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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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lou031205 · 01/06/2007 19:55

custy

just to echo everyone else. I will be praying for you x

unknownrebelbang · 01/06/2007 20:06

My thoughts are with you.

scatterbrain · 01/06/2007 20:07

Oh no - not you as well Tinker - so sorry to hear that as well !

Hope you are both coping OK ?

LaDiDaDi · 01/06/2007 20:09

I'm so sorry for your loss.

mummytosteven · 01/06/2007 20:10

very sorry custy and tinker.

allieBongo · 01/06/2007 20:10

i'm so very sorry. my thoughts are with you and your family

allieBongo · 01/06/2007 20:11

ditto for tinker also

WideWebWitch · 01/06/2007 20:11

Oh custy, I've only just seen this, I'm so sorry.

WideWebWitch · 01/06/2007 20:18

Tinker, thinking of you too.
Either of you, if there's anything we can do please let us know. xx

tortoiseSHELL · 01/06/2007 20:19

Tinker, sorry to hear about your mum too. x

FunMumm · 01/06/2007 20:32

So sorry to hear this.... what a dreadful shock for you

chocolatekimmy · 01/06/2007 23:13

Just back from hols hence only just seen this.

What a dreadful, shocking discovery and an awful week for you no doubt. There is so much to deal with and it all takes time.

My thoughts are with you.

chipmonkey · 02/06/2007 00:17

Custy, don't know how I missed this, so sorry for your trouble.

RnBee · 02/06/2007 00:24

oh Custy have just seen this. I am so sorry, how terrible. If you need anything, or just a chat call me x

babalon · 02/06/2007 01:29

I wish you strength and love

xxx

ScottishMummy · 02/06/2007 01:38

hope you find the strength and peace to cope with this very very difficult situation..so sad

UCM · 02/06/2007 01:40

Cust, sorry I didn't see this sooner.

Good luck Gal.xxx

mears · 02/06/2007 14:40

So sorry to see this Custy

talcy0 · 02/06/2007 15:09

Still thinking of you custyxxxx

KerryMum · 02/06/2007 15:12

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Lio · 02/06/2007 15:12

So sorry to hear about this dreadful situation - pls post if there are practical things we might be able to suggest things for.

3sEnough · 02/06/2007 15:18

Custy - so very sorry....lots of hugs to you and the family and do come and ask on here - loads of really useful ladies and lads!

xxxx

Tortington · 03/06/2007 00:55

thnaks guys. i think the legal shit will take its toll. funeral next friday. i have to register the death on monday - although i don't know what she died of yet. solicitor tuesday.

family have been highly excellent - still staying at cousins dh is staying at his brothers - i have a kid - he has a kid and the oldest is getting the train up thursday.

i just want to go home

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ScummyMummy · 03/06/2007 00:58

oh darling, I bet you do. You sound like you are doing an amazing job holding everything together. Remember to let me know if there's anything i can do. xxxxxxxxxxxxx

expatinscotland · 03/06/2007 00:59

Custy, ((((HUGS))).

Will be thinking of you on Monday and Friday.

I'm really sorry it happened.