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Oh my god ... Help me please I don't know what to do!!!

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Mummy2TandF · 29/08/2007 09:48

my dh went fishing last night and at 11:30pm I had a knock on the door from the police .... My dh has been found dead on a footpath at the lake They think it was a massive heart attack, a stroke or a blood clot but will do a PM tomorrow, I don't know what to do, I have my family here with me but it is easier to talk on here How do I tell my dc's? WHAT do I tell my dc's - they are only 2.9 and 10 months Will they understand, what are they going to do without their daddy? How will I get through the days without my dh? I know we argued etc but I really, really, loved him and now he is gone Help please

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jura · 29/08/2007 09:59

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MarsLady · 29/08/2007 09:59

I'm so sorry. Will keep you and the children in my prayers and thoughts.

LilyLoo · 29/08/2007 10:00

so sorry

InTheseShoes · 29/08/2007 10:02

So, so sorry to hear of your dreadful loss. Will be thinking of you and your dcs.

tigermoth · 29/08/2007 10:04

I am so very sorry. What a terrible shock.

I am relieved your family are with you. Have the police or hospital put you in touch with a bereavement counsellor? If you need to talk away from your friends and family, you could also try phoning the samaratans who will know of local organisations to help you, like a local branch of Cruise.

Take care

xxx

mylastrolo · 29/08/2007 10:05

mummy2TF I am so sorry and for you all thinking of you . Deepest sympathy to you.

Slubberdegullion · 29/08/2007 10:09

Oh God, I'm so sorry.

morningpaper · 29/08/2007 10:09

oh god what a terrible terrible thing to happen

we are all here for you, keep talking xxx

foxybrown · 29/08/2007 10:11

am so sorry

MaryAnnSingleton · 29/08/2007 10:12
  • that is a dreadful thing to happen - so sorry
flamingtoaster · 29/08/2007 10:14

Sorry to hear such sad news - what a dreadful shock for you all.

Bumblelion · 29/08/2007 10:14

Am so sorry.

Doodledootoo · 29/08/2007 10:15

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throckenholt · 29/08/2007 10:20

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You need to track down yorkiegirl - her DH died in a similar way a year ago.

One very tiny consolation to hold on to (helped me when my dad died in a similar way) - it was quick so he would not have suffered - if you have to die then this is about the best way.

I am guessing your kids are too young to understand much at the moment - the older one maybe a bit - just talk to them and say what feels best at the time.

harleyd · 29/08/2007 10:21

what a terrible shock
thinking of you and your little ones. you will find the strength to get through this for them.

AnguaVonUberwald · 29/08/2007 10:22

So sorry to hear your news, my thoughts are with you.

BandofMothers · 29/08/2007 10:23

OMG OMG OMG
Just seen this, are you ok.

Know thats a stupid question but oh sweetie, I know he was not nice, but noone deserves this.
((((((((((((())))))))))))))

inthepink · 29/08/2007 10:23

am so sorry, hugs and prayers for you and your family

happystory · 29/08/2007 10:23

Oh no how terrible. Thinking of you....

mufti · 29/08/2007 10:24

you will cope , because you have to.
praying for strength for you, focus on those lovely dcs.

nailpolish · 29/08/2007 10:26

oh im so sorry

i cant think what to say

nell12 · 29/08/2007 10:29

So sorry for you loss, my thoughts are with you and your children

fifisworld · 29/08/2007 10:32

I dont know what to say except im so so sorry for you and your family.

Pinkchampagne · 29/08/2007 10:35

Oh how awful, I'm so so sorry.

mumbleboo · 29/08/2007 10:38

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Ask your family to contact Winston's Wish for you- www.winstonswish.org.uk/ - they are a wonderful charity who will be able to help you to support you children and yourself through this. Thinking of you.