · 27/02/2022 21:44

I’m so sorry. I’ve been following your news. 💐

zeddybrek · 27/02/2022 21:44

I'm so sorry for your loss xx

CheesusWept · 27/02/2022 21:44

I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds as if he passed surrounded with your love. Be gentle with yourself x

SilverOtter · 27/02/2022 21:44

I'm so sorry for your loss💔

Sideswiped · 27/02/2022 21:45

He parted from you in peace and love.
Never forget that you gave him that gift.
I'm sending you love and strength for the next few day, weeks and months.
I've been on several of your threads. Your love and care for your DH has always shone through.
Sleep now if you can, or at the very least get yourself into bed and lay down (that will, at least, let your body rest, if your mind can't). If one of your fosterlings needs to come into your bed, all the better - there is nothing more sleep-inducing that the sounds of another person peacefully at sleep.
Take very good care of yourself for now - you have been through so much, for so long.
I've already said I was thinking of you - I still am, as I'm sure many of us here in the nest of vipers are. Hold that to your heart. Xx

CaMePlaitPas · 27/02/2022 21:45

I'm so sorry. May he rest in peace x

shiningstar2 · 27/02/2022 21:45

Very sorry for your loss bloodywhitecat. Flowers

Velvian · 27/02/2022 21:45

I'm so sorry@bloodywhitecat. I've been following you too. Flowers

DrMadelineMaxwell · 27/02/2022 21:46

I am so very sorry for the loss of your lovely dh. Flowers

Northernsoullover · 27/02/2022 21:47

I'm so sorry. I have followed your story too. You gave him such good care and love.

Georgeskitchen · 27/02/2022 21:48

So sorry to hear this. Glad you were with him at the end. May he rest in peace xx

NeverChange · 27/02/2022 21:49

I'm so sorry that your husband has died. I've seen your other threads and that way you speak of him and the life you had together shows just how special you were to each other.

I know it will never compensate for having him here but I hope that fact you had time together and calmness at the end gives you some comfort.

Lemonweightloss · 27/02/2022 21:49

So sorry for your loss.
Sending love and strength ❤