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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

OP posts:
beansprout · 28/05/2007 08:45

Bloody hell Custy, so sorry to hear this.

BandofMothers · 28/05/2007 08:47

Some people were wondering where you've been.
Wish it was somewhere nicer than where you are.

Hope you find the support you need in rl and on here.((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))

Sugarfree · 28/05/2007 08:48

I'm so sorry Custy.

noddyholder · 28/05/2007 08:49

Custy I am so sorry.What a thing to go through You havr had a rough year.If I can help in ANY way this end let me know It is half term and sd is away so if you need to offload the twins or just need a break please get in touch xxxxMabs and dhw have my mobile number

colditz · 28/05/2007 08:51

I am so so sorry for you Custy - you must have had your fill already, then this awful news on top of that.

You will be in my mind today.

IntergalacticWalrus · 28/05/2007 08:53

Oh Custy, how awful. I am so sorry

MABS · 28/05/2007 08:55

another offer of help here, text me if i can do anything at all my love. xxxx

dejags · 28/05/2007 08:57

Good god Custy. That is absolutely horrific for you.

I am so sorry for the loss of your mum. You have really been having it tough lately .

You aren't superhuman, do what you can, when you can. If I were closer I would offer practical help.

Thinking of you you.

dejags
xxx

ggglimpopo · 28/05/2007 08:57

So sorry Custy. Stay strong.

toomuchtodo · 28/05/2007 09:00

so sorry to read of this custy

thinking of you

Pollyanna · 28/05/2007 09:01

custy, I'm so sorry If there's anything I can do, or you want to get away from it all when you get back, please get in touch (either cat me, or mabs/dhw have my mobile number).

Zog · 28/05/2007 09:01

custy, I'm so sorry xx

Ceolas · 28/05/2007 09:01

Oh god. So sorry

Take all the help you are offered. Now, and for a long time xxx

Idreamofdaleks · 28/05/2007 09:02

Blimey, how shocking, you must be all over the place, Custy.

Had she been ill, do you know anything about the cause of death?

Fancy your mum setting up accounts for the kids though, that is very sweet.

Clary · 28/05/2007 09:05

jeez custy, what a terrible thing.

So sorry to hear that you have had this terrible news and are having to deal with so much.

We are all here to help if we can.

Got to work but will check in later.
Cxx

startingover · 28/05/2007 09:09

Dear Custy,

I'm so sorry. My Dad died in a very similar way, if you need to talk.

It's amazing what I learnt as I emptied his house and kind of a sad way to learn about someone.

Be kind to yourself. Please let people help - it is all anyone can do and most really want to.

fryalot · 28/05/2007 09:11

oh god custy I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Have no practical advice to offer, but know that we are all thinking of you

JohnnyDeppsMrs · 28/05/2007 09:11

Oh Custy. How dreadful for you. I'm so sorry.

I used to work in Births and Deaths custy so have a little knowledge about how the coroner and such works. Give me a shout if I can help at all.

It's saggarmakersbottomknocker btw.

Thinking of you.

lou33 · 28/05/2007 09:12

oh custy i am so sorry

if there is anything i can do please get in touch

anything at all

hoxtonchick · 28/05/2007 09:13

really sorry custy .

SueW · 28/05/2007 09:16

Custy, i am so sorry to hear this.

soapbox · 28/05/2007 09:26

Custardo - I'm so, so sorry

I know how difficult things were between you but I am so glad that you went to see her last year, given what has now happened.

I am pretty good at all things financial, and will help you fill in forms etc if you need any help.

If there is anything else at all I can help with, then just let me know!

Good luck with the little ones!

expatinscotland · 28/05/2007 09:29

Custy, I'm so sorry.

((((HUGS)))

Megglevache · 28/05/2007 09:32

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