Vinted buyers who don’t hit everything okay

[vintedannoyed]

AIBU to be really pissed off?!

I sold an item for £55. Not an insignificant amount of cash. Everything was packaged perfectly and she’s said there’s nothing wrong with the item but won’t press everything is okay! What’s the point?!

People have lives. She may not have had time to check thoroughly.

I think the buyer took the piss in this particular situation.

As an aside Vinted drives me nuts with it's instantaneous reminder the very minute you collect / recieve your parcel.

Surely the vast majority of people need some amount ot time before they open their package? I'd prefer the first reminder to come say an hour after parcel is collected / delivered as there is much more chance I'd have opened it and the reminder would actually prompt me to confirm the order.

I find it so rude that people don’t do this

I’ve sold about £25 of clothes. Both have received orders but haven’t pressed everything is ok, so I’ll be waiting days for my money until they do. Just press the button! Both received this morning

Slightly unrelated, I buy a lot (and click accept within an hour), most sellers send quickly and i usually give 5* feedback. Am awaiting something being sent, today was the deadline and it was marked as being dispatched a couple of hours ago (no interim message saying on hols or anything). I feel like putting the feedback that it was slow sending, but it’s still in the Vinted rule - what would others do?

I’d be honest and say they’re slow.

They’re perfectly within their rights to send in that time frame. If you want instant postage, use a shop.

I collected an item and within minutes the seller was asking me to confirm, they didnt even send it particularly quickly. I needed to open it and check it first so just left it till I had time to do so. I would always click all ok as soon as I have opened the parcel but wld irritate me if a seller was pestering me to click all ok, if they messaged to say hope all is ok, if so please could you click that all ok when you get chance so payment is released then that is fine but pestering me immediately is annoying esp as the message was pretty blunt.

If someone chased me like this I would be something between bemused / annoyed and be less likely to click on okay or leave a review. Really, unless there actually is a problem, there is zero need for any written correspondence between buyer and seller.

I always go onto the site to click everything is ok once I’ve opened and checked the item. I also leave a review straight away. It takes less than a minute to do both.

Sellers on the other hand rarely give me a review back.

I don’t sell anything - I give everything to the charity shop - so I presume that people selling on there need the money.

Buyers pay a ‘protection fee’ on top of the item cost which is supposed to protect them if the item isn’t as expected, however I’ve read enough stories of this not being the case - plus buyers are expected to pay return postage for items not as described - to know that this fee is not what it claims to be (Vinted don’t appear to help once sellers have the money). It’s just fees passed onto the buyer instead of seller as with eBay, to encourage more sellers to sell on there. So the option to raise an issue before sellers get the money is necessary for buyers from what I can tell.

So the option to raise an issue before sellers get the money is necessary for buyers from what I can tell.

it's literally the point of Vinted.

There are posters above wanting the money straightaway without buyers having to click to confirm that everything is ok…

No, my point was that being able to raise the issue was the point, it's safer than Ebay.

However, people who are too superior to confirm it's ok once they have the package and checked are very unpleasant. How long does it take to check a tshirt ? They won't spend anywhere near that time in a shop.

Why playing some weird power game and finding it amusing that people have to wait for their money? It's bizarre.

Not at all.

Not really.

Oh that's me! If you send quickly I press that accept button straight away. If you don't think it matters then neither do I!

You really are reading much more into buyer’s attitudes and intentions than is warranted.
I have only bought and never sold on Vinted. I only have Vinted on my laptop, I have no reason to have it on my phone.
I don’t necessarily log onto my laptop every day, so whilst I might see messages on email I cannot just click to say everything is ok.
Quite frankly, until this post, it has never even occurred to me to click ‘all is ok’ as the messages say the payment will be released after 2 days. I’ve also never left feedback as it’s done automatically. The only thing I thought about feedback was that it was a good idea for positive feedback to be given automatically if there was no issue.
I use Amazon much more than Vinted and there is no expectation for feedback.
It’s got nothing to do being too good, or too short of time, and certainly not some sort of power game.
It’s just not something which I see as necessary or a priority, much in the same way that I do not respond to requests to review every interaction I have with my energy company or supermarket.
I don’t intend to change in future, with the probable exception that I will make more effort in the case of a large value item.

"too superior" and "power games" - FFS, it really isn't like buyers are sitting rubbing their hands together as they cackle over how much they're pissing you off

I work funny shifts. Quite often, stuff that gets delivered while I'm at work doesn't get opened til the next day. And when I do get round to opening my post, the main thing on my mind isn't clicking a button to make sure some random on vinted gets their money a whole 24 hours earlier! It's just not something I think about!

Why wouldn’t you if you’ve checked any everything is fine? What’s the point in withholding the confirmation?!

They might have picked it up on their way to work or in their lunch hour, gone straight to work and won’t have a chance to open the parcel and check it properly until they’re home. Maybe not until after they’ve cooked dinner and put the kids to bed. Calm down!!

and yet you manage to post on MN

I don't buy that people "don't get round to" do something. No one is asking to deal with it when you just collect from somewhere, or the parcel was delivered and you're not even home.

When you are finally home, it takes no time to confirm you have the item, which you do. Why shouldn't they get their money?

Kind of. That's a button that isn't pressed, and it goes with a load of other actions I just habitually do not take, to preserve my time and sanity. I don't answer unknown numbers, immediately blocking if there is a number to block. I don't give product reviews, even 30 second ones. I don't read push notifications or any marketing email. I have a full time job, two little kids, a load of friendships I really value, and wider, aging family. I like to stay fit and eat well. I'll happily spend 20 minutes making myself a nice lunch, mind you! My time is precious in this part of my life. I won't be held hostage by digital demands. The tiny ones add up to something much bigger. I have enough responsibility.