Is this Mumsnet for me? Shocked at responses

[Su9]

Are there no group rules here about swearing, bring unkind, basic courtesy?
Is there no admin or moderator, or is this the kind of group everyone wants and the admin is facilitating?
There are some great responses that offer food for thought, while several others are plain ugly.
People presumably write in for support and advice, so how on earth do they feel when people chuck these ugly retorts?
I'm deciding whether to leave or stay.

'Being a SAHM means to you are lazy and financially leeching off your DH, who absolutely could have had his career, children, home etc (with the 18hrs days and global travel) without you there as his linchpin.'

• yes, I feel like sometimes people have a valid point if someone thinks their childcare and housework/managing (which everyone should agree IS invaluable) is fully irreplaceable so their husband could never leave them. Obviously the presence of a mother and the household managing SAHMs do IS irreplaceable, but if a DH does want to cheat/leave and is very high earning he would presumably be able to pay for live-in nannies, housekeepers etc. So in that sense people should never assume that in terms of logistics their DH could never leave even if he turned nasty.

But people who devalue SAHM's role, call it leeching etc are horrible.

Perhaps they see and understand the potential value of MN but also acknowledge that its value is undermined by the excessive use of swearing?

I can understand that @Sausagenbacon but in some cases other mums come on here looking for advice, support or help with an issue. I see that but I can't help thinking that swearing doesn't really help except, perhaps, for the swearer. Surely we are all grown up enough to make our point or give advice (or not) without swearing? Does swearing really add any value to a discussion?

I am yet to see an otherwise helpful or supportive response to someone in need that has somehow been negated by one or more fucks. And honestly, if someone is going to dismiss an otherwise sound comment because of profanity, that’s their loss.

I don’t swear prolifically irl, and probably even less so here, but uncensored language has always been a thing here. It’s part and parcel of the site, take it or leave it.

@GinToBegin But unless you are the one seeking advice or support, how do you know the response hasn't been negated by "one or more fucks" as you put it?