My husband died today

[bloodywhitecat]

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

I am so sorry. I only saw your posts towards the end, but they were very moving. You obviously loved each other so much. And however hard the last months have been, I am glad the end was peaceful and you could spend it together.

I’m really sorry for your loss. Words seem so inadequate, I’m sorry

Today we are meeting with the funeral planner. I am not sure if I have the strength.

Oh how awful for you.

They should help you through it.. ime they do make it as smooth as possible but stop if you need to and go back to it.

Thinking of you

So sorry to hear will find the strength. I was on auto pilot for a few weeks after. Here if you want to chat, vent, cry etc

How are you today, whitecat? It is an ordeal going to the registrar, I cancelled one appointment but of course I had to go eventually, with my son. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

I do feel for you, just can't find the right words but - bless you.

@Bromse

How are you today, whitecat? It is an ordeal going to the registrar, I cancelled one appointment but of course I had to go eventually, with my son. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

I do feel for you, just can't find the right words but - bless you.

Thank you for asking, you are right, it wasn't as bad as I was expecting and at least we have a date now. I finally heard back from the registrar today and now his death has been registered too, I have been waiting since Monday for a call from them (it is all done on the phone at the moment due to covid). I have ordered his flowers so now I just need to find something suitable to wear.

@bloodywhitecat, I hope you don't mind, but I've been AS you since your
DH passed away, as I wondered how you are doing, and I've found you here.
Don't worry about what to wear. It will come to you. If you have an outfit that DH liked you to wear, it might be that - don't worry about what anyone else will think, do what you feel is right. After all, you know Mrbloodywhitecat better than anyone.
I know that anything I might say will barely touch how you are feeling now, but know that you are not alone. I'm confident in saying that this lovely nest of vipers is with you all the way. Love and strength to you, to get you through the dark times.

I am so sorry

Just saying hello @bloodywhitecat. That's it, no more, no less, just reaching out to let you know you're in our thoughts

I am doing OK, the reality is kicking in. I am at DD's with the babies, the last time I was here without DH was the night before our wedding, Fos1 gave me a kiss earlier and I thought "How sweet, I must let DH know!" as he has never done it before then it hit me that DH isn't here to text. I am not sleeping well but we are upright and surviving.

I am expecting to go home to find his death certificates in the mail box and then I need to start looking at probate, he died will-less as the will he had written he did before we married.