Need to uninvite someone from a girls weekend

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I’m organising a mums’ weekend away later this year. I booked the accommodation and invited a group from our sons’ year at school. No money has changed hands yet.

Since the invitations went out, one of the women has had major fallings out with two of the others who are coming. There have been a number of arguments and it’s created quite a lot of tension within the wider year group.

It’s now got to the point where several people have told me they’re uncomfortable about the situation. To make matters worse, we’ve just found out that a number of us haven’t been invited to another social event that same weekend because she’s staying with us. Whether that’s right or wrong, it’s made the atmosphere even more awkward.

I now feel I’m in the position of having to tell her I don’t think she should stay with us anymore. Her son is friends with my son, so I’m conscious there will be fallout. Equally, I don’t want ten other people feeling uncomfortable all weekend.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw the invitation before anyone has paid? If not, how would you word it?

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I dont understand. If everyone has booked their own accommodation eg hotel rooms, how does it impact on uou financially if she goes or not?

I don't think I would withdraw the invitation. Everyone is an adult and is responsible for handling their own emotions. Not your job.

There's certainly no lack of drama, wherever this school may be, that's for sure.

I'd book it and take a big tub of popcorn and a bottle of wine. I'd then sit back and enjoy the show unfold before me.

All jokes aside, this is their problem to deal with not yours. They are making you the scapegoat and expecting you to clean up their mess.

If you're going to exclude one woman then you really need to exclude all the women involved in the tiff to make it fair.

There's 2 sides to every story.

I just feel like she's done nothing to you directly, so what's the problem. I also find it really cringe that you're so focused on your social standing in your group (upset about not being invited to stuff), that you are willing to tell this person they can't stay with you. You're going to ruin your son's friendship for no reason also. This is the exact reason I ignore the other mums when I do the school run, too clicky and full of shit. Give me a group of blokes any day of the week, this would never happen.

Sounds like Waterloo Road🤣🤣🤣

I’d tell the others that your sons are friends so you don’t feel comfortable uninviting her, maybe pop in the group chat that Sophie and Sally are taking over the organisation of said trip (with their agreement) and then get them to uninvite her since they’re the ones that have fallen out with her…. Then they can remove her from the chat and you can continue to ‘help’ with planning?!
that way she’s uninvited but it doesn’t fall on you!

I would not be going on this at all. I would cancel. In fact I would never have agreed to it at all. These are kids friends parents not your besties. Anyway, sounds like you are going to send a message and uninvite her whatever people are saying about how you should cancel. That’s really mean and has Clueless vibes and I think you all need to retake years 8 to 11 and grow up properly this time.

Do not uninvite one person. None of you will enjoy this event. Others have suggested go ahead and you stay neutral or find a way to cancel the whole thing. Reminds me of school as it is at the moment! If I was the uninvited one I would feel like a scapegoat and totally humiliated. Horrible.

"one of the women has had major fallings out with two of the others who are coming"

That really did leap out

You, the whole group, seem to have decided the other 2 are blame free

Of course there may be good reason for this but do be careful that you aren't joining a Mean Girl gang