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My husband died today

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bloodywhitecat · 27/02/2022 21:31

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

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KindlyKanga · 27/02/2022 21:32
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iRun2eatCake · 27/02/2022 21:33

Am so so sorry 😞. Flowers

CushionSpiral · 27/02/2022 21:33

Oh @bloodywhitecat, I’ve followed your story off and on. I’m so so sorry this day has finally come for you. You can feel the love in your voice whenever you write. So sorry x

GeneLovesJezebel · 27/02/2022 21:34

I’m so sorry 💐

ItsJustASimpleLine · 27/02/2022 21:35

So very sorry x

RAOK · 27/02/2022 21:35

I am so sorry for your loss.

Kaftankween · 27/02/2022 21:35

I’m so sorry @bloodywhitecat. I have followed your story over the months, you’ve been so strong. Take care of yourself. You’re in my thoughts.

GrazingSheep · 27/02/2022 21:35

Am so sorry to read this. May he rest in peace.

vodkaredbullgirl · 27/02/2022 21:35

Flowers So sorry to hear about your OH.

AbbieLexie · 27/02/2022 21:36

No words but you are in my thoughts. Flowers for you.

SpikeySmooth · 27/02/2022 21:36

Flowers Sorry for your loss.

Nosnogginginthekitchen · 27/02/2022 21:36

Oh bloodywhitecat, I've been a longtime lurker on your posts. I'm so sorry to hear he's gone. How are you? Have you got your smalls and children with you still? Wishing you much love and comfort today and onwards xxxx

Berries8 · 27/02/2022 21:36

I am so sorry for you both Flowers

I hope his calmness at the end brings you some comfort in time.

ElegantlyTouched · 27/02/2022 21:36

I am so very sorry to hear this. Lots of love to you and your family xxx

merrymouse · 27/02/2022 21:37
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BeanAnTae · 27/02/2022 21:37

I am so sorry. He was clearly so loved and how lovely it was that you could relay that to him in a special moment. Take care of yourself.

CorvusPurpureus · 27/02/2022 21:38

I've read your posts & thought how quietly, toughly determined you were to support your lovely husband. How much you guys clearly adored each other.

I'm so very sorry.

ajandjjmum · 27/02/2022 21:39

So sorry. Flowers Gin

DisplayPurposesOnly · 27/02/2022 21:40

So sorry to see this. Youve done an amazing job of looking after him.

NatriumChloride · 27/02/2022 21:40

Oh OP. I am so very sorry. Praying that your OH is at peace. Keeping you all in my thoughts. Xxx

Hedgesfullofbirds · 27/02/2022 21:40

I am so very, very sorry @bloodywhitecat, I have been following your posts for a while and have been quietly moved by your stoicism and courage. My sympathies to you, and your family, and 💐💐for you all

HollowTalk · 27/02/2022 21:40

Oh I'm so sorry 💐

Cocolapew · 27/02/2022 21:41
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chipshopElvis · 27/02/2022 21:41

So very sorry Whitecat, lots of love and strength to you. x