AIBU? Will I get arrested

[mumlearningtorun]

I’ve just come home from a girls night in London and it was so fun… we left the bar we was in and spent £1000 on brunch in and when we came back the security wouldn’t let us back in. Even though you could book a reservation online.

I was a bit frustrated and said but we’ve spent money in here all day and went to enjoy the rest of our day and spend more? Someone went to check and then another bouncer came out all angry ‘NO REENTRY’ and I asked about 6 times to speak to a manager, which I was told ‘no’ I probably got a bit annoyed but I never was violent or used any threats.

as I walked away I said ‘we’ll spend our money elsewhere then’ and that one bouncer said ‘yeh do!’

my friend went back and felt the need to apologise and the bouncers went ‘don’t worry it’s just him’ and she said she looked at his phone and it said ‘White female, aggressive, police called’

sorry? I wasn’t aggressive, anyway my friend managed to rebook a table in there to prove a point and we went back 30
minutes later and they let us in and we had a great time.

I’ve been up all night, I suffer with anxiety anyway and the police called bit is playing on my mind- my friend told me stop being silly and stop worrying as I’ve done nothing wrong.

but me being me, I’m ofc worrying!

I think it's more about wanting attention than 'beer fear'.

I think "Do not argue with the bouncers" is a reasonable universal life rule, TBH.

Having a few drinks is normal being neurotic isn't

And it’s not possible to anxious and neurotic unless you’ve taken cocaine?

Honestly - if a bouncer cannot handle a boozy, slightly gobby woman trying to get in without calling the police he is in the wrong job. Police probably looked at that and fell off their chair laughing and went back to their day job.

No it isn’t likely.

Try and think of it like this - you saw the bouncer go over to the police van. The note he made didn’t mean he had “called” the police, it meant he had “informed” them that there was someone he felt was being aggressive and could potentially escalate, so it was worth noting and keeping an eye on them.

You didn’t escalate so no further action was needed.

You're not going to get arrested days after the fact for being a bit mouthy to a security guard.
Being a bit rude isn't a crime. The onus would be on the security guard to prove that you committed a crime, either with CCTV or with actual physical injury.

And for what it's worth, there's no proof that note on his phone was about you. Plus, how "up in his business" did your friend have to be to even see that?!

Going forward, stop drinking to the point where you’re seriously questioning whether you could have had a blackout and done things you can’t remember.

Let's look at it this way..... if they felt the need to call the police on you, they most definitely wouldn't have allowed you re entry later on, booking or not. Not sure why you would want to go back though, should have "spent your money " at another establishment if you had an unpleasant interaction with them already. Lay off the booze if you can't handle it. I suspect you were more mouthy and obnoxious than you remember.

Omg you've done nothing wrong and the police won't care. I would say he probably does remember you and probably won't let you back in. Some bouncers are on a power trip, I used to work at a club and the front door staff behaviour towards students was quite sickening.

Why? You won’t listen to anyone who tells you that, so what’s the point? Your anxiety is taking over. The more people tell you it will be fine, the more you’re working yourself up.

Do you seriously think the bouncer or police care about you being a bit mouthy?