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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

OP posts:
SherlockLGJ · 28/05/2007 07:52

Oh sweetheart.

akaJamiesMum · 28/05/2007 07:52

Thinking of you Custardo. What a horrible experience for you.

YeahBut · 28/05/2007 07:54

So sorry, Custy. Thinking of you all.

DrNortherner · 28/05/2007 07:55

Oh Custy so sorry to hear this. Life can be just shit.

Sounds like you have 101 things to deal with. Hope you get the support you need.

Take care mate.

welliemum · 28/05/2007 07:58

So sorry custy.

if you need them.

I'm on the other side of the world, but maybe there's a MNetter or 2 nearby who could help with some practical stuff?

Thinking of you.

Miaou · 28/05/2007 07:59

oh shit custy I'm so sorry - what a terrible thing to discover. I hope you can find the strength to get through this - we're all here for you with any support you need.

harrisey · 28/05/2007 07:59

oh custy, coldnt not post when I saw this.
take care
xxx

Nbg · 28/05/2007 07:59

Oh Custy am so sorry to hear this

Glad to hear you have some support round you.

Kif · 28/05/2007 08:04

what a bugger

prettymum · 28/05/2007 08:05

custy{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}} so sorry to hear the news!!

MrsMills · 28/05/2007 08:08

Shit Custy, how unbelievably awful for you.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this

isheisnthe · 28/05/2007 08:09

sorry custy

rattleskuttle · 28/05/2007 08:10

sorry to hear this. take care

compo · 28/05/2007 08:13

so sorry to hear this
thinking of you xxx

amidaiwish · 28/05/2007 08:13

oh custardo,
wishing you lots of strength and courage over the next few days and weeks.

paulaplumpbottom · 28/05/2007 08:13

I'm so sorry honey

franke · 28/05/2007 08:27

So sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself and take things at your pace.

GibbonInARibbon · 28/05/2007 08:32

don't know what to post but had to post something.
So sorry.

crunchie · 28/05/2007 08:33

Oh custy you poor thing. {{HUG}} (I never do this on MN but as we have met you should understand )

shonaspurtle · 28/05/2007 08:34

What a horrible, sad ordeal for you. I'm sorry. I hope your mum's affairs can be sorted as quickly as possible and everyone behaves so you aren't caused any additional trouble.

ernest · 28/05/2007 08:37

omg custy what a horriffic shock. You must be in a right state. I am so so sorry this has happened. I'm sure you'll have plenty of people on here who'll help you, including me, if there's anything anyone cann do..... I'm so sorry

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 28/05/2007 08:37

Oh blimey Custy, I hope you manage to escape away from it occasionally - even if only to mumsnet.

lulumama · 28/05/2007 08:37

custy

that is the pits, i am so so sorry, that you are going through this, no doubt someone here will be able to answer any questions you have

I am very sorry for your loss

thinking of you

berolina · 28/05/2007 08:40

oh custy, I'm so sorry, what a dreadful shock.

winnie · 28/05/2007 08:45

Omg Custy, I am so sorry