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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

OP posts:
sandcastles · 28/05/2007 06:35

Shit, custy! What a thing to go thru..

Sorry, can't offer advice, but couldnt read & not post!

{{hugs}}
sorry of you don't do hugs!

burek · 28/05/2007 06:36

Very very sorry to hear your news, Custardo.
Wishing you lots of personal strength to help get through such a horrible time.

Papillon · 28/05/2007 06:36

sorry to read this custardo your discovery after several weeks! and loss

take care

jellyhead · 28/05/2007 06:39

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eidsvold · 28/05/2007 06:39

so sorry to read this custy.

it will take a while for things to sink in - so don't be too hard on yourself.

cheekymonk · 28/05/2007 06:49

God that is horrific. As others have said, just hope you find some strength from somewhere to get through this. Try and give yourself as much slack as possible. Take care

MrsJohnCusack · 28/05/2007 06:58

custy how dreadful - really sorry to hear all this
will prob have no useful advice but hopefully others will

popsycal · 28/05/2007 07:01

omg custy - who bloody dreadful
thiking of you

suzywong · 28/05/2007 07:08

Bloody Hell, Custy

Aloveheart · 28/05/2007 07:09

God really sorry crusty. xxxx

sniff · 28/05/2007 07:13

OMG thats terrible, thinking of you

Earlybird · 28/05/2007 07:15

Oh custy, what a terrible shock. I'm so sorry. Please do lean on us here for any practical or emotional support. You know we'll do whatever we can to help. xx

LoveMyGirls · 28/05/2007 07:21

What alot to go through, just take 1 day at a time, don't worry about being in the way, i'm sure they're glad they are helping you in some way.

LadyTophamHatt · 28/05/2007 07:22

So sorry custy.

NormaStanleyFletcher · 28/05/2007 07:28

Oh Custy - how awfull for you. Just shout on here if you need anything and I am sure we will do what we can to help.

littlerach · 28/05/2007 07:28

How terrible for you.
Sos orryr.
Hope you get sem support.xx

ghosty · 28/05/2007 07:34

Oh my god Custy ... how awful ... I am so sorry ...
I know you aren't the huggy type but I am sending you some anyway {{{{{}}}}}

escape · 28/05/2007 07:34

Custy
i'm fairly new to posting and we haven't 'spoken' before - but I'm compelled to tell you how sorry I am and that you have to face all the stuff thta goes with this alone. You seem like a strong woman
keep your chin up and you will get through this practically and emotionally. there are obviuously some people on herer who can help you with the pracical/legal advice - I've been in asimilar postion myself
and wanted you to know how this has struck a chord
sending you all the best wishes in the world

FlossALump · 28/05/2007 07:45

Oh no custy. Poor you. I'm sure someone will be here later who will be able to help you sort through all the many things you have on your mind.

Please take care.

Flower3554 · 28/05/2007 07:47

Deepest sympathies Custy.

schneebly · 28/05/2007 07:48

OMG custy! What a shock and what a lot to deal with. You know we are all here to help you in any way we can.

SomeoneElseEntirely · 28/05/2007 07:50

Oh Custy, what a horrible thing, for you and her, and your whole family. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

NotQuiteCockney · 28/05/2007 07:50

Arse, that was me.

aDad · 28/05/2007 07:50

Shit. Sorry this has happened. I can only imagine the shock.

Budababe · 28/05/2007 07:51

Oh custy how awful for you.

You do come across as a very strong person but I know you have lots of down time too. Lots of people on here to help out either practically or just as a listening ear.

Take care of yourself.

Hugs - you need hugs at a time like this.