To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

[NotTonightDeidre]

It's actually is DH being unreasonable. He thinks DD (15) should be happy to share a room with us all (me, him, DD2).

She doesn't want to share a room with us (she will share with me & sister, not her dad).

I can see where she's coming from but DH doesn't see her p.o.v.

It sounds like your DH doesn't want sex on holiday.

I'd be more worried than kids that age couldn't share a room!

what a stupid comment

What are her actual objections about DH? Is it him seeing her (chilling, various states of undress etc) or is it her seeing him (walking round in his pants , scratching bits etc.?

Would a suite rather than two separate rooms work? That’s what we normally book and while it does add to the cost, it’s not as expensive as two rooms. Basically one big room, with a partition wall in the middle ; one double bed and two singles.

People saying it’s normal to share, of course it’s normal and fine… as long as everyone is happy and comfortable with it.

We are the same! Think unless you are super rich and can afford separate hotel rooms for each of your children. We thought we were doing well booking two room! The teens had a great routine to ensure privacy when getting ready for two weeks.

No it's not maybe DD has her period and doesn't want to be in a room with male.

We regularly go away and all 5 of us share a room. Seperate beds for kids or sleeping bags on the beds if needed

Unfortunately as she is under age, most hotels won’t allow her to have a room on her own anyway, so it’s all a bit academic. Normally one of the adults has to share - ie you with her and DH with the other child. Sometimes you can get a room that you can get adjoining rooms but we’ve always had to blag it and say one parent is staying in each room.

We don’t leave home if we can’t afford our own bedrooms/hotel rooms.

They allow it when it’s adjoining suites or rooms.

Huge jump.

completely normal for families to share a room, particularly at that age.

what next, mum cannot take sons on holiday?

single dad leaves children in room alone?

bathrooms are for privacy at those ages.

Two adults a teenager and a toddler all sleeping in the same room is just too much. Everyone will get shit sleep, why do it?

You should see a professional if this truly worries you.

are you quite well?

What do you think happens if a teen has a period near A MALE? Which happens to be her dad, the guy who will buy her tampons and periods pads .

Some posters sound deranged.

Sounds totally shit

If your family dynamic is such that siblings can't be in the same room, it's not me who needs a professional.

I can see this both ways. I have 3 sons. Would the 14 year old rather not share with me? Probably. Can I afford seperate rooms? No. So if they want to go away they suck it up and get changed in the bathroom.

Depends where you're going.

Places like Disney are set up with two double beds and it's common for four to share. Its often the difference between affording to go or not.

It can be embarrassing for a teen.

I have a 14 year old and a slightly younger child of the opposite gender, and we always book for the 4 of us to share a family room, whether it's at the Premier Inn or on a longer holiday abroad. Both kids still say they prefer this set-up, but it may change at some point soon. If we were to move to booking 2 rooms though, the kids would still have to share despite being opposite genders.

My DD’s shared with us at that age, sometimes I managed to get two rooms but often it was a family room

How is it inappropriate for a family to share a sleeping space? I just don’t get that at all!

I don’t think your DH is BU at all. There’s no reason why your DD can’t share, based on the info given, as long as people can get changed in private (like in the bathroom) but even at that, what if you were all getting changed at the beach, would that be an issue too?

Ridiculous to expect to pay for a separate room for 15 year old!

I disagree. At 15 I wouldn’t have wanted to share with my dad. Nothing untoward happened. I explained to my cousin’s dh when their dd was about 13 that she no longer wanted to sleep in the double bed in their camper van. He just couldn’t see it. The van was sold within 2 months.

And I wasn’t keen sharing with my brother at that age. He’s older. We are all different.

I’d have had a problem, at 15, sharing with my dad. An alcoholic and all that goes with that. Has your daughter explained her reasons? Do you know what they might be, only you can answer.