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192 replies

Sosks · 30/08/2017 14:43

We lost our first child on Saturday and it still doesn't feel real.

We knew he had a lot of problems and we may have only had a short time, but we didn't get even that. I keep wondering if I'd pushed harder maybe we could have had a few moments.

I keep expecting to feel him kicking in my tummy and there's nothing I want more than to hold him in my arms again.

We're doing a lot better than I expected but I still feel so lost. I just want to see my son. It was also my first pregnancy.

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NeverTwerkNaked · 01/09/2017 17:23

I'm so sorry you lost beautiful Henry.
My friend found the support of SANDS invaluable, I would definitely recommend you get in touch.
Sending a huge hug Flowers

SugarMiceInTheRain · 01/09/2017 17:23

He's a beautiful little boy, and love the name. Sending you and your family love and hugs xx Flowers

MadameJosephine · 01/09/2017 17:24

He's so beautiful, how utterly heartbreaking. I'm so sorry you've lost your perfect little boy, Henry.

Wishing you and your family all the love and strength you need to get you through this difficult time. Be kind to yourself and remember, there is no right way to grieve, only your way.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 01/09/2017 17:26

What a beautiful boy xxx

orangeowls · 01/09/2017 17:26

I'm so sorry for your loss, what a beautiful boy xx Flowers

AgainPlease · 01/09/2017 17:26

@Sosks I am so very sorry to hear about your precious son.

I lost my son too. He was born at 20 weeks, perfectly formed and healthy and breathing and nothing wrong with him. He died shortly after delivery. The hospital failed to pick up an infection I developed despite going to A&E two times in the two weeks before going in to labour...

He was an IVF pregnancy too so very precious to us.

I've been where you are. I've had to sit with the funeral directors and choose what colour casket we'd like (blue with silver handles), if we wanted flowers (yes, a giant flower display in the shape of a teddy bear) etc etc

I had to go to the registry office and sign his birth certificate. DH signed his death certificate as I couldn't bring myself to even look at it.

I've been there.

Please PM me if you're feeling lost or lonely. I'm now in tears reminiscing about my baby boy and the weeks after his death so can only imagine how raw it all is for you The pain will always be there xxxx

youarenotkiddingme · 01/09/2017 17:26

What a beautiful boy Flowers

Sleep peacefully little Henry.

Hugs to you. Nothing I can say will ease any pain but everyone is here to listen and hand hold.

Ilovewillow · 01/09/2017 17:36

What a beautiful little boy, I'm so sorry for your loss! Flowers

snotato · 01/09/2017 17:41

Your son is so beautiful.
I am so sorry for your loss.Flowers

DevilsAdvocaat · 01/09/2017 17:51

What a handsome chap.
So sorry for your loss x

midnightflowers · 01/09/2017 17:55

Sorry for your loss, he's absolutely gorgeous. Flowers

alltouchedout · 01/09/2017 17:57

Your son is absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for sharing his picture with us.

CryingMessFFS · 01/09/2017 17:59

Perfect little guy Flowers

MummysMaison · 01/09/2017 18:03

Sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. Treasure the few days you spent with him at the hospital. You will always have those memories. Sending you and your DH strength at this difficult time xx

whenyouwish · 01/09/2017 18:05

He's a little beauty. That gorgeous hair Flowers so sorry x x x

Minniemagoo · 01/09/2017 18:11

Henry is beautiful! So very sorry for you and Dh on your loss. Wishing you strength at this time.

0ccamsRazor · 01/09/2017 18:16

He is beautiful! my heart goes out to you, so very sorry for your loss.

Flowers and (((hugs)))

Ohb0llocks · 01/09/2017 18:19

He is just gorgeous. So sorry for all you're going through ❤

Bravas · 01/09/2017 18:26

Henry is just perfect, what a gorgeous boy. I am so sorry for your loss, truly wish you weren't going through this.

toopeoply · 01/09/2017 18:51

Oh my love,he is beautiful. Be proud. You'll always be his mum x

Milliemoo37 · 01/09/2017 18:56

Henry was a gorgeous little boy. I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Milliemoo37 · 01/09/2017 18:57

Henry was a gorgeous little boy. I am so sorry for your loss. Flowers

EllieFredrickson · 01/09/2017 19:03

Thank you for sharing the picture of Henry - what a beautiful boy. So sorry for your loss and thinking of you all xx

MadisonAvenue · 01/09/2017 19:04

Such a beautiful boy, I'm so sorry.

Thinking of you Flowers

bengalcat · 01/09/2017 19:07

What a beautiful baby . So sorry for you and family's loss . X