9 year old can’t come to play until he’s done the housework

[NotsureifIwantsummertobeoverornot]

Dd usually plays with a few children from our neighbourhood at the weekend. She’s just been to call at her best friends house. He said he can come, but only when he’s finished doing the housework (mum, dad and him seem to be cleaning)
Do you do this with your Dc, it seemed a bit sad for him or is it in fact good to start children early?
How much tidying/chores etc do your children do, of a similar age?
I ask Dd to tidy up after she’s had toys out and to tidy her room. Sometimes she does it without issue, other times arguments/complaining.

Where do you stand on this?

I used to do this with my dc, and my mum did with me. I think it's fine.

Is he scrubbing the bathroom floor and climbing up ladders to clean all the windows? Or actually just tidying his room?

Why on earth are you sad about a 9 year old learning to tidy up after himself?

I see nothing wrong with kids having particular (appropriate) jobs/chores, and not getting to play etc until they are done.

I also banned my 12 year old from going out the other day until her room was squared up. I’d been asking her for DAYS to do it and she just wouldn’t so eventually I said she was going nowhere until it was done. Took her all of half an hour.

I have 3 boys. The youngest is 9. If he’s got jobs to do he does that before he does anything else. They’re not stopping him from playing with his mates, they’ve just said he needs to finish what he’s doing first.

Sounds like he has a sensible set of parents tbh.

Homework and age appropriate chores before children go to play is responsible parenting. That 9 year old boy should grow up to be an adult capable of doing his own housework, laundry and feeding himself.

Does your child not have any responsibilities @NotsureifIwantsummertobeoverornot ?

Why on earth would you think this wad problematic (except that he's not available to entertain your dc)?

it seemed a bit sad for him or is it in fact good to start children early?

Lol @ 'sad'.

Kid has some chores to finish before he can go out to play.

Nothing sad about that at all.

If he's part of the family then his parents want him to take some responsibility for its functioning
I don't see anything sad about it. I had age appropriate household tasks as a child.

"I ask Dd to tidy up after she’s had toys out and to tidy her room. Sometimes she does it without issue, other times arguments/complaining."

And you'd let her down tools in the middle of tidying her room to go and play?

No he’s doing the housework with them. Dusting, taking rubbish out, cleaning windows etc.

Still chores. You make it sound they he's slaving away and the parents are sitting on their arse. He lives in the house , why shouldn't he share the chores

Sounds great to me! Chances are he won't become a layabout man-child husband because he'll actually have some idea of teamwork, and the effort that it actually takes to maintain a home.

No, she finishes it

My DD couldn't go out to play this morning until she had tidied her room. Though she doesn't really get involved with the wider housework

Calm down. I was just asking what others do, no need to be nasty in response? I don’t need him to entertain my Dd, it’s ok

Exactly what I was thinking.

I expect my similar aged children to help with these kinds of jobs. Why shouldn’t they? They help make the mess and it prepares them for real life.

I don’t plan on being the MN poster who starts a thread about their child asking how to use a washing machine 2 years after leaving for uni.

Nah, let the poor sod go and play. I never did housework growing up and neither have my kids. Everyone worked out how to do it and even share housework without a big stick waiting for them

Yes, same, I’m wondering whether to start with a few other chores or just let kids be kids until she’s a bit older

This is true!

Not seeing a problem here. Great to learn that the housework gets done quicker if everyone mucks in and does their share.

So what's the difference?

Is that not sad that he has to finish her housework before she goes out to play? Or is it only sad for other kids? 😳

This is true. What age did you start with them though? i’m not sure when is a good age?

The good age will depend entirely upon the child and their capabilities.

But sadly it often boils down to low expectations by parents, so they end up as helpless teenagers who don't know how to separate colours and work a washing machine 🙄