Need to uninvite someone from a girls weekend

[OITNB]

I’m organising a mums’ weekend away later this year. I booked the accommodation and invited a group from our sons’ year at school. No money has changed hands yet.

Since the invitations went out, one of the women has had major fallings out with two of the others who are coming. There have been a number of arguments and it’s created quite a lot of tension within the wider year group.

It’s now got to the point where several people have told me they’re uncomfortable about the situation. To make matters worse, we’ve just found out that a number of us haven’t been invited to another social event that same weekend because she’s staying with us. Whether that’s right or wrong, it’s made the atmosphere even more awkward.

I now feel I’m in the position of having to tell her I don’t think she should stay with us anymore. Her son is friends with my son, so I’m conscious there will be fallout. Equally, I don’t want ten other people feeling uncomfortable all weekend.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw the invitation before anyone has paid? If not, how would you word it?

I’m afraid you need to cancel and refund everyone and use the venue for an impromptu holiday for your own family. You can’t just exclude one person.

Also, if this woman is falling out with everyone left, right and centre, why is she still keen to come on the weekend and has anyone stopped to talk to her and find out if she is ok and what on earth is going on?

Unless it a party (obviously) I don’t get how this uninviting works how do you stop people going to certain places. No one would be dictating to me where I could and couldn’t go.

Well if she’s that much of an arsehole why why would you worry about upsetting her? Just tell her she’s uninvited without that wanky Chat GPT wording. What does “leave your place in the accommodation” even mean?

Alternatively I agree with everyone elee
stay out of it.

How come you’ve paid 50% of the booking without taking money off anyone else?

Exactly 💯 This was my 1st thought when I started reading thr OP!

There's no way you can uninvite her without upsetting her. If you're going to do it, be honest - "Your argument with X and Y has created tension in the group so I think it's best you don't join us."

Personally I'd want no part in this drama so I'd either cancel the whole thing or go ahead as planned and let them sort out their petty squabbles themselves.

Indeed my first thought also.

So have you booked and paid a 50% deposit on the accommodation or has everyone booked their own accommodation?

50s? I thought this was some over zealous yummy mummy primary school thing. Jesus. Who wants this drama in their 50s.

This. Definitely don't send that message, it is terrible. Imagine receiving that....

Jesus wept!
Mean girl behaviour really does last past the teenage years.
Do not send anything like this OP.
Cancel the whole thing, take a hit on the deposit or get the bickering suits who caused this ti chip in to cover it.
Grown ass women 🙄

Surely she wouldn’t want to come still

what a pile of horse manure. just sack the whole thing off. drama is for the telly

Lying is never the answer to any problem.

Perfect

I know. It's horrible. Just bin off the whole thing.

first answer nails it

This. Group holidays look great on Instagram. In reality they are always a shit storm of crappy sleeping arrangements, fall-outs, bitching and general shitty hell.

It all sounds awful!! A whole year group of mums going away??

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Definitely cancel the whole thing. You can't take sides.

That’s even worse. I thought they were younger parents. It sounds like a bat shit idea going away for a weekend with associates.
Cancel the trip. Do something else with the people you are closest too. She might sue you for exclusion.

Legal proceedings over another holiday. Dear lord, avoid this! You'll lose money, but keep your sanity.

😂 as if … (I know you’re being sarcastic!).

To add - can’t believe you’re all in your 50s w teenage boys in 6th form - I thought the kids would be primary school aged so they needed their mums to facilitate the friendships.