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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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edam · 07/06/2007 10:41

How are you doing today, sweetie?

HuwEdwards · 07/06/2007 10:42

just seen this - sorry Custy - am an orphan meself so will look out for this thread in case I can help any.

Rhubarb · 07/06/2007 21:24

She's having shit luck. Her youngest ds just cut his arm open moving stuff from her mum's house for her. They spent 2 hours in casualty waiting for him to get it stitched.

So far she has crashed her car; found her mum dead; had an expensive hanging basket she bought for her gran fall down and die; snapped her car key in half and now this.

Positive thoughts for her required please!

Tortington · 07/06/2007 21:32

thanks rhubs xxx thanks all.

cousin on holiday we are all together as a family for the first time in 2 weeks. bought funeral attire today for tomorrow.

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JodieG1 · 07/06/2007 21:34

So sorry to hear this. Hope you're as ok as you can be.

fishie · 07/06/2007 21:39

do take some time for you, such a lot to deal with all at once. my best wishes and hope it all goes smoothly tomorrow.

essbeehindyou · 07/06/2007 21:42

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Highlander · 07/06/2007 21:43

aw Custy this is awful . Thinking of you. Hope the legal stuff doesn't go on too long.

Spider · 07/06/2007 23:21

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Custy. Hang in there. xx

fortyplus · 07/06/2007 23:27

So sorry to hear this. How awful for you and your ds.

wrinklytum · 07/06/2007 23:29

So sorry.Only just seen this thread.Stay strong xxxxxx

ScummyMummy · 07/06/2007 23:33

Hang in there, honey. Hope ds2's arm is ok.
Really hope the funeral goes as well as it can too. Lots and lots of love. Been thinking about you a lot.

Spider · 08/06/2007 15:02

Again, thinking of you today Custy. What a tough day. I hope you're managing to hold it together and that ds's arm is OK.

littlepicklesmum · 10/06/2007 19:07

Have been thinking of you this weekend. Hope all went as well as it can Friday.

edam · 10/06/2007 19:08

Wow Custy, you are overdue some very good luck. Bless you.

Peachy · 10/06/2007 19:16

Oh no Custy, I am so sorry didn't see this before! i think I was away then.

Sounds like you're coping so well, not that i'm surprised. Be gentle on yourself though Eh?

Son's GF family sound pretty amazing! Thank goodness for epople like that at those ytimes- often the ones we least expect are the most helpful

God bless you (whatever your definition of Him may be)

dhw · 11/06/2007 11:33

oh custy, i'm so sorry - i haven't been on here for ages and I didn't know about this until the weekend. What a f'king nightmare for you all - i'm so sorry.

I hope Friday went as well as can be expected.

You are an amazing, strong woman and I send lots of love.

All the b'ton lot are here for you as and when you need/want us.

Take care
dhw
xxx

Tortington · 11/06/2007 21:56

thanks xxxx

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