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My husband died today

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bloodywhitecat · 27/02/2022 21:31

Five years to the day after moving here to be with me, on my son's 30th birthday my wonderful DH died.

He had had cancer, a stroke then the daft bugger broke his leg, he was so determined the cancer wouldn't get him despite it having a 3% survival rate and he was doing well until a massive stroke hit and all treatment was off. He died early this morning and spent most of the day here, in our home, surrounded by family doing family things. It was just me and him when he died, he looked for me one last time and I held him as he took his last breath, I told him he was loved and that his daughter was coming to see him today. For the first time in weeks he looked free, no pain, no disability from the stroke just calmness.

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Chloemol · 27/02/2022 22:03
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IsItTooHotInHere · 27/02/2022 22:03

Oh I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've followed some of your previous threads about your husband. He must have had a strong constitution to have coped with cancer, a stroke then a broken leg. I'm glad he's no longer suffering. You need to be kind to yourself now, and look after yourself xx

VivienneDelacroix · 27/02/2022 22:04

I'm so sorry.

Sweetmayday · 27/02/2022 22:04

I too have read your previous posts, I could sense the hope and love you had for your husband in every line. I'm so sorryFlowers

thesandwich · 27/02/2022 22:05

I am so sorry 🌺🌺🌺

Madbadandusuallysad · 27/02/2022 22:06

I'm so, so sorry. I have followed your family's story and think of you often. I will continue to think of you and your darling DH, now at rest.

TreatTrimTame · 27/02/2022 22:08

Im so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself Flowers

iamme21 · 27/02/2022 22:08

I’m so sorry x

Chasingsquirrels · 27/02/2022 22:08

I'm so sorry to read this bloodywhitecat, much love.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 27/02/2022 22:09

I’m so sorry bloodywhitecat

You fought so hard for him and to be loved like that is a precious thing that he took with him.

Your posts have been both inspiring and heartbreaking and the love you shared shone out.

I wish you peace to grieve and at least a month of sleep because that has eluded you.

I’m so very very sorry for your loss. Flowers

CandyflossKid · 27/02/2022 22:09

So very sorry for your loss x

Salome61 · 27/02/2022 22:09

So very sorry, my condolences to you and your family.

CPL593H · 27/02/2022 22:10

So sorry for you loss. I was widowed and the only thing I can promise you is that you can and will be OK Flowers

FarFarFarAndAway · 27/02/2022 22:11

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad he's at peace and that you were able to be with him at that time. Hugs to you.

Canyouhearmehello · 27/02/2022 22:11

So very sorry for you bloodywhitecat, I have also followed you and admired your resilience at the most awful of times. I hope you have family and friends with you at this very sad timeFlowersxx

dragonDan · 27/02/2022 22:11

So sorry for your loss

WingBingo · 27/02/2022 22:12

I too have been following your threads.

So sorry for your loss

badlydrawnbear · 27/02/2022 22:12

I am so sorry. I have read your story here. Your DH was so loved, it was obvious from everything you wrote about him. Thinking of you and your family.

catfunk · 27/02/2022 22:12

Oh op how sad, I'm so sorry. How beautiful that you were able to hold him so he could pass away safely and at peace. I hope that brings you some comfort x

RandomMess · 27/02/2022 22:12

Condolences Thanks

howardmoonseyebrow · 27/02/2022 22:13
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Fastforwardtospring · 27/02/2022 22:14

So sorry 💐

Tootyfilou · 27/02/2022 22:14

So very sorry Flowers. You write so beautifully and your love shone through. Thinking of you xx

TwoBigNoisyBoys · 27/02/2022 22:14

I have also followed your posts @bloodywhitecat. Sending you all my love and thoughts.

Xxx

Peridot1 · 27/02/2022 22:15

I am so sorry to read this. I too have followed some of your posts about your lovely DH.

I’ve no words except to say I hope you have people looking after you now.

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