AIBU? Will I get arrested

[mumlearningtorun]

I’ve just come home from a girls night in London and it was so fun… we left the bar we was in and spent £1000 on brunch in and when we came back the security wouldn’t let us back in. Even though you could book a reservation online.

I was a bit frustrated and said but we’ve spent money in here all day and went to enjoy the rest of our day and spend more? Someone went to check and then another bouncer came out all angry ‘NO REENTRY’ and I asked about 6 times to speak to a manager, which I was told ‘no’ I probably got a bit annoyed but I never was violent or used any threats.

as I walked away I said ‘we’ll spend our money elsewhere then’ and that one bouncer said ‘yeh do!’

my friend went back and felt the need to apologise and the bouncers went ‘don’t worry it’s just him’ and she said she looked at his phone and it said ‘White female, aggressive, police called’

sorry? I wasn’t aggressive, anyway my friend managed to rebook a table in there to prove a point and we went back 30
minutes later and they let us in and we had a great time.

I’ve been up all night, I suffer with anxiety anyway and the police called bit is playing on my mind- my friend told me stop being silly and stop worrying as I’ve done nothing wrong.

but me being me, I’m ofc worrying!

Another thing is bars tend to avoid calling police if they can as to many call outs affect license applications.

Sounds like you might have ocd and are looking for reassurance

Stupid comment. OP obviously didn't spend all that on her own. 🙄

Let’s not try and internet diagnose someone with OCD just because they drank too much, got gobby and regret it

Ignore this poster. A lot of women on here seem to have a huge problem with anyone having a drink. The amount of posts I've seen on here from women having a fit if their DP goes to the pub....

Do you understand that the police have to suspect that you're guilty of a crime before arresting you? What crime do you think they will suspect you have committed?

Oh you are definitely going to get arrested. They will probably call MI5 and the SAS will definitely be involved being led by James Bond. Helicopters and fully armed nato troops. Then you will be taken to a black ops site. Interrogated and charged with crimes against humanity and spoiling a girly night out

You are not going to be arrested- if being an annoying prick after a bottomless brunch was a crime half the women out in London on a weekend would be in court..

I hats the time limited bottomless brunch fad, it always results in pissed up groups in bars and streets early evening annoying the crap out of ordinary drinkers.

Being arrested is not the end of the world; nor, if it comes to that, is having a conviction for a minor public order offence. But neither is likely to happen in your case. If you can't deal with the anxiety, just don't be a dick in public.

For goodness sake. Why didn't you just go somewhere else

I suspect the bouncer was correctly concerned about the fact that the licence terms don't allow them to serve people who are already drunk.

If you get this anxious about what you do when drinking, you need to learn when to stop and go on to the soft stuff.

Babes, if it took the Met 9 years to catch the Putney Pusher who attempted to murder a woman on CCTV I think you’re safe 😂 how would they even know where to find you? What your name is? Your address? Also many phones get snatched, burglaries happen, cars get broken into, people get assaulted and the police do fuck all? Also I was friends a lot of bouncers back in the day, they would not have called the police on a woman being a bit gobby.

Hi OP to get arrested there needs to be evidence of a crime. Making someone in fear of their safety by yelling, getting up in their face, aggressively swearing etc might meet the threshold as they could be in fear of their safety. Any racial abuse is also a crime. Asking to speak to a manager, arguing, and sounding annoyed are not crimes you cab be arrested for

Do not think any more about it. He was just scaring you. Please put it out of your mind now!

Your friend was lying @mumlearningtorun his phone didn't say that. There is zero, zero chance that security informed the police about what you said.

Don’t be ridiculous.

Hmmm. So 15 of you went for a girls' night out, you had a great time in a bar, then you went out for three course brunch and cocktail, then you went back to the bar and had a long argument, then you went away again and booked a table and went back half an hour later, were allowed back in and had a great time, then you went to MacDonald's, then you went to the station, all by 9.30 pm.

That was a very, um, busy night, and there must have been lightning-fast service both in that bar and at the place you had brunch.

Are you quite, quite sure about that?

Literally, how would they get your details? There is no way they can cross reference one booking across the 100 bookings they had that day to know which table was yours and there is no way they would know that you are the one out of 15 whose details they have. It’s literally impossible. And no crime was committed anyway. It’s not illegal to back chat a rude bouncer.

Yes.

brunch was 1-3pm. We booked a table again for 18:30 and stayed for approximately 2 hours, we then left at 20:30, went to the station, got a McDonald’s and sat down for the train to disembark.

not sure why you came with sarcasm when I never said I went out in the evening.

You need to review how you were acting because if they already decided to ban re-entry, you or your group were excessively drunk and/or causing problems.

Quick someone call the grammar police!!

Theren is an warrant out there with your name on it.
Ok, I'm joking. Police here, drunk people get arested only of they refuse to leave a premises. Even then, they get taken home or in a safe place and de-arested on the spot, we are not wasting resources with drunk people unless there was an assault or something serious happened. Booking into custody takes lots of time and resources, do you realise how many drunk people are on a night out? You need to stop this spiralliing and need to stop arguing with people on nights out. Bouncers can refuse for many reasons including numbers, if numbers on the premises reached the maximum allowed they will stop accepting people for a while until others come out. Nothing happened and nothing will happen but be less of a Karen, please, is not a nice look.

Cocaine?

If the police were called about you why did they let you back in, why didn't the police come, and why didn't they interact with you?

Surely you can't still be thinking the cops are on your tail even now?!

The police in London are quite busy. I think they aren't coming. And frankly if they were, presumably you're no longer in the venue awaiting imprisonment?

And you are undoubtedly a lot smaller and weaker than the body guard.

Sounds to me like he didn’t like you standing up for yourself.