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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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MerlinsBeard · 29/05/2007 11:41

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 29/05/2007 21:39

Custy - you have my email addy if for any reason you need somewhere to stay in North London.

I can get some info on tax/financial matters for you if needed also.

Thinking of you lady.

x

Califrau · 29/05/2007 21:47

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Tortington · 30/05/2007 07:30

did all the arrangments yesterday. cousin been amazing, dh coming up with children today.

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zizou · 30/05/2007 07:31

Custardo I am so so sorry. How awful for you.

noddyholder · 30/05/2007 07:38

Custy you are being so brave Let your dh and kids look after you a bit when they come.xx

ZacheryQuack · 30/05/2007 08:13

Only just seen this - I am very sorry for your loss .

FoghornLeghorn · 30/05/2007 08:21

Shit Custy, only just seen this. How awful

I hope things aren't proving too hard to deal with atm - what a shock for you, your DS and his GF

tissy · 30/05/2007 08:27

just seen this, custy. sympathies

WendyWeber · 30/05/2007 16:55

custy, I´m so sorry to hear this news XXX

(JanH)

ZacharyQuack · 31/05/2007 10:20

Custardo, I'm so sorry. What a terrible shock.

speedymama · 31/05/2007 10:35

I've just seen this.

Custy, I'm so sorry.

Chopster · 31/05/2007 11:07

Oh custy, how awful, I'm so sorry. xxx

bossykate · 31/05/2007 11:26

i am very very sorry to read this. how awful for you

fairyjay · 31/05/2007 11:39

So sorry Custy.

ledodgy · 31/05/2007 11:40

Oh God Custy i've only just seen this. How truly awful. I'm so sorry.

mumblechum · 31/05/2007 11:45

Just seen this Custy, how awful for you. Really sorry. You know we're all here for you.

GrumpyOldHorsewoman · 31/05/2007 11:59

Just read this and had to post to add my condolences - You've had such a shit time lately.
So pleased DH and kids rallying around you. You will come out the other side, you know.

jura · 31/05/2007 12:02

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edam · 31/05/2007 21:54

Hey Custy, how are you? Hope today hasn't been too nightmarish in the circs.

MegaLegs · 31/05/2007 22:04

Oh Custy - have just seen this - how awful for you I am so sorry.

Stargazer · 31/05/2007 22:15

Custy - have only just seen this message. So sorry to hear your news - it must have been such a shock. I know you don't "do" hugs - but at a time like this {{{custy}}} they are needed. Thinking of you x

Tortington · 01/06/2007 18:45

thank you. i'll have some qeuestions in the legal section if anyone has advice. thank you all for your words they mean so much x

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Tinker · 01/06/2007 18:48

custy - my email address if tinkerblush at a o l d o t c o m. My mum was found dead by her neighbours just over 3 weeks ago. I might be able to help, please email if you just want to offload whatever.

Tutter · 01/06/2007 18:49

good lord, have only just seen this thread. i'm so sorry custy