I am not going to give my baby a surname

[stewpid]

DP and I have decided not to give our new baby a traditional surname. We have issues with both our families and no desire to perpetuate their names with our offspring.

We have two inspirational friends who have passed away. They're names were Elizabeth and Anne. In honour of them our DD will have their names as her surname. So her full name will be Iris Poppy Elizabeth-Anne.

I know some people will think this is stupid but we think it is beautiful and meaningful.

Has anyone here done anything like this? What do people think?

Assuming this is real, I know a couple who weren't married and when they had DC they all changed their name to Champion.

I didn't think anything of it.

stewpid - try telling that to the registry office, also your DD will not thank you for having a name that you can't easily write down on a form. At some point, health/education/banks will NEED a family name. You might as well decide on that now rather than someone else in an authority deciding it for you.

By all means choose a new surname, but as it stands your DD will spend the next 90-odd years saying "no, it's just Iris Poppy Elizabeth-Anne. No, that's it. Elizabeth-Anne IS my surname. Yes, really. Oh for fuck's sake, here's my driving licence."

I am definitely real! My "stewpid" tag is not a sign of a piss-take, its the word DSS used when he heard our plans!

I dont think its stupid. I think its a very nice idea.
I do think you ought to try and make the last name of your child sound less like a 'first name' though to avoid her getting questions all the time and teasing.
No one will bat an eyelid if she has a different surname to you when she is a child, but people will say 'WHAT?!?' if you say she has no surname.
Is there anyway you can amalgamate Elizabeth and Anne in some way to make a proper surname?

MesJamin - we have checked and the registry office would be fine with this name. Elizabeth-Anna would be her family name. She would have one. And it would be a lvoely one commemorating two great women, rather than one passed on by generations of bastard men in her family line.

What were the surnames of these friends? wouldn't that make (slightly) more sense?

Elizanne would make a nice family name.

Honestly, i think it a ridiculous idea, she will have to go through school explaining why she doesn't have the same name as her parents

(i also have my doubts about this being real )

Using their surnames would undermine the whole idea. We are commemorating them not the bastard men in their ancestry.

Is the surname Elizabeth-Anne or Elizabeth-Anna? You've put both.

Sounds like a nice idea and I think the names sound well together.

The only thing I can think that might be worth considering is the amount of explaining you will be doing.

them - Surname please
you - Elizabeth-Anne
them - no, surname please
you - yes, Elizabeth-Anne
them - no Madam I need the surname
you - that is the surname Elizabeth-Anne

and so on.

I am not saying don't do it but be prepared to have that conversation alot.

I did read an article about a lady that changed her name to just having a first name. She said it was okay untill computers took over everything and they can't cope with an empty box on the surname bit.

Wouldn't it be simpler for your DD if you used Elizabeth's or Anne's surname, instead of using their first names for a surname?

If this is genuine then you're being a bit selfish and airy-fairy to foist this on her. Having two first names for a surname will, as ninedragons pointed out, be a massive PITA for her, and she will almost certainly end up changing them in the long run anyway.

Vine - I doubt anyone will notice she has different names to us. Lots of kids have different names to their mum or dad. However, we are keeping our minds open to changing our own surnames to Elizabeth-Anne.

OK, just saw your "bastard men" reasoning.

I think it sounds airy-fairy to the point of ridiculous.

By all means have 'ideal's just don't inflict them on your poor daughter who will spend the first 15 years of her life saying "I haven't got a surname though!" and every year after that saying "Oh, Gawd, my parents were daft twats, put me down as Smith, would you?"

If this is trolling it's pisspoor, not even remotely funny.

Barking
That's all I have to say.

But Elizabeth-Anne is not a surname, she will spend her whole life trying to explain that

Nice thought, but not very practical, why cant you use those names as middle names, then choose as Surname that you can all use

Why dont you give her Elizabeth as a middle name and just 'Anne' as the surname then?
It will commenmorate both women without mentioning the 'bastard men' and will be a lot simpler for her to explain that 'Anne' is her surname. It may still be unusual and sound like a first name but at least will be easier to understand than having 2 first names as a surname perhaps?

So there were no women in their ancestry, just bastard men?

riiiiiiight

So is your partner a "bastard man"? What if you have a son - will he be a "bastard man" too? How very strange you are.

Your daughter will curse you for all the administrative reasons listed above and just call herself by one of your surnames when she is old enough, I can guarantee it.

Oh ffs, cant deal with trolls and a hangover too, jog on

Did all of your school reports have 'must try harder' comments on?

I get the impression that the DP is not a bastard man.

"bastard men"

Well aren't you charming?

What about Folderol as a surname? Nice rhythm to it, you know trip, trap, trip, trap.