I am not going to give my baby a surname

[stewpid]

DP and I have decided not to give our new baby a traditional surname. We have issues with both our families and no desire to perpetuate their names with our offspring.

We have two inspirational friends who have passed away. They're names were Elizabeth and Anne. In honour of them our DD will have their names as her surname. So her full name will be Iris Poppy Elizabeth-Anne.

I know some people will think this is stupid but we think it is beautiful and meaningful.

Has anyone here done anything like this? What do people think?

OK. There is no need for those of you who dislike the idea to be quite so rude. Why is it so "barking" to question why we all commemorate generations of men, who may or may not be worthy of commemoration, without a thought. We think the logic of traditional family names is questionable, and in our particular families, offensive. Is that really barking?

Well I did think that but I didn't want to assume. So, assuming the OP is a man hating lesbian (not that all lesbians hate men obviously but this one seems to) my second question stands - what are you going to do if you have a son? Leave him outside to die like the Amazons?

Freak.

I know people who have changed their names for family reasons, its not that unusual

but using first names would be confusing for other people so I would probably use their second names instead, so Smith-Jones or whatever.

LowLevel - of course their are women in a baby's ancestry, but they are not commemorated in surnames as surnames are passed down the male line.

It is barking to come on here and think that everyone will agree with you.
You must have known that lots of people will think that you are not of a sane mind.
You are just spoiling for a fight.
The grass is always greener.

You're the one being rude about 51% of the population, stewpid. I'm not surprised your "dear" step son thinks your plan stupid - you've just told him in effect that you think he is a bastard. I'm surprised he only told you it was stupid.

How would you feel if a man told you he thought all women are cunts? Nice eh?

lots of people have issues with their parents, families.

With this in mind I would think of a nice new surname for everyone. She will spend her whole life explaining otherwise.

There must be so many lovely names you could have as a family? A name from nature, a name from a place that has meaning, a book author's surname, i dunno, ANYTHING cept more female names.

The idea itself is fine. The names chosen are not fair on your dd.

It is barking to assume that every one on here will agree with you.
You are spoiling for a fight.
The grass is always greener.

Because of her reference to "bastard men". It's a pretty fucked up attitude to have, and an even worse one to impose upon your daughter.

If it isn't a troll, I find it very sad and it will be a great disadvantage to the DC through life.

Oh FFS. I do not hate men. I love good men but I hate my violent father and DP hates his absent father. Elizabeth and Anne had issues with their paternity too. We are questioning the automatic, unthinking, commemoration of men in the naming process. We are not questioning all men.

How about choosing a surname from your or DP maternal line...look on census even. For some reason I'm pleased you had a daughter.

sorry, computer hiccups, didn't mean to post twice

Then why refer to men in general, back through the generations whom you know nothing about, as bastards?

You're a troll. Your dillema may be genuine but you're still a troll because you're being inflammatory and using perjorative terms guaranteed to provoke a reaction. That's trolling.

I see your reasoning for doing this, but I do think you should make up a surname that sounds more like a surname

Bethan would be better or Elizan as someone has suggested.

What about taking a female ancestor's maiden name?

Stewpid: no need for rudeness, you say? So is it not rude for you to have referred to all men as bastards?

And no, it's not barking to simply question the tradition of surnames passing down the male line. But that is not what you're doing. You're posting a frankly implausible tale of how you're going to challenge the "bastard men" tradition by doing something really, really daft that is bound to be, at best, annoying for your daughter.

Maybe thier fathers chose their first names. So, you could are still comemorating bastard men.
Silly idea, a ridiculous idea

I lol'd in RL @ By all means choose a new surname, but as it stands your DD will spend the next 90-odd years saying "no, it's just Iris Poppy Elizabeth-Anne. No, that's it. Elizabeth-Anne IS my surname. Yes, really. Oh for fuck's sake, here's my driving licence."

If this is real, I fear it may not be your best laid plan.

I have three friends in RL

Mr Charlie
Mr Jeremy
Mr James

They dont have all these problems of "I want your surname"
I wouldn't hypernate the name

Annelizabeth

you should all change though

if elizabeth and anne had issues, i think you are just passing on issues.

a clean slate of a name would be more postive?

Well honestly, I can see the whole feminist argument about male surnames and its not exactly a new idea so can't criticise your thinking on that one. Can't you see that using two hyphenated first names as a family name is a bit bonkers and extremely annoying to spell/ explain? Choose a decent female role model and use their surname to avoid the male hritage stuff, and use Elizabeth Anna as middle or first names. What about Curie? or Pankhurst or Davies? Earhart? (SP?) BTW still not sure if this isn't some weird joke...

Is it rally the hyphen that is bothering people. Would you all think it much better if she was Iris Elizabeth Anne? Or Iris Anne Elizabeth?

Or Iris Poppy Elizabethan?