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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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Lullabyloo · 28/05/2007 09:35

I am so sorry Custy.

We have been through the same very recently with my Uncle.
(((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))

Boco · 28/05/2007 09:36

Oh no Custy that just sounds so awful
Wishing you lots of strength to get through all those complicated sounding things you have to do - hope you find the support you need.

I've never done this before you understand but ....(())

pickledpear · 28/05/2007 09:36

i can't believe you had to find her how sad where were the neighbours they must of miss seeing her around etc thoughts are with you xxx

ThomCat · 28/05/2007 09:38

I'm so so sorry to read this Custy
Wish there was more I could do than just think of you.
Look after yourself.

Freckle · 28/05/2007 09:39

How absolutely dreadful. Did you know she was ill? I do hope you can get through all this with loads of support from family and friends and that sorting out her estate doesn't turn into a war zone.

Amapoleon · 28/05/2007 09:39

So sorry for you, what a terrible thing to go through. wishing you strength.

Hulababy · 28/05/2007 09:40

So sorry custardo; what a horrid experience you are going through.

Have you a decent solicitor helping you out? They can help take the pressure off and sort out the legal and financial stuff, as well as some of the other bits too.

I am sure your cousin really doesn't mind you being there right now. Sure they are only too happy to help you in this sad time.

Take care.

Rubyslippers · 28/05/2007 09:40

that is terrible - so sorry for your loss

emsiewill · 28/05/2007 09:41

Custy, really sorry to hear your terrible news. There are lots of people on here with experience in many areas who will be able to help you, so make sure you ask.

hannahsaunt · 28/05/2007 09:42

So sorry to hear this. Much sympathy to you - hope the whole situation becomes bearable.

NuttyMuffins · 28/05/2007 09:43

So sorry to hesr this Custy xxx

Malaleche · 28/05/2007 09:46

so sorry, what a shock for you all.

tortoise · 28/05/2007 09:47

Sorry for your loss. How awful for you to find her like that.

oops · 28/05/2007 09:51

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NurseyJo · 28/05/2007 09:52

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trice · 28/05/2007 09:55

What a dreadful shock for you. I am sorry for your loss.

soapbox · 28/05/2007 10:00

Custy - have just checked out some local self-catering places, just in case you need a bit of space once your DH and the other children join you!

a few ideas

Marina · 28/05/2007 10:01

Custy, what a horrible, horrible shock for you. I am so sorry XXX

Dottydot · 28/05/2007 10:02

oh god Custy - haven't read the whole thread but it must have been such a shock. So sorry for you.

harman · 28/05/2007 10:04

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JoolsToo · 28/05/2007 10:04

gosh what a dreadful thing to happen custy.

Wish I could be more useful but am sending cyber support in lieu.

iota · 28/05/2007 10:09

I'm really sorry to hear this, Custardo.
Take care of yourself

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KerryMum · 28/05/2007 10:11

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NomDePlume · 28/05/2007 10:12

Custy, how terrible

I'm sorry you are going through this.